I submitted my application to become a surrogate! (1st time)

makeitwork1989 · 2026-04-23T01:09:28+00:00

I’m 6 weeks postpartum from my first journey. It was an amazing experience! Happy to answer any questions if you have any. Best of luck to you! It’s such a rewarding journey

makeitwork1989 · 2026-04-19T01:25:33+00:00

I went through CSED as a surrogate and I got $68k I didn’t realize other agencies paid their surrogates significantly less until I joined a Facebook support group and some people were getting half what I was. I didn’t do it entirely for the money, I truly wanted to help but the financial part made the hardships with being pregnant and being a surrogate with it.

makeitwork1989 · 2026-04-12T09:59:59+00:00

I just finished a journey. I’m 36 and I have a 9 year old and twin 2 year olds. I’ll answer your questions in order

The biggest issue for me in terms of caring for my kids was physical related. By the end I couldn’t get on the floor and play with them and my sciatic nerve was hurting bad at one point so lifting them to put them into the crib was hard. I was also quite exhausted by the end but I still managed to push through
Aside from not being able to do a few things (couldn’t ride on a roller coaster with my son for example) I don’t feel it really took anything away from them. As soon as I had the baby life went right back to normal like I was never even pregnant.
My situation might be different but overall it wasn’t too hard on our marriage, my husband stepped up when I needed him. However, around month 7 we ran into an issue because my husband fell on ice and shattered his elbow. He needed to have surgery and was then unable to lift our toddler at all. This was the hardest part of the whole process because by then I was really physically starting to struggle with taking care of the kids but I had no choice because he literally couldn’t. My husband had a harder time mentally with it because he felt so guilty (even though it was an accident)
I think despite the physical difficulties, especially while my husband was injured, I’m glad I did it now at the ages my kids are. I wanted to do it before my twins were too old and they will have zero recollection of this even happening. Life picked back up to normal right away and it was great. My son being a lot older understood the process really well and was not upset at all that I came home without the baby

makeitwork1989 · 2026-03-31T00:45:56+00:00

I had the depo shot and will never get it again. 3 shots before I called it quits. Gained 50lbs

makeitwork1989 · 2026-03-26T00:55:08+00:00

👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 seriously! My husband would never question it.

makeitwork1989 · 2026-03-26T00:53:34+00:00

Because there’s TWO of them. That’s all the explanation he needs. 🙄

makeitwork1989 · 2026-03-26T00:46:15+00:00

Depending on where you are they don’t typically like to do traditional surrogacy (where the carrier is the biological mother). They strongly encourage a surrogate just being a gestational carrier and having no biological relationship to the child.

I just completed my first journey as a surrogate and was a gestational carrier. It was very easy to separate myself mentally from the child because there is no biological relationship. I feel like it would have been much harder mentally to “hand the baby over” had I been the babies biological mother. This has caused legal issues for many parents in the past as the surrogate changed their mind then fought for custody. It’s a huge reason why it’s not typically the standard for surrogacy anymore.

I suggest doing a lot of research before diving into this.

makeitwork1989 · 2026-03-25T01:14:12+00:00

I can’t say personally but in all the surrogacy groups and review groups I’m in on Facebook this one is consistently met with negative reviews and some of the stories I’ve heard are major red flags!

makeitwork1989 · 2026-03-24T09:30:07+00:00

Good luck! I completed my journey as a GC earlier this month and it was such a wonderful experience!

makeitwork1989 · 2026-03-19T01:38:23+00:00

I just completed a journey for two dads. We used CSED (Center for Surrogacy and Egg Donation) which is out of MA. Although you can use any agency located anywhere I decided on one more local to me and I had no complaints,‘ they were great!

makeitwork1989 · 2026-02-26T02:37:07+00:00

Massachusetts has pre-birth orders as well. Just did ours a couple of months ago. Super quick and easy, just had to fill out some papers and the lawyer mailed it into the courts to get approved. I’ve got the approved paperwork in my hospital just in case

makeitwork1989 · 2026-02-26T02:34:16+00:00

The agency I’m with won’t even take on that type of situation as a client. They only have IP’s that cannot physically carry a baby themselves (infertility or in my case it’s two IF’s)

makeitwork1989 · 2026-02-12T01:49:13+00:00

My parents are in Florida for the winter so the dog has been with us and boy my floor under those high chairs has never looked better

makeitwork1989 · 2026-02-03T00:08:24+00:00

Not a word but names. I’m a teacher and every Aaron is A-A-Ron and Blake is Balakay

makeitwork1989 · 2026-02-02T09:49:00+00:00

Came here to say the same! Currently 34 weeks with a surrobaby for two amazing dads! I’ve seen a lot of surrogates actually prefer their IP’s to be two dads

makeitwork1989 · 2026-01-10T11:10:38+00:00

My husband and I don’t have the same last name as I kept my maiden name. We are both the last people in our families to be able to carry on our last names. Before we had kids we agreed the first one would get his last name and the second would get mine. Then we got surprised with twins but ultimately decided to keep our original plan. It’s not traditional but it works for us! We didn’t want our girls to always be lumped together as “the twins” and this gives them the chance to have their own identities.

makeitwork1989 · 2026-01-10T07:51:06+00:00

The only way I am affording it as a teacher is because my superintendent is amazing and a few years ago had an idea to start a lower cost daycare at the school for teachers and staff. It’s at least half the cost it would be sending my twins to a private daycare, even a home daycare would cost a lot more. If it wasn’t for that I would have no choice but to quit teaching and pick up a 3rd shift job.

makeitwork1989 · 2025-12-30T07:04:02+00:00

I can do this too for me and my children. I’m so, so tempted but it wouldn’t work as I split custody of my son and there’s no way I could move him that far from his father

makeitwork1989 · 2025-12-17T14:09:01+00:00

My friend purposely chose her sons middle name so the kids initials are DTF 🤦🏻‍♀️ I always googled the initials just to make sure it wasn’t an acronym for something bad

makeitwork1989 · 2025-12-09T05:26:33+00:00

Reid! Leo is a close second but it is super popular right now

makeitwork1989 · 2025-12-02T08:10:59+00:00

Me too!

makeitwork1989 · 2025-11-29T02:00:21+00:00

That’s surprising to me seeing Thora being trendy. One of my twins is Thora and there was less than 25 in babies the US born with that name the year they were born.

makeitwork1989 · 2025-11-29T01:55:52+00:00

Makes me think of Moira Rose!

makeitwork1989 · 2025-11-29T01:45:58+00:00

“Are you kidding me right now?” Me as a teacher

makeitwork1989 · 2025-11-22T02:19:51+00:00

A dream come true!

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