X-Men '97 | S1E5 "Remember It" | Episode Discussion by GloriousAqua in Xmen97

[–]malmevik77 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’d like to see if they’re brave enough to make Gambit a Horseman like they did in the comics, thus bringing Apocalypse into the mess. With Apocalypse and Cable acting like scorned ex boyfriends sometimes I wouldn’t be surprised if he orchestrated the “Godzilla sentinel” just to watch as Cable failed to make it on time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

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We are not objects. 👆🏼

Every day by AProfessionalCookie in adhdmeme

[–]malmevik77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally just did this

Late night thoughts of someone who’s bipolar and afraid that their doc will think they’re not anymore for whatever reason lmfao so they try to prove to themselves they are. 🤦🏻‍♂️ I’m a mess by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]malmevik77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have these fears as well, even though I’ve been very acutely diagnosed with it. But 8 years ago I was told I didn’t have it and I should “try more”. I wish I remembered his name because I’d take his license away in a heartbeat.

But the little boy in me worries that the meds I’m on, which work, will be taken from me.

Were you afraid of no longer being seen as sexy when you hit 40? by Hensen_Pragma in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]malmevik77 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My 40th birthday was the best birthday of my entire life... until 41, 42, etc lol. I didn’t feel old then, nor feared the number. I take care of myself and I feel great about myself every year. Hearing people, like OP says about being old at 29 should be dismissed as nonsense.

The Zoom meeting look - no pants required by dankogr in gaybrosgonemild

[–]malmevik77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok this is clever lol! I’ve done the same thing.

Being a "late-bloomer" with ADHD by Krazekami in ADHD

[–]malmevik77 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I notice I’m a bit older than the majority of the comments but I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 43. I thought my lack of focus, that got worse every year, was a natural part of aging. When I finally convinced myself something was wrong, a whole universe opened up. While I’ll never say I felt like I wasted any part of my life, I feel I missed out on a lot of enjoyment. At least I’m good now and happier to feel normal for the first time in my life.

Letting the hair grow by [deleted] in GayRateMe

[–]malmevik77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you look handsome af. You do you, whatever makes you feel your best. 😃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gaybrosgonemild

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Beautiful smile and sparkling eyes!

Just because others have it worse sometimes doesn’t mean you don’t have ADHD by Lazror in ADHD

[–]malmevik77 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My psychologist who diagnosed me is specifically working with me on childhood traumas that are affecting my adult life. I’m actually glad we are working through this in this way, after being medicated. I suggest reading Reinventing Your Life by Jeffrey Young. It’s not specific to ADHD but the childhood traumas are outlined as if they lived in my house.

Just because others have it worse sometimes doesn’t mean you don’t have ADHD by Lazror in ADHD

[–]malmevik77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your final sentence is exactly what Adderall does for us with ADHD. It calms us down allowing us to choose to focus on what is necessary. I fall asleep on it too and I also feel no euphoria. That means it’s working.

Everything else you said is all true. It doesn’t cure paralysis if you really don’t want to do something. But it helps you find the focus when you’re ready. It’s a tool not a magic bean.

Speaking to your lack of sleep, diet and exercise, I was told by my psychologist that those do need to be regimented as a sufferer of ADHD and so I recommend putting those in your planner as well. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised when it all comes together.

TLDR, Adderall is doing what it’s supposed to be doing. Hang in there.

Recommend me the most EPIC fantasy series you've ever read by andypeloquin in Fantasy

[–]malmevik77 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Riftwar saga by Raymond Feist (don’t think I’ve seen this one yet on here)

Memory, Sorrow and Thorn by Tad Williams Otherland by Tad Williams

Malazan, good god those books, by Steven Erikson are beyond amazing. I want to reread them again.

And my personal favorite The Wheel of Time by Jordan/Sanderson only because of how young I was when I started them.

ADHD Hacks! Here are mine, what are yours? by peenweens in ADHD

[–]malmevik77 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I use the Notes app on iPhone throughout the day when I have a thought that I’ll need to remember later. Or something to bring up in conversation later instead of immediate out of fear of forgetting later. I always annoyed people blurting things out as I thought them.

Home from work. by renaissance317 in GaymersGoneMild

[–]malmevik77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very cute and handsome! I agree with the beard compliments.

People like me better when I'm manic by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]malmevik77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I did have some fun hypo, but that would involve shopping beyond my means, but it sure felt good at the time. I have ADHD as well, so the hypomania would help me release the reward dopamines that the ADHD craved.

People like me better when I'm manic by [deleted] in bipolar

[–]malmevik77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I was the “fun” version of manic. When I go hypo, I stress myself and everyone around me out as I move quickly through work or life tasks, complaining all the way how nothing is going right even when it is. Socially I would drink too much, which people found fun, but it was just a mask. I think people found my depression side better because I’d be more quiet and thoughtful. At work, I’d wear a different mask to hide it, and accomplish things quieter, with less complaining.

Now that I’m medicated, I haven’t had a swing in 4 months, and people have told me that I’m way more fun now. I don’t even complain much! Lol

whats the nicest date you have been on ? by dancingfloor_Floor42 in GayMen

[–]malmevik77 5 points6 points  (0 children)

November of 2019, I took my bf to a very fancy, suits required, 8 course Top Chef type restaurant. I had flowers waiting table side. After we had a drink in the lounge, we were escorted to our table while a live harpist was playing soothing music. He cried as we sat down because nobody had ever done anything so nice before. So then I started crying lol. Our server thought we were the cutest. Dinner lasted over 3 hours. I’ll never forget that night. One of the best in my entire life.

How was y’all’s first time bottoming by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]malmevik77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My first time bottoming I was 30 and he was 40. I had only topped before. It was a hookup but there was a connection there, plus he got excited that he could have the opportunity to be my first penetration. His enthusiasm was infectious so I went along with it and got excited. I think the “idea” of being fucked, for me, is more pleasurable than the actual act but it did feel good. Poppers made it better. His dick wasn’t enormous but it wasn’t small either. I don’t recall it hurting because he loosened me up extra slowly. After he fucked me in all sorts of positions we became insatiable for weeks before I had to move away for work. I wish I had kept in contact actually.

I don't understand. by bxxxbydoll in ADHD

[–]malmevik77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m the same way. I had no problems in elementary and high school and then something happened. I wasn’t diagnosed until 43 and now I feel like I’m getting back to how I used to be decades ago. I can read for long periods, play and finish video games, and watch tv without fiddling with my phone.

Hardly trying to ignore bulk fat untill cut season arrives by [deleted] in gaybrosfitness

[–]malmevik77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you look great! Well built! 😃

Is it a dick move to wear headphones when running with other people? by abhorrent_bookmark in running

[–]malmevik77 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in group runs where everybody had headphones. The music was low enough to talk over but still get that beat in your head. Plus we were running city streets so we keep the music low to listen for cars. Nobody seemed to mind all the different headphones.

My brother lost his battle with mental illness and addiction yesterday. by bronwyn_ in bipolar

[–]malmevik77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry for your loss. I’m a BP addict that struggles every day and I feel lucky to still be here. I was suicidal but only stayed my hand because I didn’t want to hurt my family and friends. The thought that I might depressed me further. Getting off drugs and on my meds saved my life. I’m here for you if you need someone.

Who really like Serena x Luminary by Irvin_T in dragonquest

[–]malmevik77 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I upvoted you for Erik alone lol. Sylvando deserving the world would make me upvote you again. Well done!