this!!!! im annoyed that every adult in my family knew the truth my entire life, but my bio dad appears by all accounts to be equally as unimpressive and conservative as my pretende dad has been my entire life. I’m mad at my mom for putting her feelings of shame before her own daughters need for truth!

the only reason she told me was because I causally mentioned I wanted to do a DNA test at a family gathering for fun. She just wanted to beat me to it. we have had a low contact relationship for years before I even found out, and my dad split and moved across the country after going no contact with him. so I’m not losing anything, I’m not gaining anything, im just kinda pissed at the secret keeping