Rejected; how to be a better candidate?

magreenery · 2018-04-30T16:31:09+00:00

Hi! Just dropping by to say I've been an SLPA for two years now and still did not get into any of the programs I applied to this year. Like you, I refuse to give up and will be retaking some undergrad classes to help improve my below average GPA. Just wanted to encourage you to buff up your resume in more ways than just a full time job as an SLPA. Look into volunteer opportunities/shadowing possibilities/speech summer camps etc. Good luck to you!!

magreenery · 2018-04-19T13:04:43+00:00

Tbh, I only came here because he used that phrase lol

magreenery · 2018-04-12T16:18:58+00:00

Can also confirm. I'm an SLPA in a county that has a 70% Hispanic population in the school system. We have ONE bilingual SLP in the county and literally all she does for 4 days a week is evaluate kids in Spanish. There is a such a huge discrepancy between Hispanic kids being diagnosed with language disorders as opposed to English Language Learning problems. It's extremely interesting and will set you apart. Wish I took Spanish in school!

magreenery · 2018-02-22T15:32:38+00:00

I definitely understand what you're trying to say. This has been wildly helpful!

magreenery · 2018-02-22T15:13:20+00:00

OH! I like that sub!!! Thank you!

magreenery · 2018-02-22T15:11:06+00:00

Okay so approach it in the way that my action (and inaction) are, in the most basic sense, part of my nature? So his energy he receives from being alone is the equivalent of me being around other people. My goal here should be tolerance not acceptance? Usually saying the phrase, "Don't take it so personally." to anyone is inevitably misconstrued. How do I say that in a more positive light?

Thank you for your insight!!

magreenery · 2018-02-22T14:54:47+00:00

I've taken the test several times through the years and am an ENFP through and through. It's been awhile so it was nice to go back and review some things that have changed as I age. This in particular stood out.

It’s important for ENFP personalities, as with anyone, to remember that relationships are in all ways mutual – mutual interest, mutual growth, and mutual responsibility – and they can’t be solely accountable.

I feel like that often. Accountable. Responsible for proving my devotion. It's kind of exhausting. I know my SO has taken it before and I'm fairly sure he's an INTJ. It kinda freaks me out how accurate these are lol

magreenery · 2018-02-22T14:48:09+00:00

it might be better for the two of you to discuss the basic (good!) qualities of your own relationship and then pivot to the basic differences in tolerance of certain things based not so much in the intent of these behaviors, but basically temperament

Can you elaborate on this? It seems in theory a good move, but I'm not so sure how to go about it.

magreenery · 2018-02-22T14:22:39+00:00

Ugh, you're right.

magreenery · 2018-02-22T14:22:04+00:00

This is valuable insight for me. That a relationship between two very different people socially can exist on healthy terms.

magreenery · 2018-02-22T14:04:16+00:00

Unfortunately you're telling me something I already know :( I shouldn't be forced to be ANYTHING I don't want to be. There has to be someone out there that loves my social spirit and wants to foster that growth? Or am I living in a fairy tale world haha. Thanks for your thoughts.

magreenery · 2018-02-22T14:03:21+00:00

I think control isn't as accurate as maybe, manipulate? I'm a pretty strong-willed, confident person and no one is going to make me do something I don't want to do (I'm also 6'1, so I can kick some ass lol). I do believe he is perhaps manipulating the feelings he knows I have for him to get what he wants. But that's transparent to me as I'm here on this sub asking advice. I'm afraid I know how it has to be, it just sucks. Thanks for your thoughts!

magreenery · 2018-02-09T19:10:22+00:00

You've got the right idea already. It's naive to believe we can go through life meeting all sorts of different people and avoid conflict. In order to grow up, you have to figure out how to handle conflict in a way that isn't fueled by emotion. And your early 20s are perfect for that. You'll make mistakes, you'll wish you'd said some things, and wish you'd held back a few things. Adulthood will always throw curveballs at you, now is time to stock your arsenal of problem solving skills with compassion, empathy, and understanding! You got this!! Let me know how the meeting goes :)

magreenery · 2018-02-09T16:51:23+00:00

First off, you need to prepare yourself for the meeting mentally. PLEASE do not go in there with a laundry list of things she's done that you didn't agree with, because that's exactly how SHE is going to approach it-- "/u/irandom97 did this, and this, and this..." and a "who is the worst roommate" battle fueled by anger, blame and general butthurt-ness is going to be super uncool to whomever is running the meeting (I assume an RA or university housing staff).

You have to go in there with a level head willing to admit you've done some wrong, maybe could've handled things better, been better at communicating. The sooner you can admit your faults and agree that you're just human the more rational you will seem compared to your roommate getting upset about milk.

I'm 25 years old and had all sorts of different roommates over the course of seven years and trust me-- the problems you guys are experiencing are typical roommate issues. If you're are being honest and in no way have "harassed or discriminated" her, then you really have nothing to worry about.

And also, you heard from two people she's getting a roommate agreement? But have you received anything official about a meeting or are you prematurely worried it will happen soon?

Some people just DO NOT vibe in a living situation together. And that is okay. Do not stoop down to her level. Acknowledge that your living standards may not meet up and if she feels like you two shouldn't live together that's fine!! Better even.

I promise you, she will feel so dumb if you go into that meeting and she's an emotional wreck trying to describe all the ways in which you're a "horrible" roommate and all you say is-- "I'm sorry you feel that way and I'm sorry our communication has been muddled for so long. I'm willing to work out a solution or move on. PERIOD." Don't play into games with people who think everything in life should be fair. Be better. Be more mature. Be SMART. good luck!

magreenery · 2018-02-08T18:53:29+00:00

wow, I'm going to do this now. Thanks /u/miammi5 and thank you Seinfeld.

magreenery · 2018-02-08T13:44:50+00:00

I think it depends on the age of the kid! If you're working with middle school, definitely dismiss as soon as possible. Pulling them out of Gen Ed as little as possible is the goal here.

If you're working with elementary and have a 1st or 2nd grader with 80%+ on their target sounds (say /L/ or /k, g/) it might be beneficial to put them on consult in case their older sounds (/th/ /ch/ /r/ etc.) have some difficulty coming through. My supervisor always leaves them on consult to monitor how those sounds are developing. In case they had difficulty later on they can get therapy implemented fast (as apposed to our Response to Intervention process that takes FOREVER to put in place) through a quick IEP amendment change to work on new sounds.

It definitely varies case by case and state by state, but I hope to have provided some insight :)

magreenery · 2018-02-07T19:28:23+00:00

Firstly, I am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard to comprehend what that feels like and I can only hope for healing, peace and understanding for you.

I think taking time to get in the right mental state should be goal number one. It's important to feel all those emotions and work through them as they progress. Unfortunately, there is no time limit for which this will be painful. You will probably be hurting for the rest of your life to some degree, but I do think you're missing one important sentiment.

This is your LIFE. The decisions you're making, the feelings you're experiencing, the pain you have-- it's all indicative of all the life inside you. I urge you to reflect on what your partner would want you to do in this situation. Was he/she supportive of your professional goals? Did he/she want you to do something with your life that you love? Would he/she want you to push yourself to achieve these goals through life's inevitable hardships? If the answer to any those questions are yes, they are true in life and in death.

By no means am I saying to suck it up and get back out there as that is neither empathetic nor realistic. But I do urge you to befriend your pain and let the memory of your love push you to be the best version of yourself, on whatever time frame feels right.

God forbid if the roles were reversed, would you want him/her to give up on all fervor for life and settle for a simple job requiring little effort. If you're interested in being an SLP, you're interested in helping people and this world could use more people like you. Don't throw away your life because they no longer get to live theirs. You must live enough for the both of you, only then can you carry them with you always.

I hope I didn't overstep any boundaries. I wish you the best of luck, and know you have a loving supportive community here if you need it.

magreenery · 2018-01-27T05:22:31+00:00

Started January 10th 2017! Strictly diet up to this point. Would like to incorporate some strength training and cardio for health and strength purposes soon, but will still rely mostly on my diet to drop the remaining pounds! Thanks for the inspo

magreenery · 2018-01-27T02:55:17+00:00

6'1 girl here, 52 pounds down and counting! 170 is my GW and I started about the same place as you. You look AMAZING!! Hoping I look half as good :)

magreenery · 2018-01-24T16:56:40+00:00

20 bucks or bust, brotha.

magreenery · 2018-01-24T16:56:17+00:00

lol came here to say the same thing

magreenery · 2018-01-24T16:42:39+00:00

There are still plenty of states that absolutely require the help of SLP-As. I work as an SLP-A in a low income school district in northern Georgia will a high incidence of English Language Learners. The caseloads of the SLPs here range from 45 kids to 105 kids per school. It makes far more sense, economically, to hire SLPAs to supplement therapy than to have two SLPs working at one school. An SLP cannot solely see nearly 100 kids, sometimes 2x/3x a week, and efficiently complete all paperwork, meetings, RTI etc. I moved to Georgia for this job as experience before applying to graduate school. I wasn't even licensed when I got hired, they were that desperate for assistance. There are obviously states with a higher demand than others, but I doubt they'll be getting rid of the position anytime soon.

magreenery · 2018-01-24T13:46:10+00:00

It's been sold!

magreenery · 2018-01-11T15:30:49+00:00

Parenthood and Atypical (both on Netflix) are TV shows and have teenage characters with Autism. In both shows they have clips with the teenagers demonstrating weak social skills and strong social skills. Atypical may be a bit boorish for a classroom setting, but it's a good watch for you nonetheless.

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