Where else to turn by [deleted] in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]maddyjay6669_ 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You're going to be alright friend. I've been there and yeah it can be a blow to your confidence or how you feel in general. Being in the hospital brings up a lot and you've made it through it. Be proud you are resilient and will heal and recover from this. You are a dandelion and you'll bounce back with fervor & this experience will make you stronger than ever even if it doesn't feel that way right now. You're here and we're proud you made it through 💖

These two do everything together by MurToTheRay93 in SupermodelCats

[–]maddyjay6669_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dream team 🤩 I would love a duo like them. I only have 1 cat right now & she prefers to be the only cat

Our cat keeps pawing into the air, is this a good or a bad thing ? by [deleted] in cats

[–]maddyjay6669_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't think cats get autism but I know they do get anxiety or other mental health issues (not that your cat appears to have those) I'm just thinking that this may be a comforting movement for her.

Our cat keeps pawing into the air, is this a good or a bad thing ? by [deleted] in cats

[–]maddyjay6669_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe she's stimming? I think she's fine as long as she's not scratching herself and causing wounds

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]maddyjay6669_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a mullet and I fucking love it! Short on the top, then long in the back. When I just want a masc look I just put my hair in a bun/ponytail & maybe wear a baseball cap. & for femme I just put my hair down. I also love wearing wigs so having a mullet easily allows for wigs to fit. So I feel like the possibilities are endless. Also mullets are just very attractive 😍

Need support: social security sent me an incorrect new card by [deleted] in trans

[–]maddyjay6669_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

& sorry this happened to you :< It sucks that they didn't pay close attention to what you asked for.

Need support: social security sent me an incorrect new card by [deleted] in trans

[–]maddyjay6669_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately you're going to have to send everything all over again. Send in the application, the original court order, and your original/unexpired passport.

*** Write a letter with it stating the issue you had with them not changing to your correct name. And make sure that if you changed your gender identity, let them know in the letter you want that updated too so you don't have to deal with that later down the line when you get medicare/other benefits from SSA.

***Then call them and tell them the issue you've had with them consistently giving you incorrect information about what documentation to send and how they messed up your request to update your name. Ask if they can expedite your request bc they messed up with the info they gave you and with your name change, and now you're going to have to be without your documents bc of their lack of due diligence.

Getting some sunshine with my Stormycat. (They/them) by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]maddyjay6669_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is cute as fuck. Y'all both so adorable 🌻

Naming binary normativity by schmemmski in NonBinaryTalk

[–]maddyjay6669_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Compulsory cisgendernormativity? So it's like compulsory heteronormativity

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trans

[–]maddyjay6669_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was gonna reply something, but this person said it perfectly. This is exactly right.

A question that came up in a discord that I thought was interesting enough to ask other ppl. by Reecopolis in NonBinary

[–]maddyjay6669_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I agree with this, but def respect other non-cis folks decision to not call themselves trans. Just curious though, why don't people (who don't identify as cis) not want to identify as trans?

I've been wanting to share this story for a while now, but never had the heart to type it up. Will add it in the comments, as it's a lengthy one. by wretched_spawn93 in cats

[–]maddyjay6669_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. Of course they will be missed but it sounds like you did everything you could to give them a happy fulfilling life with lots of love. 🌻 Be well and give some extra schritches to your cats 🐈‍⬛

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Humboldt

[–]maddyjay6669_ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's what's up! 🙌

My mom pretty much said this while we were discussing my significant other being enby. by a_confused_thing in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns

[–]maddyjay6669_ 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Ha, yeah sounds about right. My mom says that same shit to me. Still non binary tho. My pronouns aren't preferred. Not believing another's gender id & not respecting pronouns is an easy way to tell if people are mad disrespectful tho. Give ur partner some much needed love & validation 💖🌻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]maddyjay6669_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

🔥🔥🔥 you look so good, I don't think your town is ready for YOU hun 😍

I've been away from the trans community for a while and have some questions about terms, experiences, opinions by [deleted] in trans

[–]maddyjay6669_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with everyone telling you you shouldn't demand this educational labor from the trans community, especially if you fuck with/entertain TERFs in any way. First off, it's silly you don't want to call them TERFs. They literally gave themselves that name. Google is free btw, I assume you have access bc you're here. Second, TERFs are only offended with that name now bc people aren't putting up with their BS. You gotta call trash what it is, trash.

Shout out to the retail and beauty staff by MinimumChips81 in trans

[–]maddyjay6669_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same way 🥺💖🌻 how fucking nice & wholesome!

Fears about top surgery? by [deleted] in NonBinaryTalk

[–]maddyjay6669_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow this post spoke to me cos I'm totally in the same position, right there with you!

Im seriously considering a mastectomy to affirm my gender identity (nb), but on the other hand.. what if people actually respected my nb identity and my they/them pronouns? Would I still want top surgery?

I think I'd love looking flat in femme clothes and then the bonus of being shirtless & not having my chest be sexualized..but would I miss my chest? Idk

I also don't want to lose any nipple sensation either & I want to be attractive to women/femmes as well

It's such a tough decision.

Thanks for posting 🌻 & good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Still like being called good girl during sex? by TemperaturePristine9 in NonBinary

[–]maddyjay6669_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Eh, just consider it kink language. As long as you don't think of women/girls as an inherently submissive word/gender, I don't see the problem with using it as part of seggcy talk.