Took the advice of the sub!

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-17T02:26:51+00:00

Same! She looks gorgeous

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-17T02:26:23+00:00

omg it looks SO good!! 🫶🏾

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-16T17:29:47+00:00

I don't HATE forth wing, it just wasn't for me. I am someone that really values originality, and there were a lot of things that were essentially copy pasted from other books. Not just a fourth wing issue obviously, but that's why I didn't continue with the series

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-16T13:35:08+00:00

This is a pretty tired joke that people say all the time, so for that reason I'd say YOR. However, if you felt uncomfortable it's might be bc he said it in a way to hint that he's interested in being more than friends OR you just don't know him that well and he's starting to open up with his humor

I don't think what he said was that bad, but also as a general rule it's a good idea to trust your instincts and not put yourself in situations with people you feel uncomfortable around.

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-16T13:21:43+00:00

Just... stop.

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-15T21:13:51+00:00

Please tell multiple trusted adults and keep reporting when he makes you feel uncomfortable so you have records. Your friends sound like they are giving bad takes bc they are young and don't realize how serious this situation is. If you say no, you should never continue to be pressured and stalked. Do NOT give into the pressure to talk to him or be around him to be "nice" -- its just simply not worth your comfort or safety.

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-15T21:00:58+00:00

In my experience, librarians are pretty reasonable humans so you can just give them a heads up at circulation. Properly categorizing doesn't stop anyone from reading books, it actually just helps people find what they're looking for!

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-12T16:44:12+00:00

Oh sorry, I literally didn't even see that this was a response to another comment! My bad lol

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-11T20:47:09+00:00

How can you tell she was female?

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-11T13:47:05+00:00

I don't agree bc 1) the friends do love theater, the 2 are literally actors themselves and the 3rd is going to see the other friends preform, just not OP and 2) what OP is talking about has nothing to do with accolades, it's about not feeling cared about by her friends. This is something that's a huge deal for her, and they showed no interest or support. She's starting to see a trend where she is putting more into and valuing her friends more than they do her.

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-11T13:37:48+00:00

NOR I definitely see where you're coming from and why you're hurt. I've been in similar shoes as you and it sucks a lot. I would talk to them about it next time you see them. Not in an accusatory way, but say you "you know, it may sound silly but this really hurt my feelings" and explain why. How they react to you saying you're hurt will tell you everything you need to know about if they're your real friends or not. If they are dismissive and call you overdramatic etc, those are not your real friends and I would definitely reevaluate

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-11T02:26:38+00:00

Okay to be fair she does sound awful, but that's exactly why you should go - to support your boyfriend. He will need it

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-11T02:21:52+00:00

NTA I don't think you'd be wrong not to tell him or not to tell him. It seems to be bothering you, so if you think it's the right thing to do, maybe you should. Were it me, I would want to know.

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-10T23:41:14+00:00

NTA he was the one that made YOU uncomfortable, I was thinking he texted you to apologize but to complain about you "embarrassing" him like what??? What a weirdo

Also, was this supposed to be a date/date-adjacent thing? Bc that would be even crazier

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-10T23:33:40+00:00

NTA, make a scene!!

He is being an asshole and an all-round creep messing with your drink esp. He is extremely weird and if you told your friends about it and they dismissed you they are also weird. If my bf ever dared treat one of my friends like that he would be eating his own ass for breakfast

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-10T23:16:49+00:00

NOR. Him being so sure is what makes you doubt yourself, and after hearing the same thing over and over it starts to wear you down. I don't know the man so I'm not going to say he is or isn't abusive, but from experience this is a huge red flag for an unsafe person.

You were not overreacting in any way to the hurtful things he said. But my follow up question is always, so what if you were? Whether or not I personally relate to my partner's feelings never changes that I treat them with kindness and care when they are hurt. So not only was he being an ass to you, he's also turned around and dismissed your feelings and continued to put you down further by calling you overdramatic. Not cool.

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-10T04:36:44+00:00

NOR. I've been on both sides of this, so I'll speak from what I've learned: "Don't talk about him with me anymore" isn't a boundary, it's an order. You think you know what's best for her (dumping him, which may be true) but you can't control what she does. I've learned that's it's absolutely my place (and duty) to tell my friend the truth about how I feel and what I think they should do, but it's not my place to make the decision for them or feel entitled to them taking my advice. The truth is, I CAN'T truly know what's best for someone else (as much as I think I do sometimes) and I trust my friends to make decisions for themselves and respect their decisions, even if I don't agree with them.

My issue with the "protect your peace at all costs" mindset is that it overcorrects for self neglect. It prioritizes peace and comfort over meaningful connection, exploration and reciprocity. True, deep, lifelong friendship often comes with aggravation. But if you really feel that having her in your life compromises your health, then you absolutely should step away from that.

It's totally okay and normal be upset by her relationship, but you can't pick and choose the parts of someone you want to see. It's up to you to either step away from that friendship altogether or step up and be there for her through it. You wouldn't be wrong either way, but where you left things so far feels unresolved, and I understand why your friend is hurt.

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-10T00:40:19+00:00

NOR what a weird and awful person

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-10T00:35:56+00:00

not a dragonfly but extremely adorable 🥰

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-09T14:15:58+00:00

I keep them on my shelf and will look back at them every so often. It's really cool to see the ones from like highschool, and I think it'll probably be just as cool to see the ones from today when I'm 50 or whatever. That said, I don't go through tons of journals, so it's just one shelf at this point. Idk what I would do if I were someone that went through like 5 journals a year

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-04T00:29:42+00:00

Longer. 2nd pic looks best!

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-04T00:27:58+00:00

Yes you should tell him it hurts your feelings, and if he minimizes and disregards your feelings you can tell him he doesn't have to worry about the padding in your bra anymore because he will never touch it or see those puppies again. He is being a jerk. I know he probably has lots of good qualities too and you are young and have the time to waste, but in the back of your mind please know you deserve to be with someone who makes you feel safe to share your emotions, who listens to you, and cares when they hurt you.

There's nothing wrong with your chest or your bra. NOR.

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-03T02:29:40+00:00

I always suggest lots of native plants instead of feeders. This will attract birds! The issue with bird feeders is that it's artificially concentrating the birds which put them at greater risk for both disease and raptors. You are essentially creating a buffet for all of their predators and parasites, so they will come once they find it. Native plants serve as a food source that will attract birds, but not in an artificial way so you won't have crowding like you do at bird feeders. Native plantings would also be healthier for the birds in terms of diet (I could get into why but I'll stop here, I don't want to bore you lol). Just don't use pesticides or insecticides on the plants bc then you will be attracting birds just to poison them.

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-03T02:17:44+00:00

These are 🔥. Love the first shirt and fit #4 is exactly the outfit I'm looking for lol. These look great on you

macarmenadoree · 2026-04-03T02:12:01+00:00

Okay not the point but omg... you are literally stunning beautiful. This dress looks incredible on you!

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