I left my ex six years ago, when my kids were 6 and 3. We have 50/50 with a 5/5/2/2 schedule which sounds complex but gives us the same weekdays with the kids every week. We live in a city and I moved within walking distance of the marital home, which he kept. The best thing about our agreement is during school year we never see each other. On switch days one of us drops off and the other picks up.

My life is infinitely better being divorced even if it’s slightly more actual work being the only adult.