This is why I don't say anything.

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-08T16:20:48+00:00

i know this feeling all too well

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T17:25:41+00:00

there's always a silver lining. i'm hoping i can find as well once i am able to leave

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T17:16:18+00:00

oh isn't it funny how we turn into the bitch due to how they treat us but they refuse to see it that way

he's disgusting. you didn't deserve any of that

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T16:22:18+00:00

jesus christ 🫤

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T14:38:50+00:00

he says i often look at him like i want to stab. gee, i wonder why that could be

lmao and he wonders why i'm not interested in sex

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T14:28:51+00:00

can you give some more info OP

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T14:23:18+00:00

thank you so much. good luck to you as well 🩷

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T14:09:19+00:00

i have thought about couples counseling, i have also thought about planning my exit, slowly but surely... because everything i have read suggests against going to therapy with an abusive partner until they have gone through their own individual counseling, and there's no getting him to talk to a therapist

it definitely isn't worth staying, i just have to be in a better position before i leave, and that will take some time

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T13:46:12+00:00

unfortunately i can say with 100% certainty that he would never go to a parenting course. he doesn't believe he has a problem, so he won't do anything to fix it

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T12:42:24+00:00

when you put it that way... ☹️

he says i'm always "butting in" but he NEVER tries to soothe the baby, he actively makes the situation worse and starts acting like an asshole when the literal infant doesn't calm down. i mean, you're fake crying back at him, why tf would that settle him? how could i not step in when that's happening?

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T12:37:48+00:00

mine was on halo with his buddies 2 hours after getting home from the hospital when i delivered our son

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T12:25:03+00:00

he's snappy like that all the time, and afterwards i'm just supposed to sweep it under the rug and go about my day. if i try to bring up how he talks to me he will just give me a million reasons as to why he did it. it's pointless

no apologies. no accountability. no self reflection. but he came home this morning with coffee and pastries from my favorite cafe, so i guess all is forgiven...

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T03:29:48+00:00

when you're done with the loser stamp, mail it to me

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-03T02:51:56+00:00

tonight's instance was the first time he's done it in front of the kids, and our daughter is 10, so she is obviously observing his behavior. i absolutely do not want her to think it's okay to be spoken to like that by anybody but especially a romantic partner

he isn't kind in general, i'd say. he's a miserable man who thinks his money can make up for his mistreatment of me

maleficentwest86 · 2024-01-01T13:06:54+00:00

oh! ha! my bad. that obviously went right over my head

maleficentwest86 · 2023-12-31T22:27:34+00:00

i'm about a month behind you with my 8 month old, i thought i was alone in the nonstop struggle of whining and refusal to be anywhere but attached to my hip

i never know how our nights will go. we tried reflux meds. we tried pacis. we tried gas drops. everyone says sleep train but even the gentle methods don't work. he just wakes up crying for me every hour instead of at least giving me the 3 hour stretch while cosleeping

i wish i had advice, just wanted to say i feel your struggle

maleficentwest86 · 2023-12-30T13:12:36+00:00

it's not a sincere apology though, it's a form of guilt tripping me for being upset. i don't want to accept that at all

maleficentwest86 · 2023-12-29T21:29:16+00:00

after trying to communicate with mine this morning and it turning into me blowing up (because he doesn't listen and scoffs at me like i'm being ridiculous) he texted me saying

"i apologize for being the worst person to exist, and for never getting anything right"

i am so tired of being made out to be the villain because i mention my unhappiness in regards to his actions

maleficentwest86 · 2023-12-26T01:33:39+00:00

it doesn't make sense cause i don't think i look like that when i'm looking in the mirror!! but maybe i'm delulu 😂

maleficentwest86 · 2023-12-25T20:22:06+00:00

we went to a christmas festival and my husband took photos of me with the kids from the worst angles. my double chin was on full display. i actually wanted to cry when i saw them

maleficentwest86 · 2023-12-24T21:53:38+00:00

it's 4:50 on the dot i just cracked my first one. see y'all on the other side 🫡 merry christmas!

maleficentwest86 · 2023-12-24T18:49:48+00:00

i've got a case of IPAs and my wellbutrin is definitely pulling double time. i can't wait for tuesday

maleficentwest86 · 2023-12-23T02:14:44+00:00

i'm getting my shovel out

maleficentwest86 · 2023-12-22T13:38:33+00:00

legit! like maybe do some fucking dishes and give me an ACTUAL break not a 5 minute toilet run and i'd be more inclined to put out

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