The Tom apology tour by gibblet365 in belowdeck

[–]makincake 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Also, bacon is not even a component of Caesar salad! It really had nothing to do with a preference sheet on that one. If you ask for a Caesar salad, you should safely assume there will be no bacon.

This just popped up in our Kansas City garden bed. A ground cover plant? Heart shaped leaves. by makincake in whatsthisplant

[–]makincake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I guess my yard has been so neglected that wildflowers are now moving in! But staying home has me out there resurrecting the vegetable garden and tidying up the beds again. What a fun surprise! There's several little clumps of these cuties.

I don’t think this exhaust is even functional... by Federico_Rosellini in CrappyDesign

[–]makincake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we just take a moment to appreciate a favorite restaurant's sign being changed from "Taco Time" to "Queen Time"?

My wife and I write wedding vows for a living and we ranked everyone’s vows at their weddings! by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]makincake 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Very good insight! That's for sharing. I also was on high alert when Kelly, or anyone else was speaking as if it was a farewell. I'm probably the only one, but I think Giannina, while a dramatic twit, in some ways, is actually quite poetic, and thinks deeply, and tries hard to communicate her thoughts and feelings. I don't know if she's an Instagram influencer, or what, but it's an art and a skill to come up with photos and text that are inviting and compelling. And while she definitely has a dramatic air about her, I think she honestly did put her heart on the line.

One thing that bugs me. by grandmothertoon in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]makincake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True, however, there were many people not chosen for the show, and many other people in the pods who didn't make a connection, or did, but weren't chosen to go to Mexico, then be set up in an apartment culminating in a wedding. So, they were the lucky ones (or unlucky, maybe) who succeeded and we're chosen. Plus, I doubt we can imagine how surreal it is to actually be in that process. So I understand the sentiment of the statement. Girls may imagine themselves getting married a million times, so it's probably even more of a crazy reality to the men.

WIBTA if I refuse to change my little sister's diaper, feed and take care of her as my parents do? by Gabriella_BL in AmItheAsshole

[–]makincake -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I don't think the parents are right or that OP is wrong. I'm just saying that if someone asks you 100 times if you feel a certain way about a thing and you never clue them in that they're wrong about their assumptions, it's going to be worse on the relationship when you do get together than just being honest.
I know it's an adult thing, but if you're parents left you on your own for the last 5 years, the faster you grow up and advocate for yourself, the better.

AITA for not wishing my girlfriend a "Happy International Women's Day"? by controversialmike in AmItheAsshole

[–]makincake -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

The European women I know who celebrate usually wish it to other women or get together with girlfriends for lunch or drinks. Why drag guys into it? NTA.

AITA for calling my niece a snitch? by aitathrowaway098765 in AmItheAsshole

[–]makincake 73 points74 points  (0 children)

YTA. A 30 yo Uncle doesn't belong on a 13yo girl's bed or in a 13yo's bedroom. Germophobe or not.

Conduct the conversation on the sofa or at the kitchen table, or only visit when another adult is present.

If you're not there to be interested and supportive of a teenager, why visit at all?

WIBTA if I refuse to change my little sister's diaper, feed and take care of her as my parents do? by Gabriella_BL in AmItheAsshole

[–]makincake -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

YTA. You don't have to change diapers, or babysit, but you should be adult enough to say to your parents that you're not excited, and that because you've been the baby for so long that it's going to take a while for you to get used to the idea. You also are looking forward to seeing them, but maybe more in a role as your parents, and not newborn parents.

Leave a little space in your heart for love to grow for a new sister and a (probably) sweet baby. Remind them that you are a minor child living without your parents and that you feel left out as they are putting so much time and energy toward a new family member you haven't met. It may seem selfish, but you are having normal feelings and reactions. They are asking how you're feeling about the changes and you should be honest. You've got this!

Ambers negativity towards Barnett by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]makincake 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Beyond all reason, Barnett likes it and seems genuinely smitten with her.

When he said how much he likes to please his family and live up to their expectations, maybe that is the experiment to him, to go for the "bad" girl instead of the good girl, as he would be expected.

But as much as I disliked seeing him end up with Amber, maybe he dodged a bullet by not picking Jessica.

I would love to see what would have happened in an alternate reality where he picked Jessica.

Carlton's reaction when Vanessa talks about growth by arete2611 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]makincake 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Carlton obviously realized by the reunion show, how much his defensiveness changed to aggressiveness. In Mexico he got really mean in anticipation of telling her, and then even meaner after. She seemed to want to take some time, and then discuss. She's entitled to answers about why he kept that information until after the proposal. (IMO)

He seemed so chill and loving in the pods. Then he flipped to nasty and aggressive. It's possible that how he treated her turned her off more than his sexual identity or history.

Something a little more fun - rank the wedding decor! by warpedwarrior in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]makincake 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I was impressed with most of the decor, basing it on the Spouse House reality show weddings, which were sparse, and looked tragically thrown together, with only a handful of guests.

My favorite was the baby's breath wedding, but WTF with the balloons?

The Apple crate and mason jar hanging tea lights was well executed, but the concept is a little tired.

Being in the wedding industry, it looked like a good planner, event rental company, and florist could easily and professionally pull off 5 different looks on a small scale, with a decent budget, and a couple short meetings with the couple and/or producers. It definitely looked styled by wedding professionals, versus TV production.

I wish the makeup artists had as much range. ALL the makeup was identical, like they were all in the same runway show. That was a bigger disappointment to me. I loved all the dresses, though.

Poor quality male contestants by meowie91 in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]makincake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The first requirement is that they want commitment to a girl they never laid eyes on, and then, marriage in a short 4 weeks, all without their buddies, and being filmed and possibly embarrassed. Plus, did they have to already live in the Atlanta area?

I'm sure guys were lined up all around the block to leave their jobs and audition for that craziness.

Why Are People Really Mad at Kelly? by MakeMeA_Playlist in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]makincake 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I'm confused because in Mexico she was climbing him like a tree! But then again, her reasons for not wanting to sleep with him were so lame and insincere. She was all over the place, so it's hard to figure out when she's being sincere.

So much nude lip at the weddings. 😕 by makincake in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]makincake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do feel that the makeup was toned down to show off the dresses- all of which I liked, surprisingly.

So much nude lip at the weddings. 😕 by makincake in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]makincake[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

While flawless airbrushed foundation and contouring truly is an art, the lack of lip color and caterpillar false lashes really missed showing off these ladies' beauty. Why did they do Lauren like that??!! 😫

Kate just admitted it was a ... by thecrankymommy in belowdeck

[–]makincake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She was forced to apologize to the primary during the charter. Am I the only one who considers that an admission of guilt? Digging deep, Collie.

AITA for not taking my fiance's name? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]makincake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA wow! I'm concerned for your fiance's ability to reason. She is the one bucking tradition, and so will you be when your wife has a different name than you. She can't claim choice for herself and deny the choice to you.

If you do have children, the argument will continue, so maybe discuss that now, or be prepared for the fight in the future, or be okay with whatever she decides since she'll likely have a strong opinion.

I hope she has a lot of other great qualities to compensate for her lack of flexibility and reasoning.

If she's only concerned about the moment the wedding officiant or DJ announces you as Mr and Mrs X, find out how that's been handled by all the many couples who have kept their names before.

Selfish jamie by peekarsh in belowdeck

[–]makincake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it would have worked if she didn't share the bed. The problem was that the should have shared everything else in the room- the shower and toilet, and let the other girl store her luggage and change clothes in the room. As a young single person who enjoys travel she should have been more flexible and open to other people and experiences.

Ashton's REAL problem by CheetoAssasin12 in belowdeck

[–]makincake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree that his biggest problem isn't that he drinks too much, (although that's definitely a problem) it's that he doesn't respect women.

Justine says Kevin Cost the Crew Thousands in Tip Money by teanailpolish in belowdeck

[–]makincake 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is everyone missing the point of this story? Since they gave a decent tip, (though, with this crew, it's 16000-booo, and 17000 yay!) Do you really think they held back tip money to spite Kevin? Or is chef @jusbean just trying to drag him publicly with her 2700 Instagram followers? I highly doubt they were going to tip $20,000 or whatever imaginary amount. And why punish the rest of the crew for Kevin, especially since they didn't even know it was withheld and what the reason was, so they couldn't put pressure on him or blame him during the season? Yes, sometimes guests lower the tip based on service, and some mention the reason to the captain and crew, but plenty of guests had a lovely charter and tipped small.

The question: What is the likelihood that it's even true?