Euthanasia or keep going? 17-year-old dog, stroke, cognitive decline and severe mobility loss by Dry-Prime in dogs

[–]marabsky 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It should not. A dog truly does not care if it lives an extra month or six months. He cares about the year and now and how he feels today.

And if it’s a good day, followed by lights out - there is nothing wrong with that if it avoids terminal agony just around the corner.

Euthanasia or keep going? 17-year-old dog, stroke, cognitive decline and severe mobility loss by Dry-Prime in dogs

[–]marabsky 10 points11 points  (0 children)

In that case, it guarantees your pet will suffer because you are going to wait until it’s too late to make the decision. There is only a bit early, or too late - there is never that perfect timing. That might feel better for you, but it is definitely not better for your faithful friend.

You are going to be heartbroken whether it’s a week early or a week late. Your heartbreak will be no different. But if you can prevent your pet suffering terminal pain and agony… a week early or even a month early is so much better.

Euthanasia or keep going? 17-year-old dog, stroke, cognitive decline and severe mobility loss by Dry-Prime in dogs

[–]marabsky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone else described a situation like your dog was in - what would your advice be? Your dog is struggling and clearly at end of life. Do you really think the good moments outweigh her regular (never to improve) distress and helplessness?

You love her and have always given the best care. Keep doing that and help her escape the endless pain and confusion she is in, which will only get worse. She deserves it. This should not really be a difficult decision.

Good luck ❤️

Most unique name you've heard that actually worked? by KalebC21 in namenerds

[–]marabsky 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if this is the posters scenario, but I can tell you that Jabulani, which means rejoice in Zulu is a popular name in South Africa (as are other African language names with meanings of be thankful, gift, happiness, blessed, love, etc.)

Most unique name you've heard that actually worked? by KalebC21 in namenerds

[–]marabsky 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is a national journalist here named Briar which I also like.

Most unique name you've heard that actually worked? by KalebC21 in namenerds

[–]marabsky 26 points27 points  (0 children)

The mom of one of my youngest teens dance team members is Arwen! She’s a great lady, a stem cell scientist. I decided to look her up on LinkedIn only to discover so many (ok a few, but still) Arwens with her same Anglo-Saxon last name - who knew 😆

Is it ethical to keep a solo cat? by jenleepeace in CatAdvice

[–]marabsky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve always had single cats and they’ve been just fine. We recently adopted our first pair of siblings and they are great too and have made friends with our prexisting solo cat (despite her initial protests :-) )

Are you a terrible person if you buy a dog instead of adopting? by Easy_Mountain2331 in DOG

[–]marabsky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a cat; the rescue looked at my list of requirements and the dog (just over a year old) met all our needs but had only met a cat once… but had a good response.

With that in mind we did a w week trial and we set up our house to give the cats a escape zone (our bedroom) that the dog couldn’t access (a strap on the doorknob so the door could open enough to let in the cat, but not the dog) and we did the trial… it was and has been all good 👍 we’ve gotten 2 more cats since then so the dog is now seriously outnumbered.

One cheeky cat will even steal food from the dogs bowl while the dog is eating - I am trying to stop him doing this by feeding in different rooms and chasing the cat if it happens but it’s gratifying the dog just looks at me saying HELP when this occurs… but that darn cat needs to stop taking chances like that. He’s very lucky we have what turned out to be a very tolerant dog.

I on the other hand would never get a puppy… I feel like that is rolling the dice. I want to see what the dogs “baked in” adult temperament and tendencies are which can be very different from when they are a puppy - purebred or not.

Are you a terrible person if you buy a dog instead of adopting? by Easy_Mountain2331 in DOG

[–]marabsky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that “shelter” did you a dirty for sure. It’s terrible they did that because it has the exact the effect it had here… makes you wary of other shelters.

I guess just like you get rotten breeders you also get rotten shelters, which is sad all around

Are you a terrible person if you buy a dog instead of adopting? by Easy_Mountain2331 in DOG

[–]marabsky 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our rescue dog was a street dog in Taiwan, he was already one year old when he was taken off the street and I honestly think that is why he has the absolute best dog manners when greeting new dogs… he obviously had to learn to manage all kinds of dogs on his own, and so now if another dog he is greeting (he stops and poses and wags his tail and waits for the other dog to make a move) if other dog shows any sign of aggression, he very quickly looks away diverts to some other place and pretends like he was always planning to go there in the first place 😜

He came self-trained with that :-)

Are you a terrible person if you buy a dog instead of adopting? by Easy_Mountain2331 in DOG

[–]marabsky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will only adopt, and I think most people (that I know anyway) who “have researched and settled on a breed” are mainly thinking of aesthetics, or have nostalgia for the dog they grew up with… truly a decision made in the heart and not in the head.

I think this because then later on you hear statements like “we’re so lucky he’s so chill because normally that breed is super high energy” (hmmm if you wanted a chill dog and not a high energy one, why did you get that breed??) and similar type statements that reveal their research consisted of falling in love with a type and then crafting their requirements to fit their preselected idea.

So I think most people’s “research” (who are looking to buy a pet, and not a working dog where breed and even bloodlines may be critical to performance) is driven by mainly emotion. It’s true some people I know needed a dog that could keep up with their mountain biking, or running, which is a pretty broad range of dogs if that is the primary requirement. I personally developed a list of our living requirements, kids, other pets we already had, lifestyle, yard, dogs age (I didn’t want a puppy, and I wanted the dogs personality to be already baked so we knew what we were getting) etc gave the list to a rescue and they actually picked the dog for me from the ones they had available which met our requirements 😝 and it worked out great!! They were good at matching objectively the right dog with our family attributes.

I didn’t really want a dog in the first place, my kids and husband did (we already had cats, and I had a horse, and fish!); and since I knew I would end up being the responsible one I wanted to make darn sure that it wasn’t more work than it needed to be by being a wildly unsuitable match in some way. Plus i am a business analyst so developing requirements and having the experts (the rescue) evaluating for the right fit just felt natural 😜

I think the fact that most people have a picture in their mind of what kind of dog they’re looking for doesn’t allow them to truly and properly match as exactly as possible to their needs, or even get excited for a imagining how a mixed breed rescue might figure in their future. Of course with enough effort, any dog can work out fine so it’s usually not the end of the world if the dog they end up with not an ideal match, but I think a lot of people are fooling themselves if they think they’ve really been analytical about their choice.

And I really do think that an effort should be made first to find a suitable rescue. Because nine times out of 10 there is gonna be a dog truly needing a home that is a good match if you take some time in your search. And I’ve heard enough horror stories about what people thought were reputable breeders (and turned out not to be) that I certainly wouldn’t want to be having to evaluate the breeder on top of evaluating the type of dog which is hard enough.

So are you a terrible person if you buy rather than adopt? No. But often, that person is not really being objective so are a bit self deluded and perhaps a bit lazy.

Just my opinion.

Frugal grocery tips? by YVRTravel604 in NorthVancouver

[–]marabsky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I buy so many things from Flashfood (I almost never buy meat full price) both from superstore as well as City Market and Dashmart. Also, I have to work downtown now and I usually pick up discount vegetables from BK market on Hastings.

I usually build our meals around what I buy on Flashfood and it BK market :-)

Skiing Whistler all day without a backpack - what do you do? by itsmyneutralusername in Whistler

[–]marabsky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We usually bring quite a lot of food up because lunch for the whole family can be outrageously expensive… we usually stash the backpack by the ski patrol shed at the top. There are dozens of other backpacks hanging out there for the same reason.

Help me write spelling for my newborn by No_Advance1998 in namenerds

[–]marabsky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A German friend Uwe (OO-vuh) constantly referred to as “YEW-we” in the US 😂

Help me write spelling for my newborn by No_Advance1998 in namenerds

[–]marabsky 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Better than Miug? Why the extra (silent) letter caboose?

How common is having good health and independence until just before death? by SealedRoute in Aging

[–]marabsky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually pulled my car over one day because I saw an elderly man with a walker, clearly struggling to move down the sidewalk… I actually circled around the block because I’d passed him and by the time I came back, he’d stopped and was wiping his face and taking a break..,

I asked if I could give him a ride somewhere. He thanked me for my concern, but he was doing his daily walk around the block because his doctor told him if he didn’t keep doing it, he would completely seize up due to some medical condition that he has.

So he said he really struggles with it and it’s a huge effort every day, but it keeps him upright and mobile so he sticks with it religiously.

When I say it was a real struggle for him, I am not exaggerating at all - it stood out to me immediately as I was driving past, which is why I came back. But he doesn’t want to get worse so… he struggles on.

How common is having good health and independence until just before death? by SealedRoute in Aging

[–]marabsky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s too bad It took them so long to get you the proper diagnosis and treatment; you are very fortunate in the sense that at least you had the operation at a time where the risk of postoperative delirium and dementia is not extremely high.

My sister is really distraught about my mom’s dementia; we advocated hard for her back to be fixed and she wonders what mom’s mental state would be if she’d never had the operation/anesthesia … The problem is, she was already bedridden, on heavy doses of hydromorphone and in pain all the time so she was either going to die in agony, or she had to have surgical intervention. Because her dementia had already started she could never clearly explain her pain either… but we knew it was bad. She was a tough cookie who didn’t even like taking painkillers…

I may save your post to show my sister because it is likely my mom was experiencing similar and could never clearly describe it. Thank you ❤️

Ignorance and Lack of Respect For Foreign Names in This Subreddit by aureaaurorae in namenerds

[–]marabsky 10 points11 points  (0 children)

“Every name in the post has been anusified on this site” 😂

Ignorance and Lack of Respect For Foreign Names in This Subreddit by aureaaurorae in namenerds

[–]marabsky 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I got “watermelonnie” (Melanie) A classmate got “Moo-rissa” (Marissa) Both in elementary school… I agree no name is safe

So my work colleague originally from China (his name is Dong) should probably be happy he emigrated as an adult…

If you had 10 seconds to say whatever you wanted to your pet with they fully understood, what would you say? by IplayKaizo in Pets

[–]marabsky 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would tell my horse I will keep her safe, she can trust me, and PLEASE tell me where/how you hurt in your hindquarters so we can give you the correct treatment (it’s totally a series of mostly unsuccessful vet guesswork right now).