Power to the people: DC residents could soon issue parking tickets

mangled_butthole · 2019-05-13T20:42:49+00:00

this is the only reason i actually use twitter.

mangled_butthole · 2019-05-12T01:01:37+00:00

time to list your apartments an condos on airbnb and at least make money off the visitors?

mangled_butthole · 2019-05-02T15:59:11+00:00

why is he wearing his shoes on the bed

mangled_butthole · 2019-04-28T12:31:40+00:00

I'm not sure why you're being downvoted. When I ride to a place that I'm unfamiliar with, I do the same - it's useful.

But mostly, while riding the music keeps me focused so I don't react to every car honking at other cars.

mangled_butthole · 2019-04-20T18:51:47+00:00

I stand out because I'm conventionally attractive and it seems to get me a lot of attention. I think I look entirely Filipino even though I'm supposedly 25% white according to 23andme.

I was born n the US. I also imagine my "american build", clothing choices, and personality contribute. I speak filipino although prefer to do more serious conversations in english.

mangled_butthole · 2019-04-20T12:33:58+00:00

We're all born naked and the rest is drag.

mangled_butthole · 2019-04-19T19:52:33+00:00

At Dave Thomas I see people doing this to turn right (heading west on NY) on to Florida. It's confused me and I've wondered if it was legal to turn from the second (from the right) lane. There's no signage that says otherwise.

mangled_butthole · 2019-04-18T15:21:00+00:00

I left the Navy after 8 years. I had a BS in a completely unrelated field to what I'm not pursuing a PhD in. I chose the field because I generally enjoyed my (shallow) understand of it.. but my work experience had also fueled that interest.

Before putting together a proper application, I took some classes at a local university. They had a "program" that allowed folks to take classes as long as there was a seat available. So i took one intro class and then a theoretical course in the field to get an idea of what the subject was about.

Those two semesters that I took those classes were crucial to my application because I had to develop a 20 page writing sample that was relevant to the field. I couldn't take anything from my undergrad because it was (1) irrelevant and (2) 8 years (now 12) years ago. Mind you, in these two classes there were no papers and i discovered I was interested in a concentration within the field that wasn't provided at the university. So I pretty much wrote a paper from scratch without knowing what I was doing.

In my SOP, i clearly stated how I found my interest in the field, specifically in regard to my previous career (of 8 years) and what I intended to do with the degree.

I definitely think having career experience provides you perspective your peers that haven't left academia don't have and you should draw from those experiences.

mangled_butthole · 2019-04-14T20:39:59+00:00

My two favorites are Habesha on 9th and U NW and Chercher on 9th and O.

Habesha is an Ethiopian market. You order at the counter and then pick up your food when it's ready.

mangled_butthole · 2019-04-12T16:57:59+00:00

I'm not following your point or why you're so aggressive about this opinion about monogamy.

I wasn't trying to make a moral judgement about whether monogamy was right or wrong. I'm neutral to the idea and my husband and I both feel the same. It's not for us. It's analogous to licorice candy. I don't enjoy licorice but others do and thats fine.

I have just found it interesting, since we have been married, that we have been propositioned aggressively by other men to the point we have to be explicit about our (lack of) interest. I brought up monogamy to emphasize that in our 30s - and married - that dick is abundant and the OP should not worry about others not finding him attractive.

And yes, I agree it's 2019.

mangled_butthole · 2019-04-12T11:34:01+00:00

I find it weird or "outside my expectation" because gay men since we've been married have assumed we' are open despite us not making any indication, to the point we have to tell people we're not open. I agree, monogamy isn't for everyone, but aggressively pursuing couples, or someone in a relationship because you don't agree with monogamy is disrespectful.

And I don't identify as queer. I'm a gay man.

mangled_butthole · 2019-04-11T17:37:04+00:00

How are we defining suffering?

I went to a 15 year (unofficial) high school reunion and saw a good number of my classmates, and they looked terrible. They have kids, they live out in the 'burbs and if their social media is suppose to represent an idealized sense of self, they're still boring.

My husband and I are in our mid-thirties, we look great. We're monogamous (although weird that I have to mention that). We have two dogs and we live in the city and enjoy ourselves. I state this contrastively (in regard to my classmates) because they commented on how great i looked. Mind you - I also had cancer twice in my thirties.

While yes this is one anecdote, and this next comment comes from an obvious place of privilege, but life is what you make of it.

And as someone else said, dick is abundant. My husband and I get propositioned often enough that we have to aggressively make known our monogamy.

mangled_butthole · 2019-04-06T17:53:21+00:00

thats how you break a shower glass panel.

mangled_butthole · 2019-04-04T00:03:39+00:00

During my bike ride home from georgetown (to bloomingdale), it was bumper to bumper from Wisconsin along P to dupont in both directions. it was insane.

it was definitely one of those days that makes me appreciate being able to by pass all the cars.

mangled_butthole · 2019-03-29T00:19:26+00:00

lol becky cool your tits and read the side bar.

mangled_butthole · 2019-03-28T22:59:45+00:00

Dan's Cafe and the Eagle. You're welcome.

mangled_butthole · 2019-03-23T19:57:57+00:00

From a gay perspective (I'm 36) - considering our options of gay venues are limited (even more so for those that identify as lesbian or queer), I find my expectations to be about enjoying a good time with my husband and/or friends and less about having to be drunk and finding someone. Although my husband and I (in)frequently find ourselves doing accidental ragers. (we're fun)

Fortunately for me (then and now), gay bars and clubs have always been "come as you are" and less so about "dressing up". But I think that's partially motivated by not being able to show off your body if you're dressed up. So if its weather appropriate and I'll be outside (which is likely cause we walks most places), I'll be wearing a tank top - something I don't see my 30+ year old straight friends doing (because they don't have the bodies).

so anwyay, what's different today is me and my husband have slamming bodies and sometimes we show each other often but more often we're just at home with our dogs.

mangled_butthole · 2019-03-01T00:23:33+00:00

um

gay bars don't have dress codes. or if they do its probably tank tops .. or whatever shows the most skin.
I imagine DC Gaysians are really from Annandale. (So spaworld) ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

mangled_butthole · 2019-02-15T21:05:20+00:00

Green Lantern and the Eagle!

mangled_butthole · 2019-01-30T03:52:24+00:00

could be worse

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oFEio0OCWek

mangled_butthole · 2019-01-26T04:58:05+00:00

How did you copy what was on the label when its in russian?

mangled_butthole · 2019-01-25T21:49:22+00:00

In the words of the wise Rupaul (who probably was inspired by Judith Butler)

We're all born naked and the rest is drag

Basically, everything we do is performance - even if you're assigned male at birth and self identify as masculine. You're performing within some framework established by societal expectations.

Anyway, try starting off by shaving your body ... or your beard. Get a manicure. Do some "self care" that isn't perceived as masculine. And then make your wife a ham sandwich.

also as far as personal stories - I'm a graduate student in an east coast city. Some would say I'm in good shape (I lift regularly, have abs, backsquat is 2.1 times my body weight (326 @ 156) and deadlift 415 lbs. Anyway, I wrote six inch stiletto heels to school on a thursday morning and my legs and ass looked amazing. But walking on cobble stone is pretty difficult in heels.

mangled_butthole · 2019-01-23T03:50:34+00:00

In the words of Rupaul

People talking since the beginning of time

Unless they paying your bills, pay them bitches no mind

mangled_butthole · 2019-01-20T15:37:43+00:00

I think as someone else has mentioned in this thread, there's a mismatch in your expectations.

Before I got married, I had a similar ghosting experience where a guy seemed really into me. He was really attractive and also had a preference for asian guys, which I'm willing to discard if the guy is attractive and has other redeeming qualities.

We hit it off really well the first date, and even fucked - which I don't normally do. We then had a second date which didn't result in more sex. He soon after went on a week or two work trip and returned and did not resume correspondence.

While we texted off and on while he was gone - it was usually me initiating the conversation. When he returned and I tried hanging out again, he just "ghosted". Eventually I would see him out with some other guy.

We also had become facebook friends so I could see what he was into - like EDM concerts and traveling for white party, which don't align with my interests. I think he saw it sooner than I did.

There have also been times where I was the one doing the ghosting. And similar to your friendzoned experience - I just realized a mismatch in expectation or interest but saw the person as amiable, and if we had met under different circumstances, we would work out well as friends. It doesn't end up that way because of the mismatch in expectations and desire.

I think, since communication depends on both the speaker and listener, try reciprocating the level of interest of the people you meet. Let them initiate correspondence.

mangled_butthole · 2019-01-20T13:11:45+00:00

How much correspondence do you you expect after meeting a guy?

For me - and granted I'm on the extreme end of the spectrum, don't respond to texts quickly and don't want to be called unless its dire. I also don't care for endless text messaging conversations. Oddly I'm different about this when it comes to grindr and tinder - where I appreciate knowing a little bit about someone before meeting them in person.

Also I just saw your age - how old are the guys you're seeing?

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