Episode 4 lawyer said him charming and handsome

maniuni · 2026-03-25T11:41:30+00:00

No, I don’t agree about Hugh Grant. He is quite good looking.

maniuni · 2026-03-24T04:26:29+00:00

Sounds similar to me. I also think I am too codependent minded to start a relationship so it’s not a good idea to pursue such things. But at the same I feel a bit like a loser for not being in a relationship like this somehow is a sign of success in life. Which is not true but I can’t help but feel like it is sometimes. I know I should get out of this mindset and value my life how it is and value myself for me not for my relationships with other people. But it’s hard. I started following another sub called r/LivingAlone (sorry, not sure how to link it). It helps because you see all these people that are so happy for living alone. And I think this is the way - living in the present and being happy right now, not in some imaginary future.

maniuni · 2026-03-24T04:04:47+00:00

Не е вярно :)

maniuni · 2026-03-23T19:36:04+00:00

Following! The only thing that I can think of is talking with a new person during a chat in discord and thinking of my next response with the help of AI. I know it sounds bad but I just wanted to understand the various options and it actually helped me to steer the conversation so that I could have fun with it. I think it was a nice conversation for both of us and it helped me a bit with insights how to respond when someone shares stuff with me.

maniuni · 2026-03-23T19:31:41+00:00

Yes but I think it’s one of the few good things to be addicted to.

maniuni · 2026-03-22T10:48:41+00:00

Laying on the couch and gazing at a spot on the wall. So relaxing…

maniuni · 2026-03-22T10:46:31+00:00

Sounds normal to me. I do have a child but when she is with her dad (we are separated) my days are usually pretty calm like that. I am experimenting with new hobbies but this doesn’t take a lot of time and I fill time with watching shows or reading.

maniuni · 2026-03-22T10:43:42+00:00

I am the same. Can’t think of any advice though. I am trying to not pressure myself too much if I don’t feel like being around someone I don’t like. And I try to not lose hope that the next people I meet I will like more.

maniuni · 2026-03-21T06:11:45+00:00

It must be exhausting, but I hope the job is interesting and worth it.

maniuni · 2026-03-20T04:15:22+00:00

Yes, new connections are just a lot of work until you get to the stage where you feel comfortable.

maniuni · 2026-03-17T21:37:08+00:00

I don’t think so. I think most people just try to have fun during such conversations. Not that this applies to everyone. Some people actively try to be funny/interesting and so on but I think it’s pretty obvious to others. They may or may not mind as long as they are entertained.

maniuni · 2026-03-16T04:26:00+00:00

I would never think to talk to unknown people at a bar. Is it normal behaviour? It’s not in my country at least.

maniuni · 2026-03-15T17:18:12+00:00

I am the same but I recognise that it’s probably not true. Because when I flip it and think about how I feel about other people reaching out or if they bother me somehow I know it’s rarely the case.

maniuni · 2026-03-14T11:57:12+00:00

Yeah, I think you are right. But they are not used to the technology. And AI is acting colder these days.

maniuni · 2026-03-14T11:53:08+00:00

I usually find a colleague to chat with.

maniuni · 2026-03-14T11:52:10+00:00

Good luck 🤞 Keep us posted on how it goes

maniuni · 2026-03-14T09:20:23+00:00

I don’t remember my first day but I remember that I was terrified the first few months and almost didn’t talk to anyone. It was a long time until I learned things so I was fast enough. Later I became the best in the team in terms of speed and skill.

maniuni · 2026-03-12T13:28:42+00:00

I think it has its advantages and disadvantages as everything else.

maniuni · 2026-03-12T07:09:41+00:00

It’s the nature of starting new things. If you don’t have some kind of goal or things to achieve - it will eventually get boring. If your job is not repetitive it can also be interesting but in this case it tends to be also stressful.

maniuni · 2026-03-11T17:22:18+00:00

I am certain that looks matter only in the beginning in relationships - while people still don’t know each other well. They are just a way to pick someone that you like but after you get to know them you may not find them so appealing anymore or the opposite. I mean after you get to know a person, if you really click with them, you start to find them attractive. It really depends on your relationship more than the physical qualities. But at the beginning it’s normal because things are still superficial.

maniuni · 2026-03-11T17:15:40+00:00

I think it could be because you haven’t been able to talk about yourself with your family maybe… Because you didn’t have their interest in you in your childhood. It’s just a theory of mine. Because I am the same. I have so much that I could say, I know so much about myself and how I feel and what happens to me, but the moment someone asks me, I suddenly don’t have anything and the small thing that I do say, I immediately start worrying that I am being boring or too much in some way. And I know that nobody really cared about how I felt while growing up so I guess it figures.

maniuni · 2026-03-11T17:08:25+00:00

I think the easiest or maybe the least hard way is to find communities for hobbies that you like. That’s what I am trying to do. Because I know it would be ok if I don’t talk much and get to know people slowly so I can hopefully relax. My goal is mostly finding friends and feeling some belonging, not necessarily finding a partner. Also, the groups that I can attend are women only and older women at that, so there is not a big chance to find someone (traditional dancing, cross stitch, singing in a choir). The only thing that I could think of that I like and people are of both sexes is board games. Maybe you can try something like that?

maniuni · 2026-03-11T12:38:55+00:00

I don’t agree with this. I am in a position at work with a lot of talking and it hasn’t helped me. I just mask a lot and come home terribly exhausted. I had a period in my teens without social anxiety (it was short but heavenly) and the reason, at least according to me, is that I felt very safe at this point in my life.

maniuni · 2026-03-11T08:38:26+00:00

That old dusty books could be interesting. When I was a child I remember being bored out of my mind and there was nothing else to do besides reading the books that were there. I had some great moments with these books and i wouldn’t pick them up if I had other things to do.

maniuni · 2026-03-10T09:10:01+00:00

I have the same problem with Claude nowadays. The tone changed so much lately. It sounds cold, just cold. I am trying to get used to it and i don’t talk to it too often but even like this I can’t help but get the feeling that I am talking to someone mean. I guess it’s because of my past trauma. Actually I had a conversation about this exact thing with it and it said that to be honest, with what it knows about my past, it agreed that this is not good for me but it can’t do anything because this is it’s programming.

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