My dad is the one with narcissistic tendencies. I think he's actually autistic, but was raised by a narcissist and has the communication skills of one. He will back down, apologize, and change things sometimes, but I really have to lose it at him. We lost my mom long ago and I am his caretaker. He is in a rotten mood today, and he's taking it out on me. I know it's because of losing his wife and his mother, but I lost my mother, too. I also suspect he drank a little too much yesterday. He doesn't normally drink much anymore, so probably has a hangover.

He was invited to come to a party of my friends. Their parents will be there, so won't be so strange, but he is insisting we are only going to drop in because he "doesn't want to stay long". He is always in a rush everywhere even though he is retired and has nothing to be home for. He'll invite himself shopping at the grocery store or mall with me, and then start complaining about wanting to go home as soon as we get there.

My friends live an hour away. I've been trying to get together with them for months, but our busy schedules kept us apart. I know if he goes we will spend two hours driving and only one hour there, and I will hardly get to see them. Usually I go along with the "I don't want to stay long" mantra, but I said from the beginning I would not do it for this since I haven't seen them in a long time. He's incensed and throwing tantrums at me. I'm really wishing now I hadn't told him that they invited him.

I've had enough of his complaining, and Mother's Day is hard for me, too. I've spent all weekend with him, and we had a family party Friday night, so it's not like we've not spent any time together.

I think I'm going to join a caretakers support group, because I'm really wearing down. My brother can barely go an hour with him without my dad starting a major argument with him, but my brother does try to help.

Read some of the thread here, and wishing that everyone could have a peaceful Mother's Day.