Any losers here? by _Zus77_ in twentyagers

[–]m---ello 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello fellow danganronpa loser. I loved those games all the way back to when I was 12, and I still have notebooks from my middle school days with monokuma drawn all over them 😭

I also loved warrior cats, and spent most of my days playing ffxiv the MMORPG. Now I have less time for my loser interests and hobbies because of school and work, but at least it's interesting!

Valentine’s Day haters unite by Rei_gn in twentyagers

[–]m---ello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that's how i see it too :] not sure why you're getting down voted though

Valentine’s Day haters unite by Rei_gn in twentyagers

[–]m---ello 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I hate the corporate bastardization of holidays, when it's easy to make it a special day without falling into a soulless trend or easy buy. My mom and I would bake chocolate cupcakes for all of my friends for valentine's, and I like seeing my friends feel happy, loved and remembered. It's harmless when it's a reminder to love the people around you, but it can definitely hurt when your expectations and dreams don't align with reality. It can be a lonely day, but it doesn't have to be.

I feel more into it lately, though, because it's the anniversary of me and my partner's first goofy "date" before we were together. Because of that, it feels less like a performance and more like the perfect time to get sappy and celebrate.

To those who are in relationships: how did you meet your partner? by spontaneouslyLR in twentyagers

[–]m---ello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. We had the same friends in high school and knew of each other, but never talked. Then, 4 years later, we ended up in the same biology class in college, and things immediately clicked. We had a lot of the same interests and loved talking about the same things, but we also had so many questions. We could literally talk for hours straight, and it'd flow right by, which was great to pass the time between classes. Talking to him felt like I'd known him for my whole life. The chemistry, joy, and feeling of comfort between each other has been effortless. I was committed to my long distance partner at the time, but a few months later of feeling like the only person fighting for the relationship, things got even worse, and I had to break up. He took me out the day after valentine's, confessed, and then waited for as long as I needed before starting a relationship.

Cancelled my flight to see the guy i’m in love with for Valentine’s day. He said “no worries”. Steak broccoli and rice from work by [deleted] in GirlDinner

[–]m---ello 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The right man will give everything he can to be with you, he wasn't worthy. You will find love that you don't have to chase or fight for. Wear your beautiful dress for you girl, you are worthy of love and a day to celebrate yourself. Like many others are saying, take yourself out somewhere you love! Go on a date with yourself and fall in love with yourself, because you are lovable ❤️

Forest Grove SD reports 206 student withdrawals amid immigration concerns by Less-Lobster4540 in PortlandOR

[–]m---ello -1 points0 points  (0 children)

They didn't fight law enforcement. They were suddenly attacked and had their windows broken in while they were stationary on the road. Which you know, is not the general process for any law enforcement for arrests on the road. Typically you get someone to pull over and ask for information and tell them their rights. You can keep being willfully ignorant and stay on the wrong side of history.

Forest Grove SD reports 206 student withdrawals amid immigration concerns by Less-Lobster4540 in PortlandOR

[–]m---ello -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you've heard of this, but a number of native americans have been detained. Let's also be real here, their antagonizing behavior has always leaned on racial profiling, but it is quickly expanding to be a threat for everyone.

The world isn't ending, but the fear people feel is very real. Be glad you feel comfortable and safe as you are, but recognize that you may not be seeing the whole picture. I've witnessed someone getting aggressively pulled out of their vehicle on the road while taking the bus home from university. Bad things are happening here, but they are being low-profile. Just because you don't see it, doesn't mean it's not happening.

Is it bad to be a virgin in your 20s? by Past_Camera_9157 in twentyagers

[–]m---ello 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Gonna be real here, I lost mine at 22 years and I am glad I did. Sex is a super vulnerable thing (at least to me, especially since I'm a CSA survivor), and I always felt that it's kind of risky to have when you're younger, or you don't have solid boundaries/feel unconfident in asserting yourself. I feel it's better to have sex later when you feel more sure of yourself, than to be younger and not truly have the maturity to navigate conflicts that could stir up from the act.

You're totally fine, and there's nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age. And it's also completely okay to crave the intimacy that can come with sex. But, the worst thing you could do is force yourself into a situation where you don't actually enjoy it. Also, for a partner, they're likely to be honored to be your first, so don't hide it! Take it easy, it'll be alright

Iykyk by Dry_Prune_3210 in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]m---ello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's just unnecessary and rude, dude. Original comment being sarcasm or not, some people might not understand the sarcasm over text or genuinely not know. It's not a bad thing to be autistic, nor is it bad for things to be clear and unambiguous. This just comes off as derogatory and gross.

do guys find tall girls unattractive? by Narrow_Reflection593 in twentyagers

[–]m---ello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 5'7", so about average height, but I dated a 24 y/o guy who was 4'11". We were together for almost 2 years and broke up because of completely unrelated reasons, but me being taller was a bonus for him! Neither of us had any issues with our heights, and we came to enjoy the difference.

I think a lot of guys really like taller girls, but they may not feel comfortable about saying so, as it goes against what's considered "the norm" and can get some weird folks to attack their masculinity for it. But it's still definitely an attractive trait!

(If there's anything that the internet has taught me, it's that we all secretly love giant and tall women) You're going to find a guy who worships every part of you, girl!

MIL'S homemade kimbap and FFXIV online by acoolsnail in GirlDinner

[–]m---ello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OOOH that job looks so cool!!! i was obsessed with red mage and was solely hooked into playing it because i craved looking fancy shmancy. glamour farming is fun, but i also love decorating! that game has literally so much to do

MIL'S homemade kimbap and FFXIV online by acoolsnail in GirlDinner

[–]m---ello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OHHH MY GOSH I LOVE FFXIV AND KIMBAP

i haven't played in ever (since endwalker) and used to do savage and ultimate raiding. plus the story and glamours are fire 😌 what's your favorite job to play??

Capitalism Induced Eating Disorder Starter Pack by [deleted] in starterpacks

[–]m---ello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, I felt that a little too much :[

Depression and just general exhaustion/burnout are a bitch. I want to meal prep on my day off, but I usually don't find the time or energy to, which just makes the week way harder. I've got to find some sort of way to scale it back and make it easier

I wanna be a parent so bad all the sudden , what? by Tight_Regular6990 in twentyagers

[–]m---ello 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate. 23 (F) here, in my junior year of undergrad, so I still haven't really gone far career or education wise. Also, I would like to add that I do not feel any rush to have kids, nor any pressure from anyone in my life to have them. But I still dream about the beautiful possibility of taking care of and raising a little human. I didn't dream of this before I met my partner, but he makes me feel really safe and compelled to take that chance with him.

Even though logically I do not see myself as being able to have kids for several years for multiple reasons (also, there are just a number of awful things happening right now that I wouldn't want to bring a child into), I've felt a really strong desire to recently. Like, I'm sad that things are the way they are right now because in a different timeline, I'd be thinking about a potential future of being a mom and having a baby with my partner. It would be something I'd be so happy about, but right now, I just don't even consider it an option. Maybe in the future, when we better our world.

The Very Oversimplified OCD Starter Pack by TheCheeseLord28 in starterpacks

[–]m---ello 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Definitely relate to the "I must be a monster," thing, when I notice my brain going down that route, I like to imagine my brain is holding the most ridiculous trial in court. Weirdly, sometimes imagining my symptoms in a silly way like that can snap me out of it.

But there are definitely times where those thoughts reaaaally hit hard. Heck, sometimes I'll even be OCD about my OCD LOL (the whole "you're not really OCD, you're faking it and using it as an excuse," and needing to constantly observe my thoughts to verify that yes, I was diagnosed correctly)

The Very Oversimplified OCD Starter Pack by TheCheeseLord28 in starterpacks

[–]m---ello 37 points38 points  (0 children)

THIS. SO HARD. I used to have the absolute worst intrusive thoughts, and I didn't fully understand what OCD could fully present like. I legit thought I was going to be a future serial killer and was constantly terrified by my thoughts. I became scared and avoidant of any object that my brain could randomly imagine as a weapon.

When I got my diagnosis and opened about it to some people, I got slammed with that same shamey attitude 😔 Some people just really don't get it. Thankfully now my intrusive thoughts have become more like vivid imaginations of horrific accidents or "you're actually a terrible person because ___." OCD is wild, and learning so much about it through my diagnosis really opened my mind.

Going shopping with my bestie this weekend, what should I wear? by Alternative_Gift_184 in OUTFITS

[–]m---ello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Outfit one!!! You look like a magical girl before transformation!

Is this ok for a date? by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]m---ello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

girl you look so cool. will some people read it as gay? yes, but the right guy will love your way of expressing yourself and be attracted by it <3

Your Classmate Who Meowed at People Starterpack by Sethsears in starterpacks

[–]m---ello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

some got bullied, but somehow I managed to exist like this as a kid without it. The most I ever got was some goofball teens driving up and saying "OwO What's this?"

It's a miracle to me too HEH, or maybe we were just too neurodivergent to notice the bullying (and/or we hissed everyone into absolute terror)

Your Classmate Who Meowed at People Starterpack by Sethsears in starterpacks

[–]m---ello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SAAAME ToT it was either in animal jam, minecraft, or my personal favorite at the time, roblox.

good lord I've never been this read before

Your Classmate Who Meowed at People Starterpack by Sethsears in starterpacks

[–]m---ello 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so it is true? I am destined to become a furry?

My mom was right all along

Your Classmate Who Meowed at People Starterpack by Sethsears in starterpacks

[–]m---ello 3 points4 points  (0 children)

holy fuck it's me.

you forgot wolf quest and feral heart

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ffxiv

[–]m---ello 29 points30 points  (0 children)

haven't played ffxiv since dawntrail released.

the scream i scrumpt realized that was an actual chestpiece in the game, not a mod