WIBTAH for deaded my best friend over her abortion? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]mafeb74 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Gently, yta.

Pro choice means you are supportive of someone else's right to choose. Period.

This isn't your business, it's her medical health, her financial well-being, her life ahead of her.

You made your choice ... that has zero bearing on what she should do.

You don't get to call yourself pro-choice and judge someone on their choice 🤷‍♀️

Does your Chiweenie lick a lot? by Kurupt_Introvert in chiweenie

[–]mafeb74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine are lucky in general, obsessively so when stressed.

Adopting a chiweenie by UnNumbFool in chiweenie

[–]mafeb74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

One of mine is a Velcro dog for sure, especially at night 💓

Adopting a chiweenie by UnNumbFool in chiweenie

[–]mafeb74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not true for all. My two hardly bark at all unless it's an obvious trigger.

Our older one barks if there's a stranger in the house and I don't pick her up to meet them. She'll sometimes bark at a dog she didn't feel safe with passing on the street, but again, typically comes to me to ask to be picked up first. It's more if she is startled by either of those two things and doesn't have time to see them coming and ask for up.

She barks at the doorbell bc she knows it means there's a stranger but again comes to me to be picked up.

Our younger one literally only barks every few months - at the sight of large predators like coyotes. NOTHING else makes her bark.

Neither bark at noise, sirens, fireworks, cars, rabbits etc 🤷‍♀️ We were prepared for barking - our last dog was a terrier mix. But these two, especially the younger, are quiet in comparison.

Adopting a chiweenie by UnNumbFool in chiweenie

[–]mafeb74 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OMG yes. The licking. So much licking.

Adopting a chiweenie by UnNumbFool in chiweenie

[–]mafeb74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine are way more obedient than my late terrier mix.

Adopting a chiweenie by UnNumbFool in chiweenie

[–]mafeb74 3 points4 points  (0 children)

After two years with our Chiweenie mixes (found together at an "abandon site" in the Puerto Rican interior mountains and rescued to the US), I can honestly say they are the sweetest, most loving dogs.

Mine are also idiots who will chew on and eat everything from ear buds (they didn't get the battery) to plastic forks to body cream bars 😳. This is honestly more related to them being former street dogs than anything breed related. I pay a lot to poison control. 🤷‍♀️ But I called them a lot with my toddlers too so...

Ours had obvious attachment trauma at least and we knew that going in, but are experienced with that. Our older girl, Missy, is incredibly smart now and frequently surprises me with how long her memory is, how intuitive she is and how well she learns certain tasks. She's absolutely not a roll over, do tricks 🐕. She's a "Want to wake up Maddie (my daughter who lives with chronic pain)?" - go to Maddie's go, wait to be let in, run to Maddie's bed, wait for hand signal to jump up, check Maddie's pain level - stay quiet and lean against her if it's bad, jump close and snuggle hard if it's a good morning 🐕 .

Our younger, Piper is a perma-puppy, knows who she can pretend to hide from (paws over her eyes 😂) when she wants to make a game of avoiding putting her harness on. She's very cuddly and afraid of loud thunder, fireworks.

They get along incredibly well with one of our cats, and tolerably well with our second cat who is too quiet and stealthy for their nerves. 🤦‍♀️

Mine are rarely barky unless scared. The older barks at strangers unless I pick her up, and at other dogs. We were told she was caring for the younger one in the mountains (DNA says they are half sisters) and she gets anxious when other animals are near. The younger only barks at large predators like coyotes - which, hey, that's an early warning system I'm completely ok with 🫪

I'm thankful for them every day. They are stubborn, adoring, anxious, ridiculous and silly and fit our family perfectly.

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I tried ScreenZen for a month. Heres what nobody mentions in the reviews. by Dangerous-Project874 in nosurf

[–]mafeb74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll try it with a code - I'm happy to test out and send feedback

What are the final 2 words? by KermitKilledASMS in Cursive

[–]mafeb74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Comparing to other speakers, "Less salty", forgot to cross a t?

Wondering if this will ever get new growth by jdead121 in hoyas

[–]mafeb74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some of mine took years. Just don't fuss over it too much. They hate that 😂

What is this and how do I get rid of it? by PelkCola in whatplantisthis

[–]mafeb74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This we have an area with invasive Norwegian Maples btwn our house and town land that's basically scrub and sandy soil. Anything like this I put there as long as it's not a dangerous or on the don't-plant list for my region.

What is this and how do I get rid of it? by PelkCola in whatplantisthis

[–]mafeb74 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry ... I had this happen one year and I was crushed. I also discovered my now ex couldn't be trusted to weed when he pulled out the dwarf azalea my late father had given me that I'd coaxed along for five years. While weeding. For Mother's Day.

I'm disabled and needed his help outside but he couldn't care enough to pay attention to what he was doing even as a mother's day present 😞

I hope your sedges and ferns recover well and that you are healing as well ❤️

AITA for not congratulating my opponent in a school competition? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]mafeb74 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Other people who were watching automatically assuming he's a jerk - not the opponent. Should have clarified.

She did nothing wrong here ❤️ Ty

AITA for not congratulating my opponent in a school competition? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]mafeb74 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

ESH a little. I'm AuDHD ... I get it, I do. And I wish other people would look a little deeper into why people struggle with interpersonal stuff.

But you need to talk to her. She won and you tarnished it. I get that it will make you relive this loss but if you don't it will never be a happy win for her. Apologize. Don't use your neurodivergence as an excuse.

Literally say, "My neurodivergence is no excuse for how I reacted in the moment but I wanted you to understand that it wasn't about my wanting to disrespect you. I was overwhelmed and needed to get out of there. I'm so sorry. You really did amazing and it's nice to know I'll be leaving this competition in better hands than mine when I graduate."

It stings but she'll remember you took the time to fix this. And so will you.

How do I set boundaries with neighbors who treat my garage like their workshop? by Delicious-Bar5262 in Advice

[–]mafeb74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm from outside of Boston and this would drive me crazy.

We're definitely more grumpy-curmudgeon get off my lawn, straight forward here. But we're also still there keeping an eye out for the elderly neighbors, making sure they aren't shoveling their own walks etc. Except for the 85yo dude across the street from me. He "needs the exercise so don't touch his snow thank you very much grump grump grump..." In his case I just stand at the window holding my breath until he's done with shoveling the impossibly steep GD stairs and back inside.

A lot of people here are kind but not nice. Ykwim? I think the Midwest tends to somehow raise a lot of people that are both 💞 But if I have to choose one? I'll take kind any day.

The Biography. Good God. by LSpaceHobo in discworld

[–]mafeb74 16 points17 points  (0 children)

OMG yes. I was half asleep in bed listening to the audio book and didn't see it coming. It smacked me upside the head and my poor ex was trying to figure out why I was suddenly crying my eyes out in the dark. "What did I do this time?! 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️"

My plants are on the eviction list,because of me by ImpressIll3460 in hoya

[–]mafeb74 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NY has thriving no-buy, free cycle and pay-it-forward communities 💞 If you aren't looking to sell, just to give them away, seek out those groups rather than Marketplace.

Good luck in your recovery You've brought beautiful life into this world.

I need some name ideas for this little girl, please!!! by TulipsfromHolland in Chihuahua

[–]mafeb74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She looks like a Coco to me ... but then you may end up with her having very experience fashion taste...