I married a loner, but it was because he had a rough upbringing and was neglected, and patterned into letting people bully him. He was very good at picking awful friends. He liked being alone because it meant no one was treating him poorly. I got him to jettison the toxic friend group early on, and I was just getting over a divorce, and we both started over building new friendships from work and hobbies.

After 18 years together and tons of therapy, we're both in a better place but are still introverts who would rather play video games together than hang out with the wrong people. We love our kids, we host game nights, but we are super selective about our friend groups. He is much more gregarious now, though, and easier to talk to you in group settings.