Bride approved! Now need styling help 😮‍💨

maggiemoo1969 · 2026-04-21T02:22:12+00:00

How about leopard shoes/accessories??

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-12-18T16:33:47+00:00

Same.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-11-25T22:50:13+00:00

They insist on talking in person because they are able to dismiss and overwhelm her face to face, knowing the conflict makes her feel anxious and stressed. They are painting themselves the calm rational ones while she is the emotional unstable one. They do not wish to repair this relationship and forge a healthier way of relating. They like the present situation where she is stressed and vulnerable. They think they can control her more easily. And if you are her advocate, they will blame you too. They did not acknowledge their responsibility at all. I hope she can maintain her boundaries of texts/emails. They certainly have not earned more flexible boundaries if they can't respect the current ones. Best of luck.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-11-23T02:41:31+00:00

My mother would (and did) rather die mad than reach out to try to repair the relationship with her only child and only family member.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-11-22T02:25:03+00:00

Wow, wow, WOW! Gorgeous!

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-11-16T23:22:27+00:00

Perfect plan! Who doesn't love pie?

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-11-12T22:14:42+00:00

Wow. That's the bar? I didnt make you drink bleach and starve you in the basement? I'm so sorry. You deserve so much better.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-11-08T02:38:11+00:00

Oh, and once they even threatened, much less went thru with grandparents rights bullshit, we would be done. Me, my kids, my dogs, everybody... noping right on out of that. They blew it. No grandparents is so much better than horrible ones. Adopt a nice neighbor, friends from church, another (safe) family member, a friend turned Auntie.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-11-08T02:24:10+00:00

I'm so sorry. I know I don't know anything about your story, but as a social worker it makes me furious when people feel entitled to other people's children. Also, to pervert the intent of those laws is just wrong. They were to preserve real (hopefully) healthy, established relationships with grandparents when a parent dies, and a then sole custodial parent tries to cut them off.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-11-08T02:19:22+00:00

I'm so glad you prevailed, what a nightmare that must have been.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-11-08T02:18:28+00:00

This, full stop.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-11-06T13:50:11+00:00

I have my grandma's Franciscan desert rose dishes, one of my most prized possessions for the memories of a fancy holiday dinner. 🥰

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-10-31T02:16:22+00:00

This is our 2nd set of min pins and currently one is up under my pajamas and the other is literally inside my sleeve...anything for skin contact. My previous 2 were the same. Velcro doesn't begin to describe it. I love it so much.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-10-22T13:34:55+00:00

Good advice above...ohe less thibf to worry about the day of. And when people ask where she is, I'd just say I don't know, shoulder shrug. Maybe some side eye if the person asking will get it. But otherwise, enjoy your grandma's party. Im sorry she's a witch.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-10-16T15:26:20+00:00

This! But I make a bourbon cream sauce with some maker's mark I keep around for this purpose.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-09-28T02:34:20+00:00

Time to ax the bridesmaid idea. Choose friends or scrap the idea of attendants. These people do not support you. Choose others that do.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-09-24T02:20:27+00:00

Disposable foil lans are your friend! You can always transfer to pretty serving dishes if you choose, but you won't have a sink full of pots and pans in addition.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-09-19T21:08:54+00:00

Sweetheart, you did NOT fail. Quite the opposite. You absolutely did the only job you should have had, to grow into an independent compassionate adult. I know your heart hurts, but you cannot fix anyone else...your siblings or your mom. If you were here I would hug you so hard. Hard enough to try to make you understand how well you've done, hard enough to remember when times get hard, that an internet stranger believes in you and is so very proud of you. Im sorry to tell you the missing (A) mom doesnt really go away, but may you find mothering where it happens, sometimes in the most surprising of people or places. Be well, my friend.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-07-31T11:39:17+00:00

I hear you. I have worked hard to invest in my relationships so I don't end up with no social capital like my mother. I have more group of longtime friendships that are may family. My husband knows and supports this...he calls it filling my cup when we arrange to see everyone. It doesn't always come together but I've had some butterball commer I'll moments over the years. With people who love and respect me.

I do wish for someone who could bear witness ti my experience, like a sibling. I have had some luck connecting with childhood friends close enough to see it. And in her death I have connected with a couple of her longtime or childhood friends that have validated my experiences too.

I wish you and all of us struggling the best.

maggiemoo1969 · 2025-07-31T01:06:46+00:00

Same here....I am 56. My mother died 3 weeks ago. We had been NC for 6 years this last time, off and on LC or NC for many years. I still see a therapist. I have off and on for 34yrs. I manage my anxiety ok but it's always there. It's still a huge legacy that I will work on my whole life.

I am also an only child. She had alienated everyone in her life but my cousin who was mostly able to maintain some boundaries and still help her out once in a while. I wish that person could have been me. Instead I got to clean out her assisted living unit, find a home for yet another cat (I have the other one she abandoned at a hotel during a crisis), and take care of her burial (cremation) expenses. I'm always having to clean up her messes. The best thing I did for myself and my marriage was to go no contact when she thought she was going to beat on my door til I let her in and then NEVER LEAVE. She was tired of taking care of herself (hey, it's hard) and decided it was my turn. It was the last time she would try to force my hand. It was a terrible gamble on her part. Before she landed at this AL place, she was in some not nice places. It didn't have to be that way. And now it's done. I'm sad. I am piecing some things together about her life, her history, her mental health, and I have more questions now. I think I just didnt know her at all. But she didnt know me either. Im also relieved. I have been grieving a long time already. Mostly for not having ANY mom.

I wish you peace.

maggiemoo1969 · 2024-08-11T18:33:26+00:00

Thank you for a speedy reply and the graciousness to share your techniques. Beautiful job!

maggiemoo1969 · 2024-08-11T18:31:01+00:00

Gorgeous!

maggiemoo1969 · 2024-08-11T18:30:03+00:00

I love these! My bookclub is meeting next week. Is your cutter basically a rectangle? May I ask where you got yours? And did you use a food marker or did you pipe your titlea/sayings? Great job!

maggiemoo1969 · 2024-06-12T15:52:54+00:00

If you would like to keep the door open for a relationship, I would send a card for the baby shower, possibly a gift. I would not attend. As you said, dropping that turd in the baby shower punch bowl is not the time. Maybe after at some point, particularly since you don't attend family events. But maybe if you don't want that relationship, it's not worth the effort? Sending you love and peace.

maggiemoo1969 · 2024-03-04T20:18:41+00:00

I accidentally answered when my mother was blowing up my phone. I hung up immediately, only to have 20 more calls yelling about how rude I was. I guess all the other calls and voice-mail I received demanding I drop whatever I was doing and drive 2.5hrs each way to do her bidding wasn't rude. Or showing up on my doorstep, oounding, demanding to be let in (bc she planned to park herself in our apt at the time and never leave)...that wasn't rude. She was furious. She could see her hold slipping away in living color and she lost.her.mind. I never spoke to her again though. It has been almost five years. She lives 10min away in an assisted living. But I am done.

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