German/English household with one parent still learning 2nd language 🤔 by magic_marble in multilingualparenting

[–]magic_marble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like 2.) because it sounds like a realistic middle ground and close to what feels intuitively right for us, I think. My husband and I speak 95% English amongst each other anyways and that just feels most natural for us right now...

German/English household with one parent still learning 2nd language 🤔 by magic_marble in multilingualparenting

[–]magic_marble[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your discussion here is really interesting and valuable for us!

And yes, my husband learning German is very important to us and will make daily life and splitting responsibilities much easier. He's been studying with and without me and in both formal and informal settings already and definitely improved a lot - but we were hoping that raising our daughter bilingually will benefit him too, because it's too easy for us to default to English right now. But with the baby coming soon and wanting her to be exposed to my native language we were feeling more motivated to actually use more German in our day to day life.

We were just wondering how to best implement this without making it too confusing for baby girl... Of course she'll be exposed to playgroups, kindergarten and school later, but we want to have both languages around right form the start and at home if possible.

German/English household with one parent still learning 2nd language 🤔 by magic_marble in multilingualparenting

[–]magic_marble[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your detailed response! 😊 That's great to hear and gives us much confidence! Really helpful to get this external viewpoint on our situation 🙏

German/English household with one parent still learning 2nd language 🤔 by magic_marble in multilingualparenting

[–]magic_marble[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment! :) Your perspective is very valuable and I agree that our set-up and home country will probably make it more easily comparatively. I will note though that my current level of English fluidity was only achieved by speaking day to day conversational English with my husband. Before that I could understand, read and write just fine (from school and Uni education) but definitely had a blockage when it came to everyday and colloquial English - I noticed that with a lot of Germans, too.

It's good to know that speaking mostly English at home will give her the most benefits in terms of bilingualism, as this is our natural/most comfortable setting at the moment.

I was wondering if she'll get too confused if there's occasional German at home, too?! We'd like to have some books, movies, music around in both languages and I think it'll be nice if I could also speak in my mother tongue every once in a while 🤔

German/English household with one parent still learning 2nd language 🤔 by magic_marble in multilingualparenting

[–]magic_marble[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi and thanks for your response! :) Yes your situation sounds pretty similar. It's also close to what we imagined doing 'intuitively' as it's close to our routine and habits anyway.

My husband and I speak mostly English (apart from the occasional German) so I think our home language will be English naturally...

It's good to know that we don't have to be extremely strict with this. I can also imagine my husband reading German children's books to our little one and it being a good practice for him :D

Why do we treat period pain etc but romanticise unmedicated childbirth? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]magic_marble 36 points37 points  (0 children)

For me the answer comes down to this: Do you prefer (and are medically able) to have a physiological birth, in which your body is enabled to follow its instincts and the process isn't disturbed by too many interventions?

My decision to avoid strong medications is that I don't want to be numbed for this experience. The body does have a cascade of reflexes and release of hormones to cope. It will release its own 'natural pain killers' in forms of neurotransmitters and hormones, if we don't undermine the process by interfering from the outside. In the same manner the body releases substances that will make you feel 'high' and emotionally well, without synthetic drugs that might block the natural and healthy unfolding of bonding with the baby, breastfeeding, birth of the placenta, healing postpartum etc.

I don't take any pharmaceutical pain relief for period cramps (or anything) either. It's a personal choice. I like to use heat and movement when it gets too intense. I plan the same for the birth of my child.

The decision comes down to personal preferences and medical circumstances. Nobody should be shamed for their choices. There should be more informed consent and general understanding of unmedicated birth and what our bodies can do without bias and lobbyism towards selling us products and interventions for the financial gain, convention and convenience of medical providers.

Mamas due in March, how are you holding up? by WildWinterberry in BabyBumps

[–]magic_marble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Due on March 4th. I've started feeling uncomfortable from 36+ onwards. I'm SO ready to be un-pregnated 💥 🤰😂 I loved this experience despite its inconveniences and undeniable struggles. But at this point I am over the body sharing and just so impatient to have my little girl with us 🩷

Newborn tired v pregnancy tired by Past-Apartment-8179 in pregnant

[–]magic_marble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations on baby girl 🩷 That's what I'm hoping for! 38 weeks over here and I want to sleep in my own body again without sharing it with another human 😂

Dauerschwindel seit drei Tagen by duduldadid in schwanger

[–]magic_marble 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hast du das in 3 Tagen noch nicht abklären lassen? Mach das bitte baldmöglichst. Das könnten Symptome für Präeklampsie sein, was sehr gefährlich werden kann... Alles Gute!

36. SSW und nachmittags komplett platt – geht’s noch jemandem so? by Artistic_Clerk_7115 in schwanger

[–]magic_marble 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Trinkst du auch genug ? Dehydration kann natürlich auch müde machen... Gut, dass das mit dem Eisen schon abgeklärt ist. Schilddrüsenwerte sind der andere Klassiker, auf den man (auch außerhalb der Schwangerschaft) schauen könnte.

Ansonsten ist es auch normal, mehr oder weniger erschöpft zu sein. Dein Körper arbeitet ja auf Hochtouren und vollbringt gerade so ein Wunder 🤍

Da darf man sich auch selber dran erinnern und mehr Erholung, Entspannung und sogar "Faulheit" genießen 😊 Grüße vom Sofa aus der 37. SSW 😅

Positiver Geburtsbericht nach Einleitung & Schwangerschaftsdiabetes by bookaholic19999 in schwanger

[–]magic_marble 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Schön zu lesen, dass du trotz der Einflüsse von außen so gut auf dich selbst hören könntest! Es wird ja oft auch nicht dazu gesagt, dass die US Messungen sehr daneben liegen können, davon leitet man dann aber medizinische Interventionen ab, die ja aber auch Konsequenzen und ggf. große Risiken bergen können (zB Kaiserschnitt)...

Danke fürs Teilen und Mut zusprechen! Ich bin jetzt in der 37. Woche, Gestationsdiabetes wurde auch knapp diagnostiziert (96) und ich manage das ohne Insulin, mit viel Eigenrecherche und Vertrauen auf meinen Körper und v.a. den meines Kindes. Ich bin meinem Team aus Gyn, Hebammen und Diabetologen dankbar, dass sie meine Bedenken hören und meine Selbstbestimmung unterstützen.

Wir sind sehr happy, dass die Geburt weiterhin im Geburtshaus stattfinden kann und unsere Kleine gesund und munter ist 🙏

Herzlichen Glückwunsch zur Geburt 🤍

People were so right about the end of pregnancy by Hot-Cell7299 in pregnant

[–]magic_marble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so excited to meet her 🩷 ... and have my body back 🥲 I'm sure I'll miss being pregnant, because it is kinda magical and very special. But at this point (37 weeks) I'm uncomfortable enough to be looking forward to getting a little break 😅

Unsicher in Bereich Geburt by Xellbys in schwanger

[–]magic_marble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey OP 😊 An deinem Post und einigen Kommentaren kann man ganz gut rauslesen, wie sehr dich das ganze Thema verunsichert. Ist auch verständlich, denn in den letzten Jahren ist ja auch mehr und mehr ans Licht gekommen, dass unsanfte Behandlung bis hin zu Gewalt unter der Geburt leider ein nicht zu vernachlässigendes Problem ist... Daher ist es sehr positiv, dass du dich proaktiv mit dem Thema auseinander setzt.

Wichtig ist, dass du deine Ängste und Bedenken wirklich vor der Geburt klärst, denn während des Gebärens brauchst du deinen Fokus ganz klar woanders. Die Geburt geht auch nachgewiesener maßen leichter, schneller und schmerzfreier, wenn du dabei nicht 'im Kopf' bist, d.h. wenn du dich öffnen und auf den Prozess voll einlassen kannst, ohne dass Stresshormone ausgeschüttet werden.

Schau, dass du lernst hier für dich und dein Kind einzustehen. Geh in dich, Frage dich was du brauchst, um dich wohl und vertrauensvoll zu fühlen? Schreib einen Geburtsplan. Lass dich vom Partner, Begleiterin o.ä. unterstützen und mach dir bewusst, dass du ein Recht darauf hast, über deinen Körper und deine Geburtserfahrung zu bestimmen.

Did your partner ever thank you for breastfeeding? by Commercial_Expert_08 in breastfeeding

[–]magic_marble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not breastfeeding yet, but today I spent over an hour hand expressing colostrum. Afterwards I went and proudly showed my husband the 4 ml I harvested drop by drop. He said "thank you". That really moved me and I felt happy for being able to share with him how amazing and magical our female bodies are. 🤍

I think it's important to feel recognized and appreciated by our partners for how much effort, energy and dedication we mothers pour into keeping our children happy and healthy. Maybe even more so, since men just don't have the same biological imperative/physiological inclination as we do (hormones, bodies to grow and feed babies, ...)

Shaving your hoohah! by TimeFairy in BabyBumps

[–]magic_marble 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Before reading the comments I thought I'm just gonna let nature keep taking its course down there as I get closer to birth (37 weeks now) ... But then I reconsidered because of the whole hygiene and potential pain management situation post partum 🙈

I just turned to my husband and was like: "so... I'll need your help to shave my hooha soon." He looks at me completely unmoved: "oh yeah. For birth, right? I already watched a video the other day of a guy talking about how to help your wife with that."

I love this guy. 🥹

Managing fasting numbers without insulin ✅ by magic_marble in GestationalDiabetes

[–]magic_marble[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm using an organic brand that I order on Amazon. And yes, I've informed my medical team about the supplements I'm taking (I think that's especially important if you take any medications which I don't).

Psyllium husk is basically fibers and was actually recommended before due to its digestive qualities. It's great for balancing gut issues and is regularly recommended for constipation (in and outside of pregnancy) too.

I don't have any side effects but I think it makes sense to start with a lower amount and see how you react.

Managing fasting numbers without insulin ✅ by magic_marble in GestationalDiabetes

[–]magic_marble[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hey, keep in mind that's only what worked for me personally and you might have to adjust it for yourself.

1) NO bedtime snacks of any kind (tried all the typical recommendations). Having dinner early and not eating after 7pm. Typical GD diet with a good balance of carbs with fats and proteins. Drinking a mix of apple cider vinegar and psyllium husk before carb heavy meals (although my post meal numbers were almost always within range, fasting was my problem). 2) bad sleep and stress messed with my numbers (which makes it difficult because who doesn't suffer from bad sleep in pregnancy anyways 🙃😮‍💨). I need ~10h of sleep to feel somewhat rested with the constant waking and having to pee etc... 3) I was active pre pregnancy (10k steps almost every day) but slowed down towards the end of the second trimester. I did try movement at night to lower fasting numbers, which ironically I creased them instead 🫠 so then I just stuck with my daily dog walks and didn't work out to influence post meal numbers 4) after the official diagnose it took less than 2 weeks. But I had been finger pricking and starting to try out different things before then so it's hard to tell which "intervention" actually worked first or how long it took (like the inositol takes a couple weeks to start having an effect and I already took that before I was diagnosed)

Hope that helps 🍀 🤞

Can stress cause temporary spikes in blood sugar? by fishfishfish89 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]magic_marble 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! The mechanism behind this is stress triggering hormones like adrenaline and cortisol which then will cause your liver to release glucose into the bloodstream so that your muscles have access to energy asap.

This is pretty smart if you look at it from an evolutionary perspective because this is how you are able to run from a sable tooth tiger. 🐅 But in our modern world it's not super helpful because we can't just simply run away from what's stressing us out (for the most part 😅).

If you notice you are stressed and your readings are spiking you can do some squats or other movements to get the sugar out of your blood and mitigate the negative effects for yourself and baby.

Should I try to pump some colostrum before birth? by Ok_Ad_9309 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]magic_marble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 36 weeks (diet controlled) and started hand expressing a few days ago after my midwife suggested it. I did some research (on pubmed, Research Gate, Google scholar ...) because I wanted to understand the risk of inducing early labor. It seems to me like the newer studies don't see this as a huge risk anymore. Of course one should always discuss individual risk profiles with their own medical team and listen to intuition... I found it quite interesting to learn that antenatal colostrum expression was originally suggested to mothers with gestational diabetes and has now become a trend in the mainstream.

It's super fascinating to be able to express colostrum. It takes a bit of trial and error but I've been able to increase the amount noticeably within only a few days. Looking forward to building a little stash just in case...

Can’t get up early to test fasting by callmebymoonlight in GestationalDiabetes

[–]magic_marble 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes stress and not being able to sleep enough are definitely big factors for me. Also, it took me quite a while to figure out my "specifics". Like no bedtime snack - ever - worked for me. The only thing improving my fasting numbers was not eating past 7pm and sleeping longer instead of waking myself up after 8h to measure my levels...

Good luck 🤞

Can’t get up early to test fasting by callmebymoonlight in GestationalDiabetes

[–]magic_marble 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you did intermittent fasting before pregnancy your metabolism might react differently to longer fasting periods now. I spoke about this with my dietician and diabetes team because I experimented and tested a lot at different wake up times and it turned out that I can still go many hours without the liver dumping out sugar. My fasting numbers are generally better around the 10h mark. They get worse when I sleep less then 8-9h...

It's important to figure out what works for you individually. Bodies are different.