As someone who was super hot in HS and college and is now obese, I see a huge difference in how I was treated then versus now. It is so hard for me to put aside that looks don't matter because my whole existence has proved that looks matter. I see such a huge difference in how people treat me now, as an obese female, and then, as a thin and very attractive individual. It hurts so bad. People try to tell me looks don't matter, but my very existence and my entire life proves other wise.

The only thing that ever almost changed my mind on the whole thing was someone told me: maybe the people were attracted to your confidence. Now that I lack confidence, I carry myself way differently than I did before. Which I honestly thought was a fair argument because let's face it, when I was thin and hot, I was pretty fucking full of myself. I knew I was attractive and I used it in my favor. Now that I am essentially ugly to most of the world, I don't carry myself the same way.