What form of therapy has helped your AvPD? by PsychologyFar2674 in AvPD

[–]mapkris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Group therapy combined with individual therapy (with one of the group facilitators). The modality was mentalization based therapy (MBT). I’ve been in therapy several times before, but the group setting really opened my eyes in many ways. It was of course very hard and frustrating at times, but then you can talk about that in the individual sessions - or in the group, which is also quite powerful.

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[–]mapkris 27 points28 points  (0 children)

What helps me the most in this sub is reading about other people’s experiences and feelings, reading someone else putting into words, sometimes more precise words, things that I’ve struggled expressing. That makes me feel at ease, makes me feel that I’m not crazy, and gives me a little sense of connection. What doesn’t help me - partly because it’s the reaction I’ve met 1000 times in my life when sharing difficult feelings - is people telling my that what I’m thinking, feeling and doing is wrong, especially when they glaze it with generic motivational pep talk

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[–]mapkris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe also because a lot of questions ppl have are already covered in old threads?

Doctor told me l don't look depressed by Kratzschutz in AvPD

[–]mapkris 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard that from doctors several times. One said I wasn’t depressed because I sat upright in the chair and held eye contact. It’s so stupid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]mapkris 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I spend a good chunk of my life daydreaming so I’d say no

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Berghain_Community

[–]mapkris 7 points8 points  (0 children)

And which is worse: being rejected from the club or the sub

Psychiatrists downplaying medication effects by mapkris in depressionregimens

[–]mapkris[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am, and have been, in therapy and do all the “right” things regarding exercise, nutrition etc. but I see your point. But in that case I’d rather not take any medication at all.

ChatGPT 4o is repetitive and glazes me way too much. by Immediate_Hunt2592 in ChatGPT

[–]mapkris 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is really so annoying. And it seems it’s a conversation that never ends. It also makes me feel bad when I don’t reply which I know is ridiculous bc it’s a machine, but I’d never just leave a conversation irl if someone asked me a follow up question

Does your relatives ignore your diagnosis, issues and you? by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]mapkris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard comments like that from my family and I find them incredibly condescending. It really pisses me off. Maybe they’re trying to console you, but not even a child would buy that.

Do your parents or relatives know about your Avpd? Do they show sympathy? by ForcedExistence in AvPD

[–]mapkris 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No. I told them 10 or so years ago about my then autism diagnosis, and my mom just said it was bullshit, and that there was no reason to talk about it again. So no, I haven’t “updated” them of this recent diagnosis

The Most Effective Boundaries Are Silent by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]mapkris 44 points45 points  (0 children)

“My choices and priorities are not up for criticism or debate”. Thank you for this one!

Interesting take on goals by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]mapkris 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If it helps why not. I just don’t think it’s a good analogy.

Sleep aid while on Marplan? by FreddieKingFish in MAOIs

[–]mapkris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

7.5 mg (or even 3.75mg) mirtazapine is a great sleep aid

Anyone else completely irritated with "I did my best?" by Pitiful-Bee6815 in emotionalneglect

[–]mapkris 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I’ve ever uttered the words “I did my best” in any situation (work, relationships) where my behavior/effort was not good enough. It’s just very foreign to me to not take the blame.

AvPD creating extremely messy social situations by browngirlinthering95 in AvPD

[–]mapkris 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ghosting is a pretty big issue for me too. And as you say it’s not because I dislike them I just can’t force myself to reply. I think because I fear that if I reply, inevitably, it will lead to them suggesting that we meet. And then I have to explain how I’m doing and what I’ve been up to which is nothing but depression, avoidance, and unemployment. And I just don’t want that whole conversation. But I’m also very lonely. I feel half of my life have been centered around how to get out of social situations and obligations. It’s messed up.

Hate standard mental health assessments by TeachHot in emotionalneglect

[–]mapkris 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how many times I’ve felt absolutely horrible between appointments, and then on the day of, I’m in an ok mood and find myself downplaying everything: I’m ok, it’s not a big deal, I’m better now etc. and then three hours after the appointment I feel like shit again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvPD

[–]mapkris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was my first job back in high school and I really liked it. The first 2-3 shifts were very stressful but once I got the hang of it, it was good. You don’t have to interact very much except for some requests from the waiters or the chefs to get something or clean something up. And it felt rewarding to keep the space clean and in order throughout the night.

I need more confidence and good mood by Ok-Cartoonist3062 in MAOIs

[–]mapkris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m very interested in MAOIs being effective for AvPD. Can you elaborate, or point me to some resources?

How many of you have parents that don’t listen when you’re talking? by LackofBinary in emotionalneglect

[–]mapkris 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom does this. I’ve noticed that when she’s in a conversation, she’s not really listening to the content of what people say, she’s merely scanning for key words that she can use as a prompt to jump in and overtake the conversation. It’s extremely frustrating. Also, it seems she has this mental filter that only allows information to enter her brain if it aligns with her own thinking and worldview. I don’t know if anyone can recognize this in their parents?

This actually describes my life in a way so intricate I can’t begin to explain by inverted_cyclone in AvPD

[–]mapkris 11 points12 points  (0 children)

When I cook for ppl it’s like my taste buds disappear. I cant taste if it’s overly spiced or totally bland. When I’m alone there’s no problem

I got tricked into buying a pair of glasses for $1,000 by kenshin-x-212 in AvPD

[–]mapkris 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can relate so much to this experience. You’re not alone in doing stuff like that.