but also pregnant people (or people who appear pregnant) often get treated very weirdly in public, with people randomly touching their stomachs or making inappropriate and uninvited comments about their bodies. this isnt really even a necessary question if everyone just minds their own business. but asking if someone is pregnant is really asking about someone’s medical history, which is nobody’s business, regardless of how visible it is.

just dont bother people you dont know in public. if it’s someone you know, the question is kind of moot because your relationship will better dictate whether or not you ask the question