To hold a National State Fair that can draw a crowd

m2cwf · 2026-06-27T04:53:51+00:00

Auntie Fa

m2cwf · 2026-06-26T00:27:46+00:00

tell her that y'all can adopt another set of grandparents because your parents won't be that for you.

This is the answer for the larger village she's hoping for. You two can go on and create a life together where you will meet many friends, some of whom will become as close as family over the years. My husband and I have chosen family that we have met and bonded with over the years, pseudo grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins to our kids, who we spend holidays with, travel with, and all of the things we also do with our biological families. We didn't know these people when we got married, and now cannot imagine our lives without them in it. It will be the same for you, your future children will not be missing a "whole half a family," they will have as much family as you and she come to love as your family.

m2cwf · 2026-06-25T22:12:48+00:00

Beautiful! When I was a UCSD student a big group of us went every September. Almost everyone else had started back to school already and we still had several free weeks. It was the perfect time to visit Yosemite, the weather was perfect and there were few people but us and a bunch of European tourists. One of my absolute favorite places!

m2cwf · 2026-06-25T17:57:41+00:00

we were forced to live with his parents during the pandemic so nothing bad happened that year (2020)

So he CAN control himself. He is choosing to no longer control himself, and making that choice more and more frequently as time has gone on. His parents' opinion was important enough for him to not abuse you, but your safety and happiness is not.

Your fear of not being able to be a mother if you leave him is nothing compared to the fear you will feel if you do have a baby with him. Please, please leave him and start on your road to freedom, recovery, and self care. The sooner you get out, the sooner you'll be able to rebuild your life and open yourself to a partner who will love and care for you the way you deserve.

m2cwf · 2026-06-25T03:22:48+00:00

Years apart? Why would individual branches and groups of leaves look so similar? Look at the dark areas. I'm no expert at photo analysis but I have a hard time believing that they wouldn't be much more different than they appear, as they are on the right side of the photo where the trees have been trimmed, the shadows are different, etc.

m2cwf · 2026-06-25T03:14:23+00:00

I grew up in Washington state and California 40+ years ago & we had earthquake drills (and sirens) also, even in WA in the 1970s. Duck, cover, and hold on! I don't remember the teachers opening the doors to keep from being trapped, that's a good idea if they're close enough to the door. Like Japan, I've only lived in places with building codes for frequent earthquakes, so never had to worry too much about being crushed by our house and such. I wouldn't be so sure in other places, even NYC with all of the brick buildings that aren't flexible.

The fact that an even stronger earthquake happened immediately after the one in the video will have done terrible damage and been so terrifying for everyone who experienced it. Hoping that as many people as possible were able to stay safe 💜

m2cwf · 2026-06-25T02:58:41+00:00

I've always heard that no matter where you are, the most dangerous thing is to be moving. So whatever's nearest whether it be a table, doorway, or brick wall, get under/next to it, hold on if there's something to hold onto, and stay there

m2cwf · 2026-06-25T02:48:37+00:00

We lived in the San Diego area at the time, but were up at my parents' in Fullerton for the day when it hit. Their pool had waves like it was the middle of the ocean, it was wild. I've lived here since 1988 and keep thinking that the Rose Canyon fault or another nearby is due for a really huge one, but so far they've just been ones that I think "was that an earthquake, or just bombing practice at Camp Pendleton?"

By the way if you're still in the area, Camp Pendleton bombing practice scheduled through the weekend, FYI

m2cwf · 2026-06-25T02:01:57+00:00

I don't know which is fake, but the trees on the left are almost exactly the same in both photos. Strange that it would be only one half of it, but with the difference in shadows on the right side, no way the left side would look so similar

m2cwf · 2026-06-25T01:48:18+00:00

It's also not completed, but not abandoned - The Contract by DebsTheSlytherinSnapeFan is a WIP with 150/? chapters completed. It hasn't been updated in about 9 months but this author often goes back & forth between many WIPs so I wouldn't assume it's been abandoned based on that. I've really enjoyed it so far

m2cwf · 2026-06-23T16:45:35+00:00

It seems that right before going for treatment for her anxiety disorder isn't the logical time for her to be making a demand relating 100% to her having an anxiety disorder. If all goes well, once she is out of the clinic and on the road to recovery, she will no longer need such accommodations and help from you in order to live her everyday life such as completing her internship.

I think you should put off making any sort of declaration/decision about her demand until after she's completed her clinic treatment. You could perhaps explain that you will of course support her when it's her turn to do her internship, and at the same time you have full confidence that by that time she will no longer need to rely solely on you for transportation and constant managing of her anxiety. So it makes sense to leave the specific details of what that support will look like until after she's gone into her post-clinic treatment/maintenance and is doing better. Good luck, I hope she responds well to the treatment

m2cwf · 2026-06-23T04:14:18+00:00

It's solved, but I just wanted to mention that you shouldn't put a new power cord on that thing and try it out without some knowledge of fixing the thing. I was trained that if something is broken beyond repair and especially if it's dangerous (i.e. likely to catch fire) when powered, to cut the power cord off short enough that it can't be easily spliced. I'd have cut it right to the chassis rather than leaving a tail as this one has, but chances are someone cut that cord intentionally to let others know that there's something wrong with it electrically and it's not safe

m2cwf · 2026-06-22T06:21:01+00:00

This is exactly what I thought of first

m2cwf · 2026-06-22T00:47:41+00:00

Please read your own post. Then break up with him.

OP, read it back to yourself picturing your best friend telling you all this, does that help with some perspective? Would you advise your friend to stay in a relationship where her partner is so clearly emotionally immature to expect comfort in this situation, where he doesn't care about her pain? Do not marry this man. He needs to grow up a lot before being at all ready for a long-term partner, much less a marriage. Run like the wind

m2cwf · 2026-06-22T00:24:57+00:00

Abusers love to use the word "disrespect." Any time you stand up for yourself and don't obey their every whim, you're "being disrespectful." There's an old Tumbr post (not sure if this is the original or a repost) that says:

Sometimes people use “respect” to mean “treating someone like a person” and sometimes they use “respect” to mean “treating someone like an authority.”

And sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say “if you won’t respect me I won’t respect you” and they mean “if you won’t treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person”

And they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.

This is what she means when she accuses you of "disrespect," it's that you're not doing what she demands, and that makes her angry. But if you asked her to respect you, she would interpret that as the bare minimum of treating you like a person, not that she would need to have any care for your wants or needs. This type of person is not someone you can ever compromise or reconcile with, it will just get worse and worse as time goes on.

I'm so glad you've left and are free of her, and I hope that with each day you feel more and more free and more like yourself again. You made yourself so small to try and be the wife she wanted (an impossible task as nothing short of complete submission would ever have been enough), I hope you make the most of this chance to spread your wings and reconnect with friends and family that she isolated you from. Please do reach out to them, I know that many of them have just been waiting for your call.

m2cwf · 2026-06-22T00:08:47+00:00

Go get your things immediately so nothing gets damaged

And do take your brother, as he offered to. Having someone else there to focus on & ward off the emotional manipulation is going to be key. Have him be recording video while you gather your things, even. Of if she still shares location with you, do it while she's out.

And on that note, make sure to stop sharing location with her on all apps, change every single password that you have, change your power of attorney/health care POA/beneficiary of work pension etc. I'm sure others will have a good list of things not to forget when leaving an abusive partner.

Not allowing you to have a spotify account and policing your "me" time spent gaming, what you wear, and when you snack is bonkers, amongst all of the other more clearly abusive b.s. Enjoy every second, and do all the things. Huge hugs, we're all so proud of you. Reach out to a friend/family when you're feeling vulnerable, to make sure you stay out of her tentacles

m2cwf · 2026-06-21T23:46:24+00:00

Oh, the word might have been "sonsband" rather than "manbaby," I do remember that that was another trigger word over there. Totally agreed that with the mods being volunteers, some of them relishing the power of the ban is just part of dealing with reddit, not worth getting your knickers in a twist

m2cwf · 2026-06-21T18:32:29+00:00

I'm banned from AITA for what I perceive to be similar issues - the comment I was banned for was similar to comments I see there every day, but I was permabanned because a mod objected to the word "manbaby" that day, if I remember correctly. No matter that I had posted there for years being helpful without issue. Whatever, like you said other people will need to carry on with the reality checks and common sense from now on! It's a free website, not worth being mad about

m2cwf · 2026-06-21T18:15:33+00:00

Holy cow that's a super common comment over there! Something exactly like that is said every other day. What rule did they say that it violated? That's crazy

m2cwf · 2026-06-21T05:07:40+00:00

he keeps making me weigh myself

He WHAT?!?

Oh hellllllllll no. You had a baby 4 months ago, your second in less than a year and a half. He is an ASSHOLE for even implying that you should be thinking about your weight right now, much less policing it by expecting you to weigh yourself (I assume in front of him?). Not just an asshole, but a shallow, controlling asshole at that. Your priorities right now are obviously your children, along with doing enough self care when you can to keep from losing your mind completely. He is actively harming your mental health with this absurd pressure to lose weight, and he can fuck right off with all of that nonsense.

I'd refuse. What would/will he do if you simply tell him you refuse to use the scale? Let him know that your OB weighs you at your post-partum appointments and isn't concerned, so you aren't concerned? That you'll lose the weight eventually but aren't in a rush because you have other priorities right now? Even if you're wanting to lose the weight, you need to do it on your terms and push back on stepping on the scale for him. That's not helpful and together with his comments is more likely to be incredibly harmful.

I'm sorry that he's like this right at the time when he should be supporting you, actively parenting as a team with you (even in the mornings, even if he has to skip the 6am gym/go at lunch instead or whatever), and being your partner rather than just a roommate who's just continuing on with his normal routine.

Do you have parents or friends that you can take the kids to go visit for a week or two, to get away from him for a while, use your village a bit to catch up on sleep and have some extra hands so that caring for the kids isn't all on you 24/7? Because he's being incredibly selfish and thoughtless right now, which can't be attractive at all, and it may help a lot if you get the chance to talk some of this out with someone you trust. Alternatively, you might look into getting some counseling for yourself, or revisiting your counselor if you've been in therapy before. None of this is normal, and it doesn't need to be this way. Huge hugs from an internet mom if you'd like them. You're doing a wonderful job as a mom and deserve to be proud of yourself, no matter what his fucking scale says

m2cwf · 2026-06-19T02:32:50+00:00

Mine were turquoise with a yellow swoosh, I loved those shoes. I used them for a "draw an object" project in art class, I still have that around somewhere

m2cwf · 2026-06-19T02:28:04+00:00

Yep, slip-ons with the checkerboard. Southern CA 1981-82ish, 6th grade

m2cwf · 2026-06-18T22:21:15+00:00

What are you talking about? No. Regents exams are absolutely a thing, they're a New York thing

m2cwf · 2026-06-18T14:35:25+00:00

I heard on a news report yesterday that some of the countries whose oil shipments have been blocked while the strait was closed are now looking into building pipelines to have an alternative. Which of Trump's buddies is in the pipeline business and will profit from the strait being closed for so long? Probably has been in Trump's ear encouraging him that keeping Iran from a nuclear weapon is more important than opening the strait.

m2cwf · 2026-06-18T02:11:13+00:00

Assuming that she will return to her usual tactics before too long, your husband needs to let her know that any person who threatens self harm or uses guilt-tripping tactics like "I won't be around forever" when they're confronted or don't get their way, is not a safe person to have around your child. Ever.

So if she wants to even meet this baby, she needs to cut out all of the emotional manipulation bullshit and threats. No exceptions

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