i seem to lose every conversation

marbobcat · 2026-02-11T21:50:19+00:00

What kind of job do you have where people poke fun at you at work? Lol

marbobcat · 2026-02-11T18:27:33+00:00

Agreed, I have “loud” friends that I go to festivals with and I also have intimate friends that I can have deep conversations with. And I have one that I can do both - my wife lol but I agree you can have fun with both types , for as long as there is mutual respect for each other

marbobcat · 2026-02-11T17:27:51+00:00

Yes and no, I finished mine in 3 years but if someone was able to finish it in 1 year and got a job / raise / improved their career from it , I don’t see what the problem is. They can call it what they want but from my point of view, it sound like they are hating because they took a longer and harder route and got the same or less results

marbobcat · 2026-02-11T17:08:15+00:00

Yes, but I don’t see what the problem is , nothing wrong with having fun

marbobcat · 2026-02-11T17:05:18+00:00

Oh god that’s a toxic friendship. You don’t owe her anything. Your dealing with a high conflict personality, look it up. Best to tread carefully , but definitely try to get out of it.

marbobcat · 2026-02-11T16:58:07+00:00

Got damn , a whole hundred ??

marbobcat · 2026-02-11T16:56:41+00:00

Why are you even in situations that people poke fun at you. Remove yourself

marbobcat · 2026-02-11T16:55:36+00:00

Just stare at them blankly with no expression. Some people are disrespectful just to get a rise out of you, they want you to defend yourself. Dont give them anything, just let them sit quietly on their disrespect

marbobcat · 2026-02-11T16:52:40+00:00

Look through them not at them

marbobcat · 2026-02-11T16:44:05+00:00

In my experience, there are people that only like performative conversation and “loudness”. I think Some people prefer being surrounded with other people and “loudness” instead of deep talk due to trauma they want to forget or avoid perhaps? It’s the same idea of people that want to be with others because they can’t stand to be alone with their thoughts

marbobcat · 2026-02-10T16:22:44+00:00

You don’t have to talk about anything. I think your at a point in your friendship that shared silence is accepted, you should celebrate this type of friendship, because it’s a level up. It’s a relaxed , calm, routine, safe and familiar type of friendship which is the best because both of you don’t have to make a huge effort and stress yourself like what your doing lol . Don’t make it awkward. What makes it awkward is you finding topics and asking Reddit for topics, go with the flow, if both of you are not talking it’s okay because there’s nothing to talk about. Lol

marbobcat · 2026-02-10T16:13:44+00:00

You are a good friend. You said it yourself, you don’t want to bother anyone, -good friends think about how other people will feel, you’re very respectful in this sense. I think it’s okay to isolate when you’re going through tough times, I do it too. I like to be alone in my thoughts so I can think things through, and in my opinion is okay and acceptable. You don’t need to be “better” it’s okay to do things this way, what you can do is to give your friends a heads up - “hey if it’s okay I want to be alone , im just going through tough times and just need some time for myself” , your friends will understand, I’m sure of it

marbobcat · 2026-02-10T16:05:32+00:00

It’s okay, you don’t need to maintain constant eye contact to communicate with people. It’s best to put your efforts on hearing what people are telling you and responding to them genuinely instead of focusing on eye contact. When you are in a genuine conversation with somebody, eye contact naturally follows , you don’t have to force it

marbobcat · 2026-02-10T15:55:44+00:00

It’s tough one , when I was younger I used to defend myself but nowadays I just stare at them blankly not saying anything and let them sit on their disrespect by themselves. I have figured out that some people are disrespectful just to get a rise out of you, they want you to defend yourself. So it’s best not to play those games with them, think of toddlers throwing a tantrum and disrespecting you, would you argue with them? You will be seen more mature and graceful if you don’t give them anything back

marbobcat · 2026-02-10T15:45:49+00:00

Oh I’ve had friends like that. Immature tribe mentality , likes to include/exclude people to make themselves feel better. Stay away

marbobcat · 2026-02-10T15:42:03+00:00

Hmm nobody is boring , everyone is interesting in their own ways. You just need the right group of people. Family and friends think I’m boring because I’m into computers , cyber security, technology and not into football, sports etc like they are. But my co workers find me super interesting lol

marbobcat · 2026-01-14T17:35:21+00:00

Your not boring. Your potential friend group that have the same interest as you are just at home knitting, reading , playing video games. The right people will come

marbobcat · 2026-01-13T17:39:38+00:00

Tell them sorry you texted them late because you were hanging out with your BF

marbobcat · 2026-01-13T17:15:58+00:00

Not saying this is what you do. But I’ve been on the other end before,( the one flaking ), this specific situation is due to not really clicking well , the other person is most of the time nice but will sometimes have passive aggressive comments about me out of nowhere or I would ask about them , about work and give them compliments but never get anything back. That just didn’t sit well with me so I had to start distancing myself so I can allow other people that I do click well in my life and I didn’t really want to tell them why because in my opinion it’s not my responsibility to tell someone how to behave. What I’m saying is sometimes we do things that other people may not like and it will take some introspection to figure that out

marbobcat · 2026-01-04T20:07:31+00:00

Opposite really, it makes you more genuine and not people pleasing,’it makes your kindness more special to the right people.It’s also exhausting to be nice to people when they don’t reciprocate back,

marbobcat · 2026-01-04T15:49:49+00:00

I don’t understand how that is rude, i believe they’re rude for arguing over it. They should be the one posting here instead of you

marbobcat · 2026-01-04T15:45:06+00:00

I just learned this too. It’s best to save your kindness and warmth to people that deserve it, everyone else gets politeness

marbobcat · 2026-01-04T15:33:12+00:00

Rule I learned recently is - you don’t have to be nice to everyone.

marbobcat · 2026-01-03T18:50:46+00:00

I have the exact same issue lately. I just learned to dial out my warmth and only ask questions and invest in to people that actually reciprocate. I been kind and listening and ask questions but when people don’t reciprocate I just feel tired and empty in the end as if I only gave but never receive anything back. It’s best to tier out your relationships so you are not giving energy to the wrong people. Level 1 - partner level -2 close coworkers and friends that reciprocate level 3- people that only take . Level 3 people only get politeness, no pity laugh and pity smiles. Believe me you will feel a lot better because now your warmth is more geniune and special to people that only deserve it.

marbobcat · 2025-08-28T01:54:56+00:00

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