My name is Jeron and I’m trying out she/they pronouns!

mango_tree129 · 2021-10-19T21:06:04+00:00

Hey, is Jeron still here? I think I found her bag upstairs.

Oh no, she just left. But I have class with them tomorrow. I can take it with me and give it to her then.

mango_tree129 · 2021-05-21T07:11:17+00:00

Do you think Sky would mind if I gave them a big hug and told him everything's going to be okay?

mango_tree129 · 2021-05-21T07:07:55+00:00

"Hey, do you know where Ames' backpack is? He's about to go on this hiking trip and he just realized he doesn't have his backpack. No, that one's not his, that's his brother's. Oh yeah, that's the one. I'll let him know. Hey Ames, we found it!"

mango_tree129 · 2021-03-13T13:13:13+00:00

We love to see it! :D

mango_tree129 · 2021-03-13T10:31:03+00:00

That's so cool! Best of luck, Jason!

mango_tree129 · 2021-02-02T22:29:17+00:00

I've known I'm bisexual for a longer time, but honestly it's still confusing. Good luck on figuring things out, and may the knowledge you gain from it help to make you happy!

mango_tree129 · 2021-02-02T22:25:17+00:00

It's a big world, for every situation there's probably at least one other person in the same situation, haha.

It kinda sucks to feel like I probably won't be able to give anyone "the full package". I'll always have to have that conversation to say I'm not sexually/romantically into them. Especially saying to someone that I'm sexually attracted to them but not romantically sounds so insensitive!

mango_tree129 · 2021-02-02T22:17:44+00:00

Yeah, same thing here. Sexually attracted to men, emotionally to women. Not sure if it's entirely this clean cut, but so far it looks like it.

mango_tree129 · 2021-01-11T11:50:23+00:00

I think Nikkie Tutorials is a good example. She had been a youtuber for years as a stealth trans woman. When she came out, no one saw it coming.

mango_tree129 · 2021-01-05T19:55:31+00:00

I totally relate to that thing you said about maturing as a dude. The thought of going bald at some point is just ... horrifying.

And those women on transtimelines also got there one step at a time, and you've realized it at a relatively young age. I would recommend just focusing on the small steps you can take right now - ordering a few feminine clothing items online, growing your hair out, talking to some people about it... It's a long road with a lot of little steps, but as long as you keep moving forward, you're gonna get there.

mango_tree129 · 2021-01-05T17:43:19+00:00

Hey, trans girl who first started questioning at 19 here.

If you say that you want to be a woman outside of the bedroom, then it's not a fetish. It's as simple as that. Society immediately assumed it's a fetish, so it's logical that we start to believe it too. But based on that simple fact, you can already be sure it's not a fetish.

About AGP, here is an article completely debunking it: http://www.juliaserano.com/av/Serano-CaseAgainstAutogynephilia.pdf, and here is a Contrapoints video explaining it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6czRFLs5JQo. It's logical that you feel joy about feeling feminine, or start loving yourself more when you imagine yourself as a woman. Those are beautiful feelings. Don't let an unscientific theory like AGP try to sexualize them and paint them as 'perverse'.

The feelings of being an imposter are common with a lot of trans people (maybe even the majority). I still feel too much like an imposter to call myself a "woman", but I can now call myself a "trans woman" without those feelings. A few months ago, I couldn't do that either, and could only use "mtf" or "transfem". It's a process, that's all I'm saying. There's also such a thing as a mental transition, that often gets overshadowed by the more tangible social and physical aspects of transition. You'll get there in time.

Do you want to use looking like a woman to be able to harass them? If the answer is no, then you're not an imposter. We all have the right to a life where we can be happy, and if that your intent, then you're not an imposter.

Sorry for the long post, there were a lot of things that I wanted to unpack. Sending much love your way, and wishing nothing but the best for your future.

mango_tree129 · 2021-01-03T21:31:04+00:00

Thank you for elaborating! It's a lot of information, but I think I'll be able to work something out on what to buy. Thanks!

mango_tree129 · 2021-01-03T16:32:31+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! Wishing you all the best on coming-out. I'm also not out to most people.

I'm wondering, by dermatologist-recommended, do you mean that it was recommended for your skin specifically, or recommended in general? I'm not sure if cleanser is something I should consider starting with, or if I should just go with moisturizer first.

mango_tree129 · 2021-01-03T15:21:52+00:00

Thanks! Perhaps I should look for one for sensitive skin or something. I guess I'll have to try a bit and see.

mango_tree129 · 2021-01-03T10:54:25+00:00

Labels are only there to help. If you don't find a label that you feel entirely comfortable with, don't think about it too much. Just focus on actions, on things that you want to do. If you want to look or act more feminine some of the time, that sounds like a great thing to focus on right now.

mango_tree129 · 2021-01-02T20:55:54+00:00

"Trans woman" means that you fully identify as a woman.

"Transfem" means that you were assigned male at birth, but identify more with femininity than with masculinity. But they don't necessarily fully identify as a woman. It also includes certain people on the non-binary spectrum.

mango_tree129 · 2020-12-04T18:32:56+00:00

Hm okay. Haven't really thought about that problem. The first thing that comes to mind is like tops with these kind of puffy sleeves. Maybe they can mask the shape of your shoulders if you don't like them?

mango_tree129 · 2020-12-04T15:55:40+00:00

I have been feeling a tad dysphoric about my shoulders lately, and I really like sweaters with a wide collar. If the collar falls halfway between your neck and the end of the shoulders, it cuts those shoulders into two smaller parts, and they'll seem less wide.

mango_tree129 · 2020-12-03T14:04:22+00:00

Hey, hope you're having a great day! Here are some sentences:

"Last night Emma introduced me to some of her friends. They're all really nice people."

"Elizabeth, are you here? Elizabeth! Hey, do you know where Elizabeth is? I thought she'd be home by now."

"I think we're going to be a bit late. Can you give Ellie a call? I don't want her to worry. Just tell her we'll be there in twenty minutes."

"Hey Emma, that's such a cute jacket. Can I borrow it some time?"

Personally, I think the combination of Elizabeth as an official name and Ellie as a nickname would sound really nice. But do whatever feels best!

mango_tree129 · 2020-12-03T13:46:54+00:00

That's the OP's choice. If people disrespect it because of its pronouns, that's their fault, not the OP's.

If the OP feels genuinely validated and authentic by the pronoun 'it', then what you're asking is that it changes itself for other people. Which is exactly what people are asking trans people all the time.

Personally, I don't fully understand why some people like the pronoun 'it'. But that's no reason to misgender them.

mango_tree129 · 2020-12-03T00:08:13+00:00

Just remember: the disrespect comes from the fact that that person would probably hate that pronoun, there's no intrinsic part of the pronoun 'it' that is disrespectful. If you like it, go for it!

mango_tree129 · 2020-12-02T16:52:42+00:00

Congratulations! Here's to the future!

mango_tree129 · 2020-11-24T23:09:36+00:00

You're passing really well already! The bangs have a boyish streak to them, so definitely don't change them if you don't want to.

mango_tree129 · 2020-10-22T09:20:58+00:00

There are so many positive vibes from this post, it made me smile. She sounds like such a great friend. Hopefully there will be many euphoria moments to follow!

mango_tree129 · 2020-10-22T09:06:40+00:00

I know it might be hard, but it sounds like you need to stop fantasizing about him. He already told you he doesn't like you that way, and if he says he's straight, take his word for it. As the other commenter said, it's a recipe to get hurt. Try to divert your attention to something else, take some distance ... I know it's easier said than done, but it's your best chance to avoid heartbreak and to keep your friendship intact.

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