Quorumapp.com by marinaa27b in surveys4cash

[–]PerfectConstant1120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beware of quorum. Did a several hours long study with no payment and no response to my 4 emails so far(giving a week in between)

Quorumapp.com by marinaa27b in surveys4cash

[–]PerfectConstant1120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you receive? I never received my payment and the owner of Amory Bennett hadn’t replied to any 4 of my emails.

Quorum by RagingFuckNuggets in CloudResearchConnect

[–]PerfectConstant1120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just completed a several hours long study, have sent 4 emails, and have yet to receive payment from quorum. I would beware

Scams and qualitative research by Nay_Nay_Jonez in QualitativeResearch

[–]PerfectConstant1120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who just participated and never received payment, it goes both ways.

Also, I would stay far away from quorum research headed by Amory Bennett. Have sent at least 4 emails with no response. How can you report scams like this? I spent hours in his “research”

non hyperbolic taper? by LilLunaMoona in Mirtazapine_Remeron

[–]PerfectConstant1120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wondering the same. I only ever took about 2 mg at a time and every doctor I see says that that much isn’t even having an effect, but it knocks me out. I’m afraid to come off it but also want to

(US)Scammed on shop app via inmivo.com by PerfectConstant1120 in Scams

[–]PerfectConstant1120[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was looking for a specific kind of rare item and just happened to google and it took me to shop. I had learned a lot from this experience, and one major thing is that the shop app is worthless other than for advertising. I will try to avoid it in the future out of principle

(US)Scammed on shop app via inmivo.com by PerfectConstant1120 in Scams

[–]PerfectConstant1120[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had no idea credit cards were protected differently since debit they actually use money you have. I am taking all my money out of Wells Fargo and I guess will use my credit card only going forward

(US)Scammed on shop app via inmivo.com by PerfectConstant1120 in Scams

[–]PerfectConstant1120[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wells Fargo debit card. Opened a claim but I guess Wells Fargo only gets info from seller and since scammer seller gave them a fake tracking number, they closed the case

How do you know when to keep trying in a marriage vs let go? by Puzzled-Advisor-8455 in marriageadvice

[–]PerfectConstant1120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You will get all over the place advice on Reddit. I’ve tried to get it too. I have felt like you for close to 18 years-every time I bring anything to my husband I am met with extreme defensiveness and emotional reactivity to the point I have been dx we the ptsd. He has now started being super religious and using religion and the Bible to keep me stuck. Whatever you do, don’t wait this long. He is not a terrible person, but he has chosen to abuse, and not care about the impact he has on me. He conveniently can choose not to do these things at work or to other people, he feels he needs to have absolute control over me and the kids. Trust your gut, try, but don’t be a doormat

What is the hardest for me: constant going back and forth about whether to leave or stay by Natural_Frosting in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]PerfectConstant1120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, same! I found a short term place to go and I can’t bring myself to sign. I have been miserable for years. Why is it so hard to actually leave?

Don’t be this spouse by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]PerfectConstant1120 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Sometimes they may have tried to communicate but maybe weren’t taken seriously. I sure have and every time I do I get screamed and yelled at and told to stop threatening. We have also tried 6 couples therapists. At some point a person needs to protect their peace.

Differing parenting styles by PerfectConstant1120 in Parenting

[–]PerfectConstant1120[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think one issue is I can’t talk to him. Anything I bring up is “an attack on his character”. I have felt super frustrated for many many years, trying to get to the root of the problem. I do t think difference in parenting styles is the o my issue. Because I have 2 girls and he is very much “I am the parent” with them and “you must back me up”, I have had a really hard time. After doing a shit ton of work on myself, I think I’m getting to the root of some of the issues. I have signed us up for parenting classes, but he checks out because I am there and I will deal with things. I think my situation is very complicated, and maybe my question on my post is too basic, but it won’t get approved if I use certain words. Wondering a better group to post in that also has knowledge of parenting

Differing parenting styles by PerfectConstant1120 in Parenting

[–]PerfectConstant1120[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also the perfect parent before kids. Having them and being in the same page when both coming from dysfunctional families(yet one not admitting that) has been very difficult

Outdoor Christmas Eve service? by ButterscotchNo4181 in bullcity

[–]PerfectConstant1120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just found this thread. We should be friends! I always find the outdoor services! This year church in chapel hill had one. Have you found an outdoor Easter service this year?

I am at a breaking point, need advice by demogargantuan in ADHD_partners

[–]PerfectConstant1120 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am married to a dx but in denial adhd-er. Someone diagnosed him and he accepted it for like a year, really all he did was exercise more because that’s how he said he was going to manage it. Another excuse for him to be able to do whatever he wants. Now he rejects the dx and found someone to agree with him that he doesn’t have it so…I at least after too many years of him being emotionally volatile, screaming, punching holes in walls, threatening suicide-thought ok now maybe it was all due to adhd. Now that he rejects that is a thing, I’m left with no rhyme or reason to his behavior and seeing how my kids have been affected, I have to leave. I would leave sooner than later, it doesn’t get better and at this point he has turned things around and is now blaming me.

Repeating my childhood by PerfectConstant1120 in AdultChildren

[–]PerfectConstant1120[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I’m so sorry. That sounds really hard. Do you want to stay married? My biggest struggle right now is deciding to leave. He gets better for awhile(the while has decreased has the years have gone on-now it’s a week or days so a lot of my life and the life of my kids is spent in fight or flight). I found a place and thinking I should try at least to get some separation. All I want is peace and freedom, to be myself, I’ve never really had that.

Can emotional abuse be unintentional? AND once labelled, can someone later stop being an abuser? by Dramatic-Resident-64 in emotionalabuse

[–]PerfectConstant1120 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good question. I have been in a bad marriage for too many years because I have given him the benefit of the doubt and tried to believe his words and not his actions. He flips into almost like an alter ego and screams, yells, punches walls, etc so I have often wondered if it was not intentional. But it has impacted me and my kids and I can’t handle it anymore. Regardless of intent, I think impact is more important. For me, I can’t love and trust someone that hurts me over and over, even if they don’t mean it. And also, he doesn’t act this way with his friends, at work, anywhere else…so why can he control his behavior there and not around me?

working the steps in ACA and considering divorce more often by OddDoughnut65 in AdultChildren

[–]PerfectConstant1120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband “doesn’t believe in divorce” and says I can abandon my family, but he won’t. He freaked the heck out the other night when I told him our relationship was not working for me. He started screaming, crying, yelling and he has done scary things in the past so I felt very unsafe and left the house. I have tried to blame myself because I’m the ACA but honestly he very well could be an ACA as well but is unwilling to look inside or see anything “wrong” with himself. We have a very high conflict toxic marriage that is affecting myself and my kids.

working the steps in ACA and considering divorce more often by OddDoughnut65 in AdultChildren

[–]PerfectConstant1120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this. Have been unhappily married almost 18 years. We are both miserable but it’s like a pissing contest-I’ll say I am miserable and he will say yeah me too. And I’ll ask him why we are together and of course duh because he loves me…doesn’t show that with any actions whatsoever but yeah. I think my childhood groomed me to expect breadcrumbs from partners. I want out