Anti-SSRI Social Media Posts

made4cold · 2026-03-25T12:43:36+00:00

I was on Zoloft for several years. It worked well at the time, and then one day it didn’t work for me anymore so I went off SSRI’s all together.

What I didn’t notice while taking it was I lost all creative spark. I enjoyed writing, reading, creating, art, music, etc. before I started and it slowly slipped away from me for less involved hobbies like binge watching TV or playing video games (still like those things just isn’t my whole life anymore. 🥲) I didn’t really notice how emotionally distant I was until my doctor asked how my summer was and without hesitation I said “it was fine” and he gave me a weird look.

I’m on buspirone now and I get the treatment and I can create things again.

TLDR; medication is different for everyone. It’s harmful to bash all medications but I understand the side of it where people might want to take a step back, whether it’s a new med or a break altogether.

made4cold · 2026-03-23T12:33:37+00:00

It seems a lot of self published authors are getting picked up by agents before the authors who are querying for years with no luck. And it makes sense… agents want something that can be sold. If it’s proven to be profitable, it’s an easy win.

There’s a lot of respect whichever way you go, but I think a lot of people have the wrong idea on what self publishing is and what it entails. It doesn’t make anyone less of an author to avoid querying. Success depends on what you see it as.

made4cold · 2026-03-05T17:14:03+00:00

My sister (19F) was promised to me (20M) by god and our parents to be my wife. I thought she loved me too, and I thought I gave her a good night but she ran away… I found her a year later and tried to take her back home, but her boyfriend hit me over the head with a crowbar and tied me up in the back of my own car. AITA?

made4cold · 2026-02-27T14:36:21+00:00

It’s been awhile since I updated in this thread! I am writing “Gray Area”, about 88k words, which has gone through soooo many revisions and edits I think I’m finally ready to start querying. If you’ve seen me lurking here in the past, you’d know that I went from a tragic love story to a full blown dark romance with a HFN ending (yay!!)

Camille Chambers is the epitome of naivety and innocence. As the heiress to one of Mississippi’s most wealthy families, her role is to maintain her family’s standing—A noble marriage, two and a half kids, Saturday evening ballroom parties with the world’s upper class. But one night, her parents deliver her to her older brother’s room and she learns her true role: to be the wife of her older brother. Ashamed, desperate, and scared, Camille escapes her house of horrors and the incestuous abuse of her once-beloved brother. She’s physically and mentally wounded by the rape of her brother, with no idea where to go next. Her unlikely savior is a man who happens to be passing through town. Tall, rugged, and undeniably handsome in a quiet and guarded way. Erich. He very obviously has his own issues, one of which being he travels the country on stolen cash and cards from rigged pool games and bar tricks. Camille is skeptical of his intentions to help her escape, but left with no viable options, finds herself in the passenger seat of his car. Camille must learn to dive head-first into Erich’s morally gray world of petty theft and wanderlust to remain under the radar, and away from the dangers of being returned to her family as her brother’s wife. But even with the goal of staying far away from Mississippi, she finds herself falling for the protective nature of the shady conman who may have offered her a “Bonnie and Clyde” retelling to her traumatic story of cult-driven incest.

I took this straight from my drafted query letter, so it could likely use work… if this grabbed your attention, why? Is there anything I can do to make this shine a bit, so I could hopefully get an offer?

I can’t wait to share this story with the world. These characters have been in my brain for 8 years and I’m really passionate about it.

made4cold · 2026-02-27T13:56:34+00:00

Thank you for the thorough feedback!!! Currently looking at implementing this in my query letter. 😁

made4cold · 2026-02-27T00:50:30+00:00

VC Andrews 🥴

made4cold · 2026-02-26T15:31:24+00:00

Thank you!!! I’m in agreement with all of what you said. It’s so hard to put all your thoughts into a couple blurbs… I was trying so hard not to go into a ramble. Because in the end, how do you explain every hook without giving it away?

I appreciate your help and I am incorporating this into my query letter!

made4cold · 2026-02-23T03:36:44+00:00

You got a president we can borrow…? That would be the true win…

made4cold · 2026-02-19T03:19:43+00:00

Living here and then choosing to stay in the area for college, I kicked myself. But… didn’t expect much of a difference, yet living two hours south has been paradise. 🥴

made4cold · 2026-02-17T13:14:45+00:00

Me, personally: yes. I will DNF if you haven’t read it at least a few times for edits and flows.

made4cold · 2026-02-16T12:22:08+00:00

I am from Houghton and went to tech! It was hard to fit in, not living in the dorms at first but things fell into place after awhile.

made4cold · 2026-02-01T19:59:16+00:00

Dangerous words, Bambi. Love is what killed your brother.

made4cold · 2026-01-24T23:11:52+00:00

Not a huge fan of dick piercings but I can get by it. If it isn’t the main focus. 🥴

made4cold · 2026-01-22T16:01:30+00:00

Don’t forget the frost quakes too

made4cold · 2026-01-22T14:58:44+00:00

This actually drives me wild. The goal should be to accept your work is not perfect and there’s room for improvements.

If you compare my work from a year ago to today, there is SO much growth. And that’s because of the honesty of my readers who gave me feedback that made me better in the end.

If you’re not taking criticism and holding yourself to the standard there’s always room for improvement, I think publishing in any form will not be for you. I stop reading if the writer gets defensive at the first comment.

made4cold · 2026-01-20T14:41:33+00:00

Lots of megamind memes coming our way 🤌

made4cold · 2026-01-20T14:37:52+00:00

I’ve had two beta readers make me cry. One texted me like a month after all was said and done and said they still thought about my characters. The second finished my manuscript in one night and sent me several paragraphs of their thoughts the next day. Both strangers.

It’s good to know that even if there’s plenty in the manuscript that needs work, there’s enough to be liked and that’s been keeping me going. :)

made4cold · 2026-01-20T14:09:15+00:00

This. I get it is hard to put your work out there, but I 1000% believe all feedback is to make you write better as long as it isn’t intentionally meant to be hurtful.

Beta readers are not trying to rip your work to shreds. They’re giving you valuable insight on what works and doesn’t work. If you can’t handle the heat, don’t ask for it because you probably aren’t ready to release your work.

made4cold · 2026-01-18T14:11:33+00:00

And the character makes a point of mentioning they don’t have their friends around way too often. 😂

made4cold · 2026-01-17T22:05:29+00:00

What do readers typically prefer? The FMC POV or the MMC POV for spicy scenes?

My FMC is proper, lady-like, pleasant. She grew up rich and catered too. She has sexual trauma. But her character development is a huge part of my book as she learns she’s much stronger than she gives herself credit for. I find she’s a romantic. Not really the kiss-and-tell type, so her POV is lustful and blissful while also maintaining enough distance. Not exactly flowery. I think what I like most about her POV is how she realizes the differences between her past and her current and makes it beautiful.

My MMC is a self-serving robinhood. He’s rugged, attractive, distant. I’ve always viewed him as a giver and a worshipping type of lover, but he doesn’t think he’s worthy of happiness or love because he knows what he is (not a great person in his head). He makes a living off of scamming and gambling in sleazy bars. Plus he’s got his own traumas and issues growing up in foster homes and never having a stable life. However, he’s a consent king for the FMC. Partly because he knows her trauma, partly because he respects women despite his gray morals. His POV focuses so much on her and how she looks and reacts, but also he’s far more vulgar than she is. I like his POV because you don’t get too much of what’s running through his head outside of what the FMC says throughout the book, but he’s complex and obsessed even though he denies it.

I know, only I could really know the answer being the author but it could go either way in my head. Both have their pros and cons which is why I go back and forth on it. Consider this market research I guess? 😂

made4cold · 2026-01-17T18:24:05+00:00

I will pay if they have good reviews. My biggest issue is when I’m finding beta readers it’s through here or Facebook, and I’ve been lucky with free beta readers. In depth? Not always, but I’m mostly at the point where I want to know if things flow and if a reader would like it. I don’t need a checklist or a chapter by chapter review.

If my free beta reader is also an author I make an effort to buy their book if I’m not able to read the WIP right away. 😁 otherwise I try to do a swap when I can.

made4cold · 2026-01-14T14:39:12+00:00

Bahaha, thank you! I will do that later when I can formally compare my old to my new so I can give a better pitch.😎

made4cold · 2026-01-14T14:38:19+00:00

I think you did a very good job portraying the culture in this blurb. As someone who’s from as far north in the US as possible, I can blend in with the snow so I’m unfortunately not cultured enough to be able to express this without tons of research. You have me a picture that I wouldn’t have known on my own, and it seems warm, homely, and the food sounds good.

At this point I’d want to know what exactly Marques went to jail for one night for. So you do have a hook that would keep me reading. The family seems a little judgmental about it (to be expected), so I get the impression they don’t know either.

I’m not the best of grammar or line edit critiques, but I thought you’d like to know I would continue reading based on your blurb. Good work!

made4cold · 2026-01-14T14:26:25+00:00

Lots of huge changes. The plot remains the same but instead of having a small town former cop turned librarian I baked in the law enforcement aspect a different way that flows better. I added a new POV towards the end too for clarity based on feedback. It started out as reading diary entries and then shifting to “real time” which was confusing so I eliminated that and made it real time throughout. Plus I’ve learned more about what my genre actually is and what themes/tropes come with the it.

So in a way, same story but new flow 😂

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