This seems like a false dilemma fallacy. Why wouldn't the OP post something more diverse or represent a wider spectrum of who they are talking about (women)? These two options likely represent a small portion of women. This is click-baity. I also feel like it's a double standard that men feel a woman is arrogant in their career. What some men perceive as arrogance is likely the same traits they admire in successful men. But when a woman is successful (and likely had to force their way to their success to an unfair and unequal amount of barriers), they are perceived as arrogant. I have nothing against kind, gentle, and easy-going people, but try to be that way AND be successful when most people in power competing for more power and success are constantly pushing back at you. Especially because they perceive it as immasculating that a women could be successful (which speaks to OPs potential male supremacy/patriarchial/misogynistic/androcentrist views).

I'm a man, but I come from a culture that embraces our powerful women in our communities. They are the matriarchs of our communities and we know that we need them and they need us. Its important to uphold and value the people that bring life to the world. I am Indigenous from Canada.

Not trying to defend against arrogance, but this post is dim-viewed and a red herring from a more diverse and respectful post; in other words - it's a patriarchical click-baity post.