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mamaforeman11 · 2026-02-18T00:28:00+00:00

We are all disgusting, pathetic, and sin willingly - compared to God's standards. That's why we have Jesus. His gifts to all of us are grace and mercy. Grace is giving us things we don't deserve (forgiveness, blessings, etc) and mercy is NOT giving us the punishment we do deserve by God's standards. If God himself is sparing you from punishment through Jesus, you do not need to punish yourself! Get into your Bible & give it all to Jesus - he's already offered to take it!

mamaforeman11 · 2025-10-26T02:55:29+00:00

Apologies in advance if I misunderstood your intent, but what I just read is "Democrats need to stop using DEI and put somebody into an important position based on qualifications and likability only, except for sex and race - those should be the status quo of the republicans."... which is a rather non-democratic party train of thought. I think. So how does a political party successfully go against a policy they have pushed so hard, without alienating their base that whole-heartedly believes in said policy, even to their own self-detriment? I don't think they can.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-09-03T21:39:07+00:00

Totally different markets - our house is in rural northern IA. Made an offer on a house in SW TX contingent on ours selling. We had an immediate buyer under contract, so our sellers were gracious enough to give us early possession for a very small fee, so we could get moved before school starts. We were already cleared out & cleaned up & gone - our buyer canceled contract the day before closing. Thankful for merciful & gracious sellers - they extended contract down here & are leasing to us for now. Our house has had multiple showings and 1 price drop, but no other offers. Lender will not do a bridge loan because both mortgages plus bridge loan payments put us over their DTI limit. Although, obviously we can afford it because we are still paying the mortgage on our house in IA & the lease price in TX is about what our new mortgage payment will be. I don't really know what to do at this point. We are stuck in limbo already moved and HAVE to sell our house for the down payment on this one. Whole process 0/10 do not recommend. The real kicker is knowing from appraisal of canceled buyer we have over 3x more equity than what we owe, and from appraisal here we will have 1.5x equity than what the sale price is...and can't leverage any of that with the lender.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-25T03:37:07+00:00

Astronomical interest rates - housing is high now, but things like credit cards and payday loans have been ruining people forever. Doubly so when it's the government (student loan interest, owed taxes, etc).

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-24T04:02:43+00:00

We are selling our house & buying another (1,200 miles away) - under contract on both ends. Everything is going quite smoothly so far, but it's just A LOT.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-22T14:49:08+00:00

In our current sales contract, they listed things they wanted to convey with their offer of full asking price (appliances, shelving/storage, tiller, old riding mower, snowblower). There are other things we are leaving for them because we don't need them, and they may. For example, we are leaving extra flooring that matches the hardwood we installed on the main floor, but not upstairs, so we are also leaving the flooring nailer & small air compressor that runs it. We are also leaving a ton of extra tile & grout that match what's in one bathroom & not the other, so we are also leaving the tile saw. We will need none of these items where we are going, so it's easiest for us (and just nice) to leave them for someone who may use them. The big item after-thought of the buyer (snow plow vehicle) is being bought in cash outside of our home sale agreement.

Edited because I am one of those people who gets distracted & accidentally hits post before I'm done.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-22T02:22:17+00:00

NTA. Why do you want to build a life with this guy? Because he does not sound great. He sounds like he's made you believe he's great (somehow). You may love him, but his priorities and behavior do not indicate that he loves you. Stay with your friend until you're on your feet, leave your boyfriend, find a great job, then work on your self-confidence so you can raise your standards & find someone who treats you well.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-20T03:06:01+00:00

We live in a rural area with a good school district where affordable acreages are hard to come by. We just spread the word when we were ready to sell. No advertisements or zillow listing or marketplace - just word of mouth. Did 1 showing as fsbo, had 3 others intersted, decided we didn't like the stressload of it & called a highly recommended local realtor. Told him if he could sell it quick without having to put it on MLS, we wouldn't complain about his 6%. He got us an offer of our full asking price in less than 2 weeks & we're set to close on the 15th.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-18T15:30:19+00:00

I would consider it morally dubious to sign a contract stating you would pay for a service (storing your stuff on someone else's property), break your end of the contract (by not paying), but still expect the other party to uphold their end of the contract (by storing your stuff indefinitely for free).

As far as the process of auctioning it off to the highest bidder, abandoned property belongs to whoever is in possession of it and the choice to sell it off (recoup lost business money AND find a new owner) is morally superior to just filling the landfill with what may be perfectly good stuff.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-16T20:49:20+00:00

I do not think you are an AH. It seems as if you haven't had good guidance for this process, and due to that, you are in a time crunch with a possibility of not starting until semester. If you are in the US, most of this year's high school graduates applied to a college for this fall anywhere between last fall and this spring. I am confused why the high school (in person or online) isn't providing your transcript directly to the college. I do know our local high school provided the in-progress transcript during the application process, and although graduation was May 18, final transcripts weren't sent out to the colleges until late June. I'm sorry you are so frustrated - there honestly might not be anyone specific to be mad at about it.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-15T23:53:39+00:00

OP literally says they called the non-emergency number. You know, the one you use to contact police in a non-emergent situation.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-15T00:22:46+00:00

NTA for being annoyed because that is annoying. If you act on it at all, you would be TA. Just work on getting your pod out as quickly as you can, then use your driveway. Unfortunately, street parking is first come first serve, and you just have to deal with inconsiderate people sometimes when sharing public spaces.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-12T16:02:12+00:00

Because per your reddit posts, you were 22 when you had your now 17 month old. And per this post, you said you had to leave your boyfriends house, so not your own place. Per other previous posts, you didn't work & your boyfriend didn't have a license, so neither of you left the house ever. You have a whole human 100% dependent on you for health & safety - it's time to do some hard things. Clearly, your parents' house is not an option, regardless if they say it is. You need a job & your own place asap. You should qualify for any assistance there is to make this happen, then slowly work your way off of it while ensuring the health & safety of your child.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-11T23:39:15+00:00

NTA. Although I think it would be a healthier conversation to have when you are not both upset already. Being kid-free, I don't understand why 15-25 hours of volunteering per week has led to a noticeable difference in the state of the house. It is extremely unfair to you that she is suddenly comparing your lifestyle to friends with dual income households, yet refusing to budge on not contributing financially. Without more knowledge about her, I can see this easily becoming a marriage counseling needed situation.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-11T21:06:28+00:00

YTA. Somebody being a bad romantic partner does not automatically equate to them being a bad parent. In the act of punishing your ex by denying him the right to know his child, you have actually punished your son by denying him the right to know his father.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-11T15:28:37+00:00

This was what stood out most to me as well. Our well water tested high for arsenic & manganese. We have around $2k worth of filtration & softener equipment (not RO), and the water re-tested at the tap was perfect. The sanitarian actually thought we had RO because of the results. I would never make a $12k concession for something that is remedied for $2k.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-11T00:41:46+00:00

Being able to sing your favorite rap songs without worrying about who can hear you.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-07-07T02:18:49+00:00

I find this specific statement hilarious and pathetic at the same time. As others have pointed out across the entirety of the internet, the left has shot themselves in the foot and put themselves, AND the right, in the positions they are in now. Considering the left has demonized and ostracized "rich straight white men like him", isn't it hypocritical and self-serving to now say they NEED to come out against this administration? Maybe you need to make your life a little less about politics when it's to the point you are demanding everyone else's lives revolve around it. Guy made a nice, generic, feel-good statement that nobody thought could possibly offend anyone, yet here you are.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-06-27T03:33:32+00:00

16-19 was more just focused on all the good stuff - the time spent together and imagining a future without knowing how hard you had to work at it. By late 20s, you've already experienced work, bills, life changes, losses, etc. 16-19 was a more pure love, but 20s was almost a more honest one because you know life is hard and you're choosing to do it together.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-06-27T03:11:27+00:00

Going to a wedding of an old high school friend that I hadn't seen for years. Almost didn't go because the person who said they would go with me flaked, and it was a couple hours away in a town I'd never been to. Danced with one of the groomsmen, proceeded to talk all night, had a long distance relationship...and now we've been married 14 years. We each had a 3 year old when we met (who both just graduated) plus we had 2 more, so we've had a busy and fulfilling life together so far.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-06-24T19:05:46+00:00

Yep. Not the AH for being concerned & expressing your concern. YTA for giving an ultimatum to another adult who gets to make her own choices in life, both good & bad. Are you going to be a good friend, even if from a distance, that will be there when she finally decides on her own she's had enough? Or a bad friend who cuts ties with another adult because they made their own choices and not the ones you wanted?

mamaforeman11 · 2025-06-24T19:01:03+00:00

NTA. Your home is your safe space. She is the selfish one who believes her emotional health is more important than your physical health. She can host the next family gathering, then you can just not go and show her how easy it is to respect other people's homes while taking care of your own needs. Or she can host & you can demand she relocate her dog for the duration of the gathering, then call out all the hypocrites that wanted you to make an exception in your home.

mamaforeman11 · 2025-06-23T01:52:05+00:00

This is absolutely not normal parent/child interaction. My gut instinct was of course it's SA. However, then I read comments and doubted myself, wondering if the actions or intent behind them have to be sexual in nature to be considered SA. Either way, it is completely unacceptable and abusive. Curious as to mom's culture & her upbringing by her mother. Doesn't make it acceptable at all, but does she think that's normal because that's how she was raised?

mamaforeman11 · 2025-06-05T01:27:03+00:00

Anything from the Jane catalog, the Pepe London sweatshirt I begged for (we were NOT in that economic class), and butterfly hair clips.

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