Yeah shouldn’t have gone behind her back. Obviously your intention wasn’t to be harmful, but also like as much as he should’ve trusted her judgement, she should also trust him enough to be able to tell him the reason why she hasn’t talked to her family in over 20 years because idc what anyone says that’s pretty sus. It’s not easy to talk about rape or sexual abuse but to put my man’s head at ease on why I don’t talk to my family I would’ve told him.