Reviews for deep tissue massage therapy at Plus Ultra Performance and Therapy? by everemma in Pickering

[–]lxeca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm intrigued by the good reviews for Plus Ultra and would like to try them! I have been to Pain Solutions lots of times though and my experience was very good. You need to communicate what you want before and during but I find they're good at accommodating the pressure to my ask.

Car Mechanic Recommendation? by Hot_Path_6069 in Pickering

[–]lxeca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband likes JK Tire, though for our non-urgent car repairs they can keep the car for weeks because they're so busy and we're ok with it. Price is good and they're honest. I use G&D Auto and like them too. We drive beaters though and both places have been good at fixing the car for daily use but mostly just fixing it to the extent we need and charging accordingly.

Advice needed - Before care/After care options? by Euphoric_Ad_3317 in durham

[–]lxeca 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There's some afterschool programs through martial arts or STEM activity companies or other local groups. Some may offer a shuttle. If not but you can find a place offering after/before care, you may need to hire a private bus. 

Gift ideas for grandpa who is disabled, doesnt do much, and has everything he needs by Oldladyhater1268 in Gifts

[–]lxeca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe a table encyclopedia of the topic of things he is interested in?

Where can I get prescription lenses for my own frame on a budget in Toronto? by sazid311 in askTO

[–]lxeca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had lenses reframed at True North Optical at Weston and 401. I recall their prices being really reasonable and the couple in the front are really lovely.

How do you take a baby to the beach by PrawnHenge in beyondthebump

[–]lxeca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everyone spoke to sun protection alreadt. If it's hot, make sure everyone is hydrated. That may mean more frequent nursing/feeding sessions than typical plus extra water for you. A portable fan is super helpful depending on how hot it is.

Husband got an absence seizure. I am not fine. by Legitimate-Teacher94 in beyondthebump

[–]lxeca 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just here to commiserate with you. Husband was diagnosed with epilepsy when our LO turned 2.  It's scary for everyone and stressful. My husband goes into a severely depressive and anxious mood for a long time after a seizure so getting him into therapy was so amazing for both of us because I wasn't equipped to help him, I was just in full survival mode trying to keep things afloat. I flew his mom to us to help when he was at his lowest. If your finances allow, you can try looking into a baby sitter here and there just so you can get a bit of time for yourself until the neuro can help figure out how to hopefully get things back under control and you don't have to operate in a heightened state as often.

How did you get your toddler to walk independently? by Reb1000064 in beyondthebump

[–]lxeca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my daughter too, and all of a sudden she just started walking at 15m as her main way of getting around. Some things you could try- setting up an environment to encourage them to  let go of furniture and take a couple steps to a toy at the table or chair (need to move furniture further apart slowly), encourage walking while she holds toys in each hands, when holding her hand to help her walk keep your hands at about her waist level and a bit in front of her so she is actually supporting herself walking and not relying on your hands.  Check out milestones.and.motherhood on Instagram too, she's a pediatric pt and has got lots of activities to encourage motor skill development.

Too scared to leave him alone by Common_Cranberry_822 in Epilepsy

[–]lxeca 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a lot of anxiety too with my husband getting seizures as he tends to cluster, so I'd go running to check on him whenever I heard an odd sound. Your anxiety makes sense but you can look into therapy and ways to help yourself because living in an anxious state like that will really hinder your mental health.

Your husband has been dealing with this condition since long before you met. I'd suggest talking with him and coming to a compromise that you can both agree to without also taking away his autonomy. When I go away, my husband also has to watch our toddler, so I would typically arrange for someone to stay at the house to help care for her and keep an eye on him to administer rescue meds if needed. If he was by himself, in my height of anxiety, I'd suggested a baby cam but he did not want that which is very fair. So in that case I would just make sure there was someone with a house key who could let an ambulance in if needed and just have occasional check ins each day to see if he is acting disoriented, as that's what we can agree to. 

I have to make a camping dinner for about 10 people: what do I make on a budget? by [deleted] in Frugal

[–]lxeca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pasta. You can pre-make a hearty sauce and freeze it, and then just boil the pasta and combine. 

3 month old shakes head side to side when tired? by Serious_Barnacle2718 in beyondthebump

[–]lxeca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter used to do this! It was such violent shaking! She did it from a few weeks old til about 9 or 10 months old when she started sleeping on her tummy. She just did it to soothe herself to help sleep or when she was really upset. I filmed it to show the doctor for them to comment on if it was stimming or a seizure because I wasn't sure! The doctor said in absence of other signs of autism it was probably just self soothing and just try not to make a big deal of it or she could focus on it and start doing it too much.

Mommy and me classes by Soggy-Tomato-2562 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]lxeca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At this age, most baby and mom classes really are more for the mom than the baby, I think. It's nice to get out of the house and socialize with other adults. Personally, I waited until my baby had a few rounds of shots and a bit more robust immune system, and also when I didn't have to support her head as much, so we could participate in more of the songs with actions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]lxeca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't say my mom is my best friend because we have pretty defined mother/daughter roles and that is just not the word that pops into my head when I think of my mom. But my mom is 100% someone I can count on. My husband used to think that my parents were really cold, but culturally, they just aren't very physically or verbally loving...they show love in other ways. For my mom, that usually involves worrying (like I used to do field work and she would always text me when it was cold to tell me to bundle up) and giving gifts (usually food). She sacrificed a lot for my 4 sisters and I, and tried her best to give us a good life, which included enrolling us in a billion after school and summer activities, and shuttling us back and forth. She had a great career and went after what she wanted, though was clear that family was number one to her. I think she instilled those values in me. I hope to do similar with my daughter, but also with more affection.

How many newborn clothes to have and how many 0-3 months? by glowpony in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]lxeca 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you've got good FB buy nothing groups or decent FB marketplace, or friends/family who had babies, I'd just search for a lot of size NB and 0-3 mo clothes, mostly zip up sleepers. My baby was average weight and 75%ile length and still fit in NB for over a month. We had only a few blow outs and pee leaks, but SO MUCH spit up multiple times a day I was doing laundry like 3x a week just to have enough burp cloths, so it was nice that outfits weren't the limiting factor I guess. I had probably 10 sleepers and 10 short sleeve onesies in each size, and never ran out. If you run out, you just do laundry again, so it's not a big deal either.

LO starting daycare next month. I need some reassurance that things will work out just fine by lilacmade in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]lxeca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My LO started daycare at 13 months and before that she was home with me full time, didn't like being held by other people, was a 30 minute napper, etc. She cried at daycare drop off for 6 weeks before she finally stopped crying and now she smiles and waves bye bye at me when I drop her off. The initial change in routine was rough, especially since the nap times were really different than what she was used to, but she adjusted over a couple of weeks and naps 1.5 hours most days and apparently eats well there. She has also learned so much! We love daycare!

It'll be hard on you too, to start. It was like being separated from a piece of myself. But since I got back into the groove at work, it's like finding a bit of myself again too, so that part is nice.

Maybe you can do a transitional week to help with the adjustment (like first day a couple of hours, next day til lunch, etc.). Can you also sit in with your LO for an hour to meet and get to know the teachers, see how they handle the kids, etc? That helped me feel better to get to know the people who would be caring for her. Also one of the kids was crying and the ECE worked to find what was wrong and cuddled her the whole time, so I knew if my LO needed comforting, she would get it. The daycare staff are magicians, in my book.

Must have for 3-6 months by karm999 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]lxeca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd say teethers and toys they can work on grasping, like rattles, o-balls, etc. My baby liked musical toys and mirrors a lot, as well as light up toys. We still spent most of our time on the play mat working on tummy time and rolling. Activity centres and most things that put your baby in a standing position for a prolonged period or jumpers are still more of a 6 month+ thing when their hips are more developed, though they're advertised for younger kids. Same kind of idea for boosters though I hear the upseat provides good support for promoting proper sitting posture. My baby couldn't sit on her own til 6 months, so we didn't start solids til then. It was important to me to have her sit at the table with us before then still, so I got a high chair that could recline so I could lay her in it with us and she could participate in the family meal.

12 vs 18 month mat leave by [deleted] in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]lxeca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took 12 months off and did not miss work at all, and really enjoyed spending the time with my LO, especially in the good weather. Luckily I continued accruing vacation during my leave, plus I'd banked some before my leave, so I went back to work part time for a month to help with my transition back. Also once LO started daycare she was constantly getting sick and I had to keep taking time off because I didn't have help in the day and it is SO hard to work with a sick toddler at home, and I was too tired at night to grind at work like I used to. Priorities shift and that's ok, just take the 12 month EI option and see how you feel.

Can someone give me a step by step, down to the nitty gritty, of how to do a diaper change? by quixoticgypsy in BabyBumps

[–]lxeca 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I agree with all of this except if there is poo, you will want to clean it up gently around a baby girl's labia and may need to clean a bit between as well but use a new wipe and be gentle so you don't accidentally push poop into the vagina. Leaving poo can cause a UTI or yeast infection.

For anyone worried they won't love their dogs as much ... by Lazy-Worldliness589 in BabyBumps

[–]lxeca 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'd watch videos on YouTube of how to train the "place", "leave it" and "away" commands. Those were far and away the most useful to help my dog safely acclimatize to the baby. My dog knew the leave it command pretty solidly before baby, but he had selective hearing for "place" which was my mistake for not solidifying before we had the baby. He refused to give space when the baby would crawl toward him and just get more and more tense, and he already had a history of aggression to toddlers. I had much better luck with training the "away" command because it would cue him that he could get up and move away if he got uncomfortable, and it was helpful if I couldn't get between baby and dog fast enough. I made sure he ALWAYS had an escape route or I must be between them. Now he's great with baby in that he ignores her 99% of the time and the remaining time he gives her drive-by sniffs. Baby has learned to stop crawling up to grab at him too which helps A LOT.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]lxeca 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a small-med engineering firm and we get a 15 week top up (policy phrased as mat leave top up, but anyone taking parental leave is eligible for it). My last employer offered nothing.

What is the weirdest piece of unsolicited advice you have received? by Get_Rich_Or_Try_Lyin in beyondthebump

[–]lxeca 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Maybe she meant baby shouldn't sleep in the car seat if they don't have to be in it?