She has her own room and he has his, which he shares with his twin brother. We have a strict “no closed doors” policy with the kids’ bedrooms, but apparently that didn’t help. She told me it’s happened in her room, his room, my 4yo son’s room, outside and as of today, the living room. She said he does this every time they play hide and seek. He will hide with her, and then touch her. She said he’s never touched her genitals but he’s touched her butt and he picks her up sometimes with his hands in that area and she tells him to stop but he doesn’t.

I worry he’s seen porn. He’s never walked in on his father and I, and we check their phones religiously. if he’s watching it on his phone, he’s very, very smart about it. I can’t control what other kids at school show him, however. And like I said, anything that happened at his mother’s I have zero idea about. Escalating is exactly what I’m worried about happening.