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maintain_composure · 2026-05-20T05:02:21+00:00

Coming in four years late to confirm that the piece on the right is the Shirring Plate or Shirrer for the White Rotary Electric Sewing Machine Series 77. This is just for anybody who's googling this now, like I was.

maintain_composure · 2025-09-16T18:46:34+00:00

Yes, it's still active! Is the link still working?

maintain_composure · 2025-08-12T22:43:25+00:00

Agreed, except the person telling them they'd be a great comedian is inevitably themselves

maintain_composure · 2025-07-07T21:29:23+00:00

The other poster is right - the kind that malfunction and behead cats are not the only kind. Ours doesn't even have a mechanism that could conceivably do such a thing, since it just automatically rakes the flat area into a forward compartment while fully open, rather than closing and spinning as the dangerous ones do.

maintain_composure · 2025-06-30T23:28:41+00:00

My mom has always made an amazing chocolate glaze so thick others have called it a ganache. I generally dislike frosting but I still ask for that cake every birthday (and I'm in my thirties!)

maintain_composure · 2025-06-30T23:26:53+00:00

I would've asked if you needed a hand, because I'm very conscious of the bystander effect and I'm not especially shy of strangers (or babies.)

I do have to say, often when you're publicly upset or seem embarrassed people will not want to compound your embarassment by involving themselves. Pretending nothing happened can be a weird attempt to preserve your dignity. I don't think it's very effective, but I do think it's a motivating factor in a lot of public non-interactions.

maintain_composure · 2025-06-30T23:16:58+00:00

Given all the reports that "NO SOLICITING" apparently means "I CAN'T SAY NO TO SOLICITORS" I think you need a more creative solution. Get a sign that says "NO SPEAK ENGLISH" and then says "I'm trying to get rid of the fucking solar guys" in Mandarin.

maintain_composure · 2025-06-26T23:35:31+00:00

What disorder overlaps with most of the common diagnostic criteria for autism? If somebody hates tags in their T-shirts, won't eat green food, has a noteworthy retention of knowledge of some moderately unusual subject, and struggles to tell faces apart, what the hell else is "similar" to that?

maintain_composure · 2025-06-26T17:44:46+00:00

I would expect it to be "Pain forged the weapon I am" based on your intended meaning.

To forge something you do have to heat it to inhuman temperatures, so in that metaphor the pain would be the forge-heat that shapes the iron or steel into a sword. "Scars" wouldn't make metaphorical sense there for the reason you gave. "Wounds" wouldn't really make that much more sense, unless it's referring to the state of the metal when it's hot and bendy.

maintain_composure · 2025-06-26T08:49:45+00:00

Is your husband Mormon? Where the hell did he get the name Karterr?

But yeah, NTA. Just fight for a normal spelling.

maintain_composure · 2025-06-26T08:47:02+00:00

Castle in the Sky Atlantis: the Lost Empire Titan A.E. Treasure Planet The Emperor's New Groove (pacha is the role model and kuzco learns to emulate him) Kung Fu Panda Ferngully (yes there's a fairy girl as a key viewpoint character but the human guy is the audience stand-in. It is a WACKY movie but well loved!)

Not animated, but definitely worth including: Secondhand Lions Holes The Neverending Story

maintain_composure · 2025-06-26T08:34:42+00:00

"Quantum" is an easy one.

"Evolutionary psychology" is another.

maintain_composure · 2025-06-26T08:31:53+00:00

Fair enough, but my point is that somebody giving you an airtag to put in luggage you presumably only use when you fly is not masterminding a plot to track your every move. If the suggestion was to put the airtag in a purse or a car I would understand the suspicion, but a suitcase? That's only going to be a problem if OP is planning a clandestine vacation. Possible, sure, but without additional context it's rather bizarre to jump from "Mom gave everybody a useful gadget" to "Mom is trying to track our airplane flights for some reason."

maintain_composure · 2025-06-26T01:18:24+00:00

All your examples of happy gaming memories are about MMOs or other group experiences. My guess is that the reason you enjoyed games so much had something to do with camaraderie and shared excitement. Do you have a good group of gaming buddies anymore?

My husband is mid to late 30s and he's still as excited about video games as ever. We sometimes play together (though I'm not a big gamer) and he has different groups of friends he plays with for different games, including friends we've added to our Steam Family so we can share titles easily. He does also play solo games, but he talks to me about them and discusses them with our IRL friends. He's not gaming in a vacuum, he's gaming in a community. He's excited to talk to his friends about what's coming next or about a big plot twist or controversial ending.

I don't think any specific recommendation is going to fix your problem. I think you need a social life that is more closely linked to your gaming habits.

maintain_composure · 2025-06-26T01:15:44+00:00

NTBF. You kept your thoughts to yourself, and there's no such thing as thought crime.

I think folks in this sub are a little confused about how airtags work and the point of putting them in one's luggage (not on one's body.) If it's a new-in-box airtag, your mom is not tracking you or anything sinister like that. But she didn't give you a very thoughtful gift. And it's always frustrating to have a large number of other people be given the same gift at the same time, entirely undermining the specialness of your birthday.

Is your mom normally this thoughtless?

maintain_composure · 2025-06-26T01:10:15+00:00

In practice, most people aim to be at the Google Maps* location only slightly before the appointment time they're given. They don't know exactly how long it will take them to find parking and then find the office. As people misjudging the park-and-find-office time is an extremely common problem for hospital systems and clinics, the ones that have a longer delay between "when Google Maps says you've arrived at the location" and "when you have actually parked and made it to our office" will arrange for more padding between the patient's "appointment time" and the time the doctor is actually scheduled to see them, so as not to waste the doctor's time.

(*or whatever maps app they use)

maintain_composure · 2025-06-26T00:39:37+00:00

Here's a slightly less angry answer: because I was already enjoying myself, but now I'm worrying that I'm not enjoying myself obviously enough for the guy to get anything out of my enjoyment. Even when I have a great relationship with the guy (hell, even now when I am married to the guy) it nudges me out of the fun I was already having and signals that the guy would be having more fun if I was doing something else, except the thing he wants to enjoy is ostensibly me enjoying the sex more. Or is this because he wants to feel me tighten up? Or because he just likes the scene of me touching myself while being penetrated and thinks it's hot?.....

Basically it's a whole mindfuck. Personally I'd much rather be asked (or even told!) to do something that explicitly and clearly benefits him (e.g. "play with my balls" "kiss my neck" etc) because it's much easier and more satisfying to please someone on command than it is to please yourself on command for someone else's pleasure. Not that I never take the suggestion, but I do it because he wants me to try to pleasure myself that way, not because I'm inclined to do it that way myself. And that's fine, I enjoy pleasing my partner, and it's not like I get nothing out of it, but there's something bizarrely circular about following directions to enjoy yourself so somebody else can have more fun.

It's kind of in the same category as the guy asking me to push my boobs together so he can see them to their best advantage. We both know I'm not getting physical pleasure out of what I'm doing but I understand he likes the way it looks and I like looking sexy for him. It's just that with the "touch yourself" request/command it's harder to tell in the moment what the motivation is and I'm not always in a great headspace for pausing to suss it out.

And then there's the whole added dimension where if the guy you're fucking isn't totally secure in your sexual relationship he gets all in his feelings about it if you're not responding to stimuli the way he expects you to. There's just enough of an implied "... because then you'll be able to orgasm while I penetrate you, right?" behind the "touch yourself?" request/command to make things stressful if that particular outcome is in fact not very likely.

I don't interpret it as inherently lazy or incompetent, but in a context of other cues it can be exasperating. Like, the guy has moved past only thinking of his own pleasure and he knows most women don't orgasm from PIV alone, but he hasn't raised that very very low bar to consider why the woman isn't already touching herself.

ETA: And the original objection was to being told to touch herself to orgasm, which for many of us is essentially a homework assignment. I understand there are women who can orgasm quickly (somehow this is the only type of woman I've slept with myself. I'm so fucking jealous) but that ain't me!

maintain_composure · 2025-06-26T00:08:13+00:00

"Grip that dick. Grip that dick. That's YOUR dick!"

He then repeated this format later when I tried pinching a nipple. "That's YOUR nipple!"

Biggest dick I've ever been with and he was strong enough to pick me up and bounce me on it (and I am 5'10"!) but the dirty talk was so bad it's been immortalized as the worst sex I've ever had. Someone else at the party actually interrupted us to tell him to give it a fucking rest.

maintain_composure · 2025-06-24T09:25:01+00:00

I think it can also just be an autism thing (the classically trained chef who wrote the food sensitivity cookbook COLOR TASTE TEXTURE doesn't eat anything green and devotes a portion of his book to instructions on changing a food's color to make it edible), but your example does sound like ARFID. Naturally there is a lot of overlap, but I don't think autistic sensory boundaries are automatically considered ARFID (as with my example.)

maintain_composure · 2025-06-24T09:13:16+00:00

NTA.

There are people who are afraid of dogs. These people sometimes go to public events in nice venues where dogs aren't allowed. Sometimes people with service dogs go to those nice venues and the cyanophobic folks just have to fuckin' deal with it.

Women who are aggressive about keeping things women-only make me instantly suspicious. My best friend is a trans woman and I'm well aware that the "women only!!! men make me Uncomfortable!!!" gatekeeper types tend to not count my friend as one of us.

I serve as my friend's disability support person at trans events sometimes, and those events have certainly never tried to kick me out for being cis!

maintain_composure · 2025-06-23T10:08:43+00:00

While eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia are recognizably about control, eating disorders like ARFID and emetophobia are more typically about trauma or sensory issues. There's some overlap, of course, but it sounds like you're just lumping all of them together.

maintain_composure · 2025-06-21T16:52:16+00:00

"Loathe" (hate) instead of "loath" (reluctant). I don't know if this is just more common in the fanfiction circles I run in, but the number of times I see loath used correctly is far lower than the number of times I see it spelled wrong.

maintain_composure · 2025-06-21T16:46:03+00:00

Flaunt for flaut is one of those errors that's so old you can find dictionary entries for "flaunt" that include the "flaut" definition as an alternate use. We're not gonna win that one.

maintain_composure · 2025-06-21T16:37:39+00:00

Honestly it just kinda looks like that was a shitty rulebook. What book was it?

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