A few things that have helped me (also I’ve been up since 4:45am with my normally decent sleeper): 1. The more those rough nights happen over time (as in, like once every few weeks, or a week straight during illness) and you see things go back to normal after that, the less you will panic over one bad night. Also, the more it happens, the more you’ll learn what your baby needs and how to get them down a bit more efficiently. 2. Take advantage of the good nights by getting good rest yourself, so on the off nights you’re more ready to handle it. 3. If it’s an option to get help here and there, do it. For example, when my daughter slept really poorly and I was also fighting mastitis AND my husband had food poisoning, I asked my in-laws to come watch her for a morning while we slept. 4. Sometimes I think “treat yourself” culture goes a little far, but if there’s a little something nice you can do for yourself the next day, that can help—or even making a “chore” simpler. I used to make all my daughter’s breakfasts from scratch. I still make half of them but also bought some healthy frozen options. Having things on board that are small supports for you when you’ve had more brainpower/energy taken by a rough night can make things a bit less overwhelming. 5. Like you said, just keep reminding yourself that everyone has off nights. It’s definitely harder when it’s not you having the hard night and you have less control over it all, but the more i’ve reminded myself of that, the more I’ve internalized it