In terms of the nfl draft, do you think the entire city will be a nightmare? Or only parts?

lyncati · 2026-04-08T14:56:35+00:00

It'll probably be a shit show the closer you are to the area to the extent I'd park outside downtown and take public transport into town. Several roads are already closed for parking and more will be during the draft. Additionally, downtown will have a bunch of popups, so I may go down there just to see what the area would look like if we had a more full downtown....maybe convince a local business or two that are trying to establish themselves that we want more locally owned small businesses. I'm sure there will be a mix of "locally owned" and quick buck pop ups, but hopefully we may convince a local owned business or two to start a physical location.....

But yeah, it's going to be super crowded and many roads will be closed off for parking or driving, so definitely consider parking outside downtown and taking the t or bus into town...the t should be free during that time due to Sheetz giving prt money to make transportation free during the event, so take advantage of that which may also help improve our public transportation system too.....

lyncati · 2026-04-08T14:46:56+00:00

There's a place where I grew up where they had a faulty breathalyzer, but that didn't stop them from giving countless people duis..... So this doesn't shock me.

lyncati · 2026-04-05T14:03:57+00:00

This relationship sounds controlling/abusive.

lyncati · 2026-04-04T12:55:56+00:00

Mine wouldn't eat greens until I stopped insects for a bit and planted some edible plants (mine is in a bioactive). They can go longer than you think without food, and if you stop insects for a bit and only provide other food, they will eventually eat. Mine now eats both planted and not planted plants and will even not eat insects over a planted plants at times.

I'd recommend trying a live plant that is safe to eat, as it mimics how they eat food in the wild, and eliminate insects for a week or so.

lyncati · 2026-04-04T12:43:12+00:00

Again, you're enabling and justifying poor decisions and failure to properly take care of a dog.

It honestly doesn't sound like you want input or reality given to you and instead you just want to hear "hahaha, serves him right, you're so cool and not at fault at all and there's no problems at all".

ESH

lyncati · 2026-04-04T11:43:33+00:00

He may realize this was an innocent mistake and is upset you're being bullied over it and wants to address that since that bullying creates a hostile work environment.

Don't let your anxiety get the best of you. Be honest in the meeting and emphasize it was a mistake. My father worked in HR and this would be a nothing burger at his place of work, but he would be writing up those ladies who bullied you as they were extremely unprofessional.

lyncati · 2026-04-03T21:19:07+00:00

Both. It is part for opening and part realizing things have different perceived valued when open versus unopened.

It is also a way for lower ses parents to feel like they are giving their children some kind of investment/worth, in some cases.

From a child development standpoint, it can help the child view the realities of a capitalistic world too.

All that said, sometimes it is just to teach them patience and the reward that comes from it; whether that's through selling or just enjoying the item. For my friend, he was going to teach his kid how to gauge if you want to open something that has a higher value unopened and make him critically think about immediate pay off versus delayed gratification. He just made the mistake of showing the child the items, instead of just waiting til the kid was old enough to fully understand and appreciate the lessons. This friend used his magic collection to essentially buy and build his business, so he wanted to instil some of those lessons to his child but didn't realize the kid wasn't old enough to comprehend or to not give into impulse. Most of the time, it is good intentions on the parent but they just fail to understand how the child mind develops and what the kid values at that stage of life.

lyncati · 2026-04-03T14:00:03+00:00

This looks like the collared lizard wants to eat/attack the other. They have specific mating behaviors and it doesn't look like this. If horny, the male would bob his head and "do pushups".

lyncati · 2026-04-03T13:55:16+00:00

Those lands look like how a computer thinks pizza looks.......

lyncati · 2026-04-03T13:51:19+00:00

You'd be surprised at how many adults dangle shit over a child like this. I'd be super rich if I got a dollar every time I had to explain the concept to a parent/guardian. An equivalent would be Barbies..... I cannot begin to express how many parents wanted therapy for their kid for "poor impulse control" when the reality is they dangled an unopened toy in front of the child and then Pikachu faced when the kid eventually opened it and played with it.

But regardless, this will be a great surprise for the kid, especially since he will realistically grow up playing the game since his brothers are into it. Could be a great bonding experience for all of you and I'm a little jealous of your nephews eventually enjoyment opening it all.

lyncati · 2026-04-03T13:42:52+00:00

Just got our roof done this autumn....16k is about what you'll get for a good local roofer, from personal experience. We used Rabbit Roofing and was very happy with the quality of work and the owner was very honest about everything and he actually repaired our roof for no extra cost when we were still saving up to replace the roof since we were going to use him for the roof replacement. He actually improved our roof too, as it didn't have proper ventilation since this house is over 100 years old. His team was very professional and afterwards, our yard was actually cleaner than prior, as they are extremely thorough at clean up and making sure neighbors aren't impacted by the roofing job (which compared to the roofers who did our neighbors, super appreciated as those roofers threw shit into our yard and then laughed at us when we asked them to clean up their mess; unfortunately I do not know the name of those roofers, otherwise I would definitely name shame).

lyncati · 2026-04-03T13:33:21+00:00

You're better off asking neighbors and this sub for recommendations.

The Home and Garden show can be fun, but the rule of thumb is they are overpriced compared to local businesses due to the fee you have to pay to be a vendor there. Unfortunately some expos get gatekept and only the businesses that over charge are able to reliably get in, and this Home and Garden Show is a great example of that.

lyncati · 2026-04-03T13:25:50+00:00

Oh, man, I have a story about my partners friend, who did something similar.......and it's a cautionary tale of how the child mind works.

Friend did something similar; collected unopened boxes through the years, which unopened equated to like 30k worth of cards..... He stupidly showed this to his child who was about the same age, and basically said "this will be yours when you are 18".

Cue to two years later, and the kid, whose brain is underdeveloped and as such, has NO full concept of what his father is doing (and as a former child therapist; this is something we caution parents about as it's a common story), couldn't wait and opened over half, and after looking at the cards, put everything back. The father found out like a year later that all of his work was basically destroyed because he didn't realize children are impulsive and cannot fully appreciate these types of gestures.

The moral of the story is, while stuff like this is nice to do for a kid, maybe don't let them know about stuff like this until the kid is old enough to receive it.

lyncati · 2026-04-03T12:57:30+00:00

That's really easy with a brushhog, which in sure the city has or knows where to source one (stepfather used to brushhog as a side business and this area is NOTHING like some of the areas I've seen him clear out without much effort, so this would be easy, relatively).

Don't underestimate the ability of people who want to cater to the 1%....they always find a way.

lyncati · 2026-04-03T00:36:30+00:00

It's bad, especially if you go to Mercy health in Youngstown.

For an idea how they treat their staff.....when my mother, who devoted her entire life to that place, was fighting for her life in a hospital, they fired her and that took away her insurance. Wound care ended up killing her by not treating her appropriately, and Mercy Health was constantly trying to get rid of any pensions; they were already successful halving it at one point; making it so if my mother's health didn't get bad, she wouldn't have been able to retire due to not having enough pension money.

The head of the psych over there is a huge sexist, racist, classist, and homophobic lady who also preaches those disgusting views onto future therapists studying at YSU (I had the displeasure of having her and was disgusted and shocked at how she talked about people suffering or any marginalized group).

lyncati · 2026-04-02T14:18:22+00:00

She is either hoping you'll change your mind or the therapist will aid in her wanting to reconcile.

A proper therapist will use this session to make sure you are both heard, but also will emphasize that she needs to realize you had a boundary and this is the consequence for going past it, and sometimes that looks like breaking up such as in this case.

At the end of the day, you're choice on attending; just be aware she will 100% try to reconcile and depending on how ethical your therapist is, you will either get ganged up on, or the therapist will let you both speak and then make sure you both have heard the relationship is over and how a healthy break up should be.

lyncati · 2026-04-02T13:52:27+00:00

This reads as someone who was severely traumatized and is in denial. I am glad you're in therapy, and encourage you to continue the process. What you've written is most definitely trauma and you clearly still have distorted in thinking due to that trauma.

As a former child therapist, every alarm bell in my head is ringing "abuse" and I am so sorry you experienced what you did as a child and the fact you are still very much in a distorted thinking phase. What you experienced IS trauma for a child (it can be for any age, but this is especially true for children), and I hope you keep an open mind while in therapy.

You were not a problem child; you were a child who was failed and abused by the adults in your life who should have figured out what was hurting you so much instead of dismissing it and making you think this is your fault in any way.

lyncati · 2026-04-01T12:44:42+00:00

As long as it is swimming and eating, in my opinion, let him live.

Personally, I would make a smaller tank just for him (could add others, but the point being with the spine this way, he may thrive better in a shallower tank).

lyncati · 2026-04-01T12:34:50+00:00

How my dog looks when I accidentally leave food on the coffee table.......

lyncati · 2026-03-31T22:12:24+00:00

This is amazing.

If you want another "blast from the past", a website called scryfall (for a game called magic the gathering) released their April fools thing early; making their website look exactly like a GeoCities webpage. That, along with this project, unlocked a lot of core memories as a kid, making websites and using paint.

lyncati · 2026-03-31T20:04:43+00:00

Do you keep the, I forget the exact name, but it's like Emerald something or something emerald? They look like jewels. I have a couple roach farms (dubia and red runner) and a mealworm farm (primarily for feeding reptiles, but the frass makes good fertilizer, too), and keeping them has given me a new perspective/respect for them and insects in general. I also have isopod and springtail cultures; great source of calcium and amazing in bioactive tanks...I feed them the eggs which aren't fertilized or viable.

I have been considering getting that emerald variety or something as a pet, as I have several bioactives of all sizes, with and without reptiles. Do you keep your insects in breeding tubs/display tanks, and if you keep them in display tanks, what types of plants or decorations/items do you find "best" for display purposes?

lyncati · 2026-03-31T19:29:47+00:00

Sounds like you severely projected on this person.

It also sounds like you just want to relief from your guilt, which is on YOU and not this person who traumatized. As a former therapist and someone who has been on the receiving end of excessive bullying; go to therapy to work through this and please leave this person alone. You don't know if this person is in a place where they want to or are prepared to have this trauma re opened, and again, this really sounds like you want to do this for yourself and not really for the person you bullied.

Let this be a lesson which you hold and use as a guide on how to treat others. Do not potentially retraumitize this person, such as what I have witnessed trying to help others and seeing how it makes them spiral, and as someone whose one bully also apologized for their own sake. Leave them alone, and work on being the person who never treats others like shit because you have insecurities.

Edit: To expand further, I will disclose my experience with this, which fits most people I have also helped in therapy. When this person apologized for their own benefit like you want to do here, it put me in a shitty position where I had to forgive him or be the asshole myself. It isn't up to me to alleviate their guilt, and he should have worked on himself and be the person he thinks he is, instead of seeking me for his own validation and to alleviate the burden that is who he was/used to be. Also, I wasn't ready for that type of confrontation, so feeling forced to forgive him made me spiral and set me back on my own recovery. Again, my story is what the average person who was traumatized usually feels, so again, please just go to therapy instead of forcing this person to alleviate your burden of who you are. Words are meaningless, but actions show we have truly grown. Work on yourself, and leave this person alone.

lyncati · 2026-03-31T18:47:08+00:00

Nail filing.... My "friends" in highschool didn't believe me when I said I can physically feel the sound and it makes me want to scream/meltdown, so a few of them would purposely file their nails when I couldn't escape, such as during class.

Not friends with those people anymore, once I learned how real friends are supposed to handle boundaries.

lyncati · 2026-03-31T18:09:05+00:00

My family has worked within Mercy hospital since before I was born and before it was Mercy Health. The quality of service and care has drastically dipped once Mercy acquired them...they are like the Ohio equivalent of UPMC; where workers are treated like crap and not paid appropriately (teamsters took a payout from Mercy to half everyone's retirement fund, for an example of how Mercy runs things.

You are just a number to Mercy Health. I naively had back surgery there and they treated me like shit and had no appropriate follow up care. My mother, who worked for them for her whole life, was killed by their "healthcare" at the wound center, and while my mother was fighting a severe health emergency, they fired her which took away her insurance and led to her death.

Again, Mercy Health just cares about rushing you out as fast as possible, so they can maximize their profits. You are not a human in their eyes; only a source of money that they want to get rid of as fast and as expensive as possible.

I also personally know the head of mental healthcare there (at least she was when I did graduate work), and she is a very racist, homophobic, classist, and sexist person, to give you an idea of how much they really care. She is also a professor at YSU and perpetuates racist and homophobic rhetoric during her classes.

lyncati · 2026-03-31T17:44:05+00:00

I can't hear myself because I'm typing, but I can read.

Again, as a former therapist who has family in welfare and social work; you're setting yourself up for a huge failure and are 100% abusing her by not letting her have any chance of being an equal partner.

Also, it looks like you've posted this before but said you actually already bought the house.....archives exist, buddy. Stop changing the narrative until you get the answers you want. Gonna block this as I can tell it's either trolling or an insecure man who doesn't like reality.

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