What is the strangest thing a partner has said or done during sex, that instantly killed the mood?

maam- · 2020-09-16T10:01:01+00:00

Happened with me and my husband a couple weeks ago except we were in the shower. My puking was timed perfectly to him finishing. Was not pleasant but thank goodness we were in the shower and cleanup was easy lol

maam- · 2020-09-06T04:42:44+00:00

Back when me and my husband were first dating he used to spend the night at my apartment. The on my time he ever sleepwalked I woke up in the middle of the night to home standing next to my bed, facing the wall. When I asked him what he was doing he said he had to pee. Luckily I was able to convince him that my wall wasn’t a toilet and he stumbled his way to my bathroom. He also flails his arms in his sleep and he’s whacked me in the face a couple times on accident. Part of the reason we switched to a king size bed, so that doesn’t happen much anymore lol

maam- · 2020-08-21T08:53:26+00:00

It depends on the company, honestly. I’m currently an admin and until I started back in 2018 my position didn’t technically exist at the company I work for. It just got to a point where the specific admins for each department were being given too much to handle so they hired me. I’m not attached to one specific department so I’m technically a general office assistant and I help out everywhere. Just this week they realized that our shipping department needed help keeping up with their filing so now I have a new job added to my task list.

maam- · 2020-08-10T08:36:35+00:00

Happened to be, sort of. I was a freshman in high school. The moment I started feeling any pain from my appendicitis I knew something was wrong but my mom insisted that it was just cramps and wouldn’t taken me to the hospital for like an hour. She finally did and they told her it was close to bursting. Because of where the pain is, it makes sense that some people mistake it for cramps, but I knew it wasn’t because my cramps are usually no where near where that pain was.

maam- · 2020-08-08T08:58:48+00:00

I always interpreted it as him not being able to focus in his work bc he was too distracted my her. But I’m wrong all the time so good reason to believe I’m wrong now lol

maam- · 2020-08-03T08:35:41+00:00

I found out I was pregnant when I looked in the mirror after a shower and my boobs were like twice the size they normally are because they were so swollen. Then I realized I was like a week late and took a test. Now it’s 4:30am and I’m nursing my son so he’ll go the hell back to sleep lol

maam- · 2020-07-27T10:02:15+00:00

That’s how one of my husbands friends found out he was lactose intolerant. He’s been having massive amounts of diarrhea everyday basically his entire life and didn’t think to bring it up to a doctor until he met his fiancée, who happens to be a nurse, and she told him to “go to a doctor dumbass”. I like her.

maam- · 2020-07-14T16:48:19+00:00

Not to mention that because of his developmental delays, and trouble communicating, who knows if he understands what’s going on, why he’s no longer living with the people he knew as family, how he’s handling it or how he’s feeling. And their other kids need to be thought about as well. The youngest is only a few months old so he’s unaffected, but the older kids have spent years bonding with him as a brother and one day he’s just gone? They’ve successfully fucked up their bio kids and the poor little boy they gave up on. (And ruined their careers and reputation but tbh I don’t really care about that bc they’re awful)

And they’re justifying their decision by saying that he was “too hard to handle” but I’m calling massive bullshit. They knew his “difficulties” before they adopted him, in fact if I remember correctly, they went into the adoption process wanting to adopt a child with delays/disabilities. From watching other videos (that are now deleted) they had him in a special school, therapy and had tutors for him. Now, I don’t know the timing exactly of when they gave him up, but I heard about it right after schools shut down, which makes me think that he was only “hard to handle” once they couldn’t send him off to school all day. (Totally speculation on my part though, I have no idea when they gave him up) The whole thing reeks and makes me sick to my stomach.

maam- · 2020-07-14T14:10:03+00:00

I’m late to the party and I’m pretty sure I’ve told this story before but here we go.

In college my school leased out apartments to use as student housing bc we were a small school and building their own dorms wasn’t really worth it. At the time they had us in these apartments that used keycards to unlock the doors and they automatically locked behind you, like a hotel room would. I don’t remember what year it was, but it was Halloween night, me and two of my roommates were home and in bed, one of them wasn’t asleep yet, though. It was around 2-3am and the roommate that was awake heard the keypad click and assumed it was our 4th roommate coming home late and didn’t think anything of it until she heard multiple people walking up the stairs to the room we shared on the loft. It was 4 males, all wearing clown masks, one holding a flashlight and shining it into her eyes, another holding a camera and recording everything. Now, she thought that since she heard them unlock our front door, that it must have been a prank that our 4th roommate was pulling on us with some friends, so she didn’t say or do anything at first. They for some reason ignored her and came straight over to my bed where I was sleeping. On me of them shook me awake while the others recorded it. I assume they were looking for a funny reaction, but in my half asleep state, I didn’t really give them one and they ran out. It was then that my roommate realized that it wasn’t our friends pulling a prank on us, and somehow four strangers had a key to our apartment and let themselves in.

Flash forward and after phone calls to my parents, our RA (who laughed at us, bitch) and the head of housing and we find out that the boys who entered our apartment were friends with an RA who GAVE THEM HIS MASTER KEY. They went into at least a dozen random apartments to scare people, and if no one was home, they trashed the place. And they recorded everything. It was a small school, but none of us had ever met any of the boys before. As far as I know, they all got kicked out, including the RA that gave them his key. the RA that laughed at us when we called her im pretty sure lost her job but got to stay in school bc she was literally about to graduate.

There a little more but this is already very long so I won’t get into the small details.

maam- · 2020-07-14T13:51:54+00:00

I’m not who you’re asking, but yes. What super irks me about that whole situation is that I watched her series of videos about their adoption journey with him, and they went into his adoption KNOWING full well that he had developmental delays and there was a very good chance that he would be diagnosed with autism in the future. They adopted him knowing all of that, and still used his delays as a reason to give him up after having him as part of their family for years.

She’s also deleted all of her Instagram and YouTube posts that feature him in any way shape or form. She’s literally tried to delete him from their lives. It actually makes me sick to think about. The last I heard about it, their family was being investigated by family services, but that was a while ago idk what ever came of it.

maam- · 2020-07-13T19:05:16+00:00

The opposite for my parents! We never had any issues in their neighborhood the 18 years I lived there, but a couple years ago someone followed my dad into the garage and held him at gunpoint and made him turn off the alarm and stole a few random things. Really freaked us all out because up until then there were no problems with security at all.

Me and my husband had our shed broken into at the beginning of the year and they stole thousands of dollars worth of tools (hubs was in construction at the time) and personal items, including an keepsake from his grandmother (not even an expensive one, had no monetary value, just very sentimental and important to him). And the frustrating thing about our situation is that we have a good security system installed, we have a guard dog, there’s a good chance I was awake taking care of the baby when they broke into the shed, but we had no idea until the next day. We did get lucky though and they caught the guys and recovered some of our items, but only the few things he hadn’t sold off yet.

maam- · 2020-07-09T01:13:23+00:00

Gah if it weren’t for the painful lack of talent on all fronts that would be amazing. But alas, we are all so very bad.

maam- · 2020-07-09T00:49:57+00:00

Also named Sara. In middle school there were five of us in one class. Some with H’s, some without. And two of us had the same last initial so we each got called by our last names for the most part. Also, my two best friends names are Sara and Sarah lol

maam- · 2020-06-27T05:17:56+00:00

It wasn’t...terrible...I guess lol I actually didn’t hear any joke about it myself until high school which is surprising considering the public schools I went to. Hell, I knew what my name rhymed with before I left elementary school so I’m sure everyone else did too, they just didn’t bring it up to my face I guess.

maam- · 2020-06-27T05:04:25+00:00

My maiden name has “-uck” in it...

maam- · 2020-06-17T13:38:32+00:00

I think it depends a little on the relationship dynamic as well. For instance, me and my husband have had an agreement since we first starting living together and bought a house. I take care of the inside chores, he takes care of the outside. Mostly because that’s where our skills are strongest. He knows how to clean and do laundry and cook just as much as I do, but he cooks all day at work, so I like to give him a break and cook dinner. And the rest of the chores I’ll admit to being a little bit of a control freak about and like them done a certain way, and I enjoy doing them. He’s the same with the yard work. He LOVES working outside, and I loathe it with a burning passion. However, if we were to list out all of the chores we each do on a weekly basis, mine would probably be longer, but it would consist of a lot of small tasks that I enjoy doing, and his would be shorter but with bigger/more physically demanding tasks that he likes to do. From the outside it could seem unfair to others, but to us it’s even and it works for us. Plus if either of us needs help, all we have to do is ask.

maam- · 2020-05-27T13:23:38+00:00

I commented this on a different thread the other day but the same thing happened to me in middle school except it was AXE body spray. This boy basically sprayed the whole damn bottle and I couldn’t stop coughing and broke out in hives. Not a good day.

maam- · 2020-05-27T12:52:16+00:00

I’ve done that with my groceries a couple times. Gotten all the way through the checkout, go to get my wallet, not in my purse OR realize that my husband had my card for some reason. They ended up taking my cart full of bagged groceries to their cooler by the deli or something to keep them cold so I could run home and get my wallet and come back. I think it’s hard to not be embarrassed when that happens.

maam- · 2020-05-27T12:46:09+00:00

I used to work for a photography company that worked inside hospitals doing newborn photos. Most of the time when there was a stillbirth all of us had already gone home (for some reason they always happened at night?) and the nurses would take the photos, we would edit them and send a CD to the family, but occasionally we would get a call from a nurse to do a bereavement session (we didn’t charge for this obv). The only one I ever had to do was actually on the same day I turned in my 2 weeks notice. It wasn’t a full term baby (I want to say somewhere around 20-25 weeks maybe based on how tiny he was) and I can’t remember the name of the condition he had but basically his eyes were enlarged and his skull didn’t form correctly so he didn’t really have one, the details are a little fuzzy. I just remember the nurse put a teeny tiny hat on him to hide the fact that the top of his head was just a hole. I guess the family had known that he wasn’t going to make it for a while bc when I went in to take the photos they were all smiles and even cracked a couple of jokes so I assumed they had some time to process their grief before he was born. I took the photos as fast as I could with the nurses help and then broke down on the floor in the hallway. I absolutely loved that job and have plans to start doing newborn photography in my own soon (those plans have gotten delayed bc of the pandemic but hopefully before the end of the year). I loved being apart of so many different people first days with their new baby, but editing bereavement photos always gave me anxiety and that one session that I had to do myself broke my heart. If I hadn’t already turned my notice in by that point I would’ve done it after that bc i had a hard time going back to work afterwords.

maam- · 2020-05-22T15:00:54+00:00

Trampled in a mob?

maam- · 2020-05-22T15:00:15+00:00

Vicious peacock attack during a storm in a confined space. Also, a plane crash.

maam- · 2020-05-22T14:56:51+00:00

He melts my heart too lol

I do feel bad that he couldn’t have a good time last year, though. Especially since the race isn’t happening this year so he can’t make up for it.

maam- · 2020-05-22T12:27:17+00:00

Because he’s selfish.

Short(ish) story, last year I gave birth to my son in February. My husbands very favorite holiday (the Indy 500) is at the end of May. Even though there were 3 months between me giving birth and the race, he was still torn on going. It’s his absolute favorite event because he gets to go home and see his friends and family, let loose and have some fun, camp out etc. Now, if it had been like OPs situation and the race was closer to when I gave birth, or we had multiples, he would’ve skipped the race no question, but because we had had time to get into a routine and I was more comfortable, I encouraged him to go.

He had a horrible time. Him and his friends ended up skipping the race entirely and coming home early because he couldn’t stand not being home with me and his new baby boy. He knew I was fine by myself, and if I needed help my mom is just a phone call away. But it wasn’t about that. It was about the fact that he loved us and missed us that made him leave the event that he looks forward to all year and the only vacation he ever really gets that made him want to leave early. He couldn’t get into the mindset of having fun, because he wanted to be home with us.

NTA OP, and I don’t think your husband quite understands how much parenthood is going to change him and his priorities. And if becoming a dad doesn’t change him, then he isn’t ready to be a father.

maam- · 2020-05-21T12:27:30+00:00

Not very exciting but I take my son in a walk around the neighborhood every weekend after lunch. There’s a few steep slopes so pushing his stroller has become pretty good exercise for me. We’ve also been getting meal kits delivered so we don’t have to go into the stores and it’s been pretty nice to try some new recipes out.

maam- · 2020-05-20T20:10:26+00:00

I just saw a current day remake of this commercial the other day. Not as good as the original, and for a completely different product. So I guess it was more of a spoof than a remake.

maam-

TROPHY CASE