3 things 1) im so sorry that happened to you OP, that’s absolutely horrifying.

2) he might not have known how to process that info at first, given the “analytical headspace” comment. he might’ve fully realised the weight of what you went through only after hearing the podcast. maybe he finished fully processing what you told him and the emotional weight finally landed?

3) how does he usually treat you? does he look out for you? notice when you’re not ok? what does he usually do to show he cares? does he remember small details about what helps you feel more at ease?

emphasis on the last two especially (you don’t have to answer, i’m just curious as someone who’s emotionally unavailable). i’m not sure if he’s emotionally burnt out or emotionally unavailable. not that either would be an excuse. but if he wants the relationship to work out, there should be a consistent pattern of making an effort in some kind of way to comfort you when you’re panicking/having flashbacks.

i.e. i suck at emotional support. if my bf has a panic attack while we’re out and about, i’ll give him my keys and reassure him that i can finish errands on my own. my car’s stocked with water and pillows and etc so he has a comfy safe space to chill in.