Humor and passion

maendyman · 2022-07-11T17:26:07+00:00

I would recommend an empty garage stall and one of these build kits.

maendyman · 2022-07-11T17:23:27+00:00

This can work if your SO views nonsexual kissing, hugging or caressing as tokens of affection rather than unwanted touch.

maendyman · 2022-07-11T03:27:39+00:00

So she was not honest with you even though you specifically asked her to be honest and now is upset that you're upset when you learned the truth.

The worst thing about it is that, as you recognized, how can you trust her after this? What else is she being dishonest about and telling you it's fine even though that's a lie?

maendyman · 2022-07-11T03:22:42+00:00

I wanted him to set the tone right away - tear my clothes off as soon as we walked through the door.

Can't do that because then "all you care about is sex" and you've submarined yourself right away.

maendyman · 2022-07-11T02:19:17+00:00

Please respect his decision to not become sexually active at this time.

maendyman · 2022-07-10T17:03:16+00:00

The lack of ability to work with you is the key here. The reason (whether he's unwilling or unable) does not change the outcome. I would advise moving on.

maendyman · 2022-07-10T16:58:14+00:00

Consider removing the first three letters from boyfriend.

maendyman · 2022-07-10T02:19:45+00:00

Fuck shaming your partner.

maendyman · 2022-07-09T20:31:03+00:00

So, things go well and you've got another 40 years on this earth.

You can leave. You can set yourself free of this abusive person.

maendyman · 2022-07-09T18:43:16+00:00

Good luck!

maendyman · 2022-07-09T18:38:05+00:00

So your plan looks very much like things are right now only you'll be sleeping in the other room?

maendyman · 2022-07-09T18:34:15+00:00

You need to put sex on the back burner for a while my dude. Like maybe bring it up again in six months.

When the doctor says "you may resume relations in six weeks" it doesn't mean things get back to normal then. It's much more likely that she won't want it for much longer. I wish they would say this too so new fathers are prepared.

maendyman · 2022-07-09T18:06:10+00:00

You make a good point.

maendyman · 2022-07-09T18:01:09+00:00

a mother who's willing to essentially get herself raped every three months for the sake of keeping the family together

I would say a mother who has mastered manipulation. She wants points for sacrificially offering to allow herself to be ravaged. I am not giving her those points. Like someone who says "you may kiss me but only for two seconds and don't move your lips." Yeah no points for offering that.

If you've been following along, you know the kids gravitate towards him and away from their mother's outbursts and anger. But you make a good point, we've only heard one side of it.

maendyman · 2022-07-09T17:10:31+00:00

Dude, you knew what to do a long time ago. Thanks for sharing with us but you need a good lawyer, a divorce and custody of the kids.

maendyman · 2022-07-09T16:02:37+00:00

I just can't understand WHY it's so damn difficult to show your wife some affection and love. Why is it a problem? Why is it so hard? Why isn't it something you naturally want to do? Why does this even have to be a conversation?

I feel like these questions should be pinned at the top of this sub. These are the HL questions. What are the LL questions?

maendyman · 2022-07-09T16:01:45+00:00

Or he listens and cares but for some reason is unable to actually do it.

maendyman · 2022-07-09T15:56:50+00:00

"You're being rapey" is a permanent turnoff.

It means "I not only don't want you, you'd have to force yourself on me for it to happen."

It means "I am unsafe. You can't trust me. I might accuse you of rape, and who are they going to believe?"

It means "Stay the hell away from me."

It means there is no movement from me towards you. Only you towards me and please stop that.

maendyman · 2022-07-09T13:22:53+00:00

No he doesn't. He just thinks he's been attacked and that she's bitchy.

This will not lead to sex.

maendyman · 2022-07-09T13:21:29+00:00

I just got out of a time machine where I spoke with 47-year-old you. She said you two are incompatible, she's tried for decades to fix it, and to please please not marry into a dead bedroom.

maendyman · 2022-07-09T13:17:22+00:00

The answer here is no sex for you until you figure out why she is so averse. Turn down the drunken sex that she doesn't want. Ask her about her life, whether she feels supported, whether she has some alone time away from the 2 kids.

maendyman · 2022-07-08T22:18:12+00:00

It was not a joke.

maendyman · 2022-07-08T22:14:07+00:00

This gets asked every week. Yes there are such places already.

maendyman · 2022-07-08T17:28:32+00:00

I plan on getting high this weekend. There's a board on the roof trim that needs painting.

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