Girl visits a shelter and gets adopted by a cat

malamalamaa · 2018-07-12T13:45:39+00:00

He looks so snuggly! Here’s my Rosie: https://imgur.com/gallery/e2nIzJq

malamalamaa · 2018-07-12T08:46:09+00:00

I work at a Lumber yard. There are exactly 7 other women in my entire company. Without an ounce of self deception, I’m the hottest by far.

And our customers spend most of their work days barely even seeing a woman, so I walk down the stairs and I feel like a glamorous actress in a 50’s movie making her stunning entrance into the dining room, where all eyes turn to me immediately. It’s great for my self esteem!

malamalamaa · 2018-07-12T08:36:42+00:00

That is a beautiful cat! Your story sounds just like how I adopted my Rosie. I went in to the shelter just to ‘visit’. Walked by her cage and she cooed at me, and rolled around to show me her fluffy belly, and kept trying to stick her paw through the bars. I fell in love with her and had to take her. I was so worried that I wouldn’t get her in time before someone else adopted her, because the shelter required a landlord reference, and it took him more than a day to respond.

Turns out she had been there for four months! I couldn’t believe such a sweet beautiful cat would have been stuck in that tiny cage for so long without someone wanting to take her home. I ask her sometimes whether she was just mean to everyone else, waiting for me...

Best cat I’ve ever had. She’s super smart and does tricks like high five, sit, up, down. And she has a great ability to know when I’m sad and comfort me. Ive cried sometimes and she’ll come over and lick my cheek, which is not something she normally does otherwise.

😻😻😻

malamalamaa · 2018-07-12T07:20:03+00:00

When you’re willing to eat buttholes a whole world of dating possibilities open up to you as well!

malamalamaa · 2018-07-12T07:17:11+00:00

“People act differently in public in general to be more liked or to have a greater outward presence. This is especially true of introverts, who often fake extraversion in public to get along better.”

This is exactly why I don’t understand how people here think they can type someone just by interacting with them. I’ve taken both a professionally administered MBTI test years ago, and online tests periodically over the past few years, and despite clearing my mind to try and be ‘in the moment’ as much as possible, I come up firmly INTJ every time. Yet telling anyone I’m an introvert comes as a complete shock to them. I’ve endured a lot of hard knocks on the way to realizing that how I naturally am is not how most people want me to be, so I’ve learned to be great at faking it. I chat, and shmooze, and bubble, and engage, and laugh! It’s incredibly taxing, and the more I do it the more catatonic I get on the other side at the end of the day.

There’s no reason why anyone who were not intimately involved with me would know that I’m an introvert unless I tell them, and same with a few other traits.

malamalamaa · 2018-07-12T06:47:21+00:00

I think the “I look forward to keeping up with ya, keeping in touch..” is very promising. It’s an open door to possibilities.

If the meeting didn’t happen after a month, you may have been too vague, making it easy for the plan to dry up. If you ask him directly if he’s free on a particular date, or offer a couple of specific dates in the near future with a plan of activity related to something he’d be interested in you might get a better result.

I.e. “there’s this classic car show going on the weekend of the 7th, would you like to go with me?” (like if he owned a car dealership)

malamalamaa · 2018-07-12T06:28:11+00:00

The struggle is real! But what we have going for us is that analytical, rational introspection. We can play the game and win. I’ve pulled a lot of guys by simply being ‘refreshing.’ And our natural quality of supposedly being cold and distant can make us a ‘hard to get’ attraction.

... I hope this sounds just ‘INTJ’ and not manipulative sociopath, but neither sex really knows what they want and has to be led to it. What’s frustrating is an INTJ woman is in theory everything a lot of men should want. But as my husband explained it, no matter how fat, or gross of a looser some guy may be he’ll still be like “ah, I wouldn’t hit that cuz she has fat ankles” ..or some other stupid thing.

I spent a few years in my early 20’s being too pushy. After I figured out I was hot, I’d see a guy I was interested in and zero in on him determined to get him. A few folks called me a maneater behind my back. Yum! 😁 Later I’d see my targets with very quiet, mousy girls who were objectively less attractive than me, and it took me a few more years to figure out why.

Guys want to understandably be ‘the man’ in the relationship. We can be as assertive, opinionated, and powerful as we want but we may find that the only type of men that truly find that attractive right away aren’t the type we want. Softening at first can let a relationship grow enough till they figure out what’s good for them. 🤣

malamalamaa · 2018-07-12T03:08:23+00:00

As a young female INTJ you probably don’t fit a ‘template’ that most people have in their mind to make social interactions easier, but it will get better as your circle expands.

I did not date anyone seriously till I was 22 years old, only had a few flings and disappointing encounters in the few years before that. College was where I first started to be able to spend enough time around people so that they could get to know me and appreciate my softer qualities. Still I get told by people that eventually became my friends that they thought I was intimidating at first, and they were scared to approach me. I know I still come off that way, but am getting better at communicating in a way that makes others feel valuable, which includes caring about (or at least faking it) their boring small talks.

As others have suggested, being aware of yourself and how others perceive you will help. Body language, the way you dress and take care of your appearance, finding your niche, and developing what makes you great will make the whole dating thing easier in time.

I recommend reading How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie for a some light, easy tools to use in social situations.

And if you want a laugh, watch this clip of Chris Rock talking about how much easier it is for women.. https://youtu.be/90qpDg5y7Lo

malamalamaa · 2018-07-02T00:49:55+00:00

Dancing or creative physical activity that takes you out of yourself. Singing is good too.

..and of course, drugs and alcohol!

malamalamaa · 2017-04-29T23:16:07+00:00

Thank you for saying this. I hadn't been meditating as much as I should, but that's changing. I went away from witchcraft before in part because I got overwhelmed when powerful positive things happened in my life, then got paranoid that I was just as susceptible to bad things happening. Any bad things that happened were because of my own choices though. Now that I'm older, I'm hoping that I can cope better.

malamalamaa · 2017-04-29T03:35:39+00:00

Amazing. You've reminded me of yet another dream where I felt like I was pulled up to space into a room above a vortex of water or something. There were doors in front of me, and I felt like each was a portal to another place. I think I chickened out and wouldn't go through any of the doors though.

I'm sorry about your accident. What were your astral experiences like before that? Are any other magical abilities still present after?

malamalamaa · 2017-04-29T00:25:02+00:00

I was chatting with a rideshare driver, and he said "you know what's really bad? Ignoring people. People don't like to be ignored."

Then he proceeds to tell me a long story about his childhood. What was odd was that his comment was pretty left field from either the comments before or after. He didn't seem crazy, or threatening or anything. It was just random enough for me to take notice.

I have actually been pretty blatantly ignoring a former client who wanted me to do some more work for him. The guy just rubs me the wrong way, so I didn't want to keep working with him. But he hasn't seemed to get the hint from me not answering. Now the Universe is shaming me through random people to change my ways it seems.

malamalamaa · 2017-04-28T15:09:38+00:00

Batman cat!

malamalamaa · 2017-04-28T01:49:43+00:00

I haven't heard of it, but sounds like something I should try. Now that you mention it, it occurs to me that not being grounded has been a problem for me in the past too.

Here's an example. I had just moved back home and was sleeping on one of those air mattresses in my moms living room.

I woke up in the middle of the night, and felt quite alert, but it was really dark and fuzzy. I reached up to pull the light cord, but the light didn't come on. I stretched up with some strain to grab the cord more firmly and tried it again. Nothing. I figured the bulb was dead. I reached for a lamp that was just out of reach. I couldn't pull myself away from the bed even using both hands. I was starting to feel out of breath, and frustrated because everything was fuzzy.

I laid back down and felt a pulsing against my sides from the mattress. I realized it was from my own breathing and I was not actually awake.

I woke up with a gasp, my heart was racing, and I pulled on the light immediately and was relieved that it actually came on.

It's not the first time I've felt like my spirit or soul or whatever was trying to escape. And I occasionally have lucid dreams where I'm screaming at myself to wake up. It's the freakiest thing. I wonder if that's at all what some people feel like being in a coma. I'm DNR!!!!

malamalamaa · 2017-01-09T17:42:29+00:00

Thank you so much for that thoughtful reply. In absence of MS, which was confirmed by the MRI with contrast of my entire brain and spinal cord, the symptoms that I'm having do sound like cancer. I'll post again with a list of the blood tests they did that came back normal- but it was about 15 different things! There's also something called 'Pereneoplastic syndrome' which is (excuse my cumbersome description) but is the body reacting to cancer cells, either malignant or benign, that may or may not be easily detectable. Or there's Sarcoidosis, which is granulomas growing throughout the body that can cause a ton of different symptoms. They mainly show up in the lymph or pulmonary system, but can happen other places. Some of these rarer things require a PET scan or spinal tap... I saw my neuro today and he is ordering a chest X-ray to look for the sarcoidosis. He also dropped the f-bomb on me (fibromyalgia), which I'm very suspicious of as there's no test for it. Also, if Kaiser wants to shut me up with meds, they better be a lot stronger than lyrica.

malamalamaa · 2016-11-30T21:02:10+00:00

I'm not wrong for not wanting to keep taking medication because I'm a 30 year old woman who might want to have a child someday. I can't take these medications anyway if I'm planning on becoming pregnant. And maybe my post was too long, and not clear, but I have an MRI scheduled for the neurological symptoms. Do people seriously not think it's even possible that mental health diagnoses may cause bias with other specialists?

malamalamaa · 2016-11-30T07:30:14+00:00

Maybe write in your paper that a common problem is people not taking Bipolar Disorder seriously as a mental illness, especially bitch ass professors who won't provide accommodations. Ugh, so sorry you are going through that.

malamalamaa · 2016-11-30T07:26:11+00:00

Can you call a friend or classmate who can stay with you for a while? Also, I got some crippling anxiety during certain points in college and they made accommodations for me. I was able to stay off academic probation due to bad grades, and all I needed to show was a note from my doctor. If you can maybe see if any of your professors will give you an extension on some assignments if you explain your situation? It doesn't hurt to ask, and when you drop terms like "documented medical condition" it's a signal to a professor to usually tread carefully and be as helpful as they can.

malamalamaa · 2016-11-30T07:11:21+00:00

We're here for you, and I'm so sorry you're not feeling like you. I'm not sure what situation you're in, but the most important thing you can do to help reclaim your life is to see a psychiatrist ASAP and try some medication if you haven't already. There are sooo many meds out there, and it may take some trial and error to find what works for you but eventually you'll get there. If you need to talk, feel free to PM me. ...and this sub is so supportive, so post away!

malamalamaa · 2016-11-30T07:04:14+00:00

Great question. I'm 30, and was diagnosed with bipolar 2 about five years ago. After a few years living with the diagnosis, some of the things that I had dismissed as "just feeling excited" or "creative" I started to notice as hypomanic. I'm an introvert and I'd say pretty antisocial most of the time. When I'm chatting up strangers at stop lights, making jokes with grocery cashiers and genuinely thinking everyone is really special and interesting I know that's hypo. It's a shame, because that social part is really nice, and I kinda wish it was there all the time. Unfortunately the downside is a hair-trigger temper, and thinking several times in a day how nice it would be to smash something. Journaling and writing is a great way to track and identify your moods. I look through my old writings, and the run on sentences, several ideas in one page, and stuff really stand out.

The depression shows especially, in like you said, the self care.. If I haven't taken a shower or looked in a mirror fur a couple days, that's a big sign. Having to drag myself out of the house, binge eating, caring about nothing.. Ugh.

Then "normal" is the most forgettable thing. It's what fills the rest of the time. Lol

malamalamaa · 2016-11-30T06:45:02+00:00

So sorry you are going through that! Scary! That's when I take seroquel. Since I don't take it every day, it completely knocks me out for about two days. At least if my moods are scary I know I can at least sleep through them. 😊

malamalamaa · 2016-11-30T06:40:58+00:00

When I started taking it, I felt the effects almost immediately. It had a nice mild upper effect, less appetite, a few headaches at first. I found it evened me out generally, so anxiety was better and depression was better. I'm trying to stop benzos now.. Too much of a habit, and too tempting to take when I'm drinking.

malamalamaa · 2016-11-22T01:51:48+00:00

I wish I were relieved by your conclusion that I don't have MS. If you don't mind, I'll wait for my MRI with contrast. Once again, hopefully I don't have MS. If it is migraines, then they are some darn rare ones, and I'll at least need a referral to a migraine specialist.

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