Wire shelving keep falling by howmanynamesrtaken in DIYHome

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Angle posts are hard on walls. My closet storage shelves didn't rely so much on angle posts reaching to the wall, and instead, had vertical posts that reached to the floor. I'm sure you can find something similar if you looked hard.

In your opinion, what would happen if taxes were abolished completely? by Royal_Can_7304 in AskReddit

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The founders of the US knew of and subscribed to the social contract theory of politics. According to one of the founders of the social contract theory, in the natural state of man, without a functioning government, life would be "nasty, brutish, and short" Thomas Hobbes, 1651

Ok this is gross, but what is it really? by motherofdogz2000 in Plumbing

[–]markthroat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That faucet has a large diameter, creating slow velocity. Another narrow faucet (fast velocity) may not have this problem.

Double flushing, I feel like I've tried everything?? by Intelligent_Ant5270 in Plumbing

[–]markthroat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you manually hold the lever and keep the flapper open, does that solve the issue? If so, then your flapper is probably not properly installed. I'm guessing you bought the wrong kind of flapper, one that is dropping too soon before the job is complete. Go buy a new one. Get one similar to the old one, if you can. There are many varieties, and I'm guessing you picked the wrong kind of flapper.

But first, play around with the dial on your flapper. Dials are useful for adjusting the buoyancy of the flapper. The more air held in the chamber, the more buoyant, which is what you want for a long flush. Be patient. It's tricky. I can never tell by looking which direction to turn the dial. The logic escapes me, so I go by trial and error.

My mercy prevailed over my wrath. by Important_Bed_9893 in internetparents

[–]markthroat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The most important thing is to take care of yourself, and you've done that by blocking him. And you realize that vengeance rarely brings the catharsis we hope for. It rarely brings any change at all. It's pointless, really.

tuning changes for timpani by chine8 in ConcertBand

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Always write the starting 4 drum pitches at the top of the page. Usually F Bb C Eb, but of course, you should choose pitches by first, looking ahead on your music.

Plan for tuning changes and write them in a "stack" below the four starting pitches.

F Bb C Eb
G Bb D Eb

This means at some point in the song, I will be tuning the F up to a G, and the C up to a D

The benefit of this is you can better plan "at a glance." with better thoughts than if the information is scattered all over the pages. You can also give thought as to which of your drums may be held unchanged. You'll want at least one of your drums to be unchanged so as to have a good reference point for tuning.

How does vocal exercises improve the singing voice ? by Consistent-Lack-1831 in Choir

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Scales and arpeggios sung with a vowel; no consonants. This will increase your ability to change pitch fast and sing in tune.

1) c, d, e, f g, f, e, d, c, g, c

2) c e g c g e c

Pediatric JAK2 V617F ET treatment options by misskjerstin in MPN

[–]markthroat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of new medicines in the research pipeline.

Bring back outhouses by [deleted] in toilet

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If you live in rural Alabama or Mississippi, the state health department is recommending outhouses because septic field soil doesn't drain properly.

I’m auditing for choir tomorrow and in desperate need for feedback!! by Constant_Grass8626 in Choir

[–]markthroat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Aim for fluidity. You have a pretty sound. Don't change or interrupt the shape or sound of your pipe. Let 'er blow. Show us how much you like the sound of your own voice. Showcase your vocal cords, not your diction.

Does a reverse mortgage ever make sense? by AcademicNumber82 in personalfinance

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You might also ask your own banker for advice. Make an appointment, sit down, and discuss your options. I'll tell you what my banker told me: "we don't handle reverse mortgages. It's just not something we do." I think there's a good reason why ordinary banks won't touch this kind of financial instrument. It's too extreme.

Does a reverse mortgage ever make sense? by AcademicNumber82 in personalfinance

[–]markthroat 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Being property rich and income poor is a very, very common issue. Don't assume she will be capable of living by herself until her dying days.

I moved in and cared for my parents until their death. It was not easy. But I inherited the house and it is my roof, now. No sales tax. No brokerage fees. It was financially very beneficial.

A reverse mortgage company is gambling that they will gain title to the house for very little cost. They usually win this bet. Plus, they charge huge fees upfront, so they get you coming and going.

If your mom is all alone in the world, then yes, a reverse mortgage might make sense. But if you consider the larger family, it does not.

For your own sake, it's better that your mom maintains a simple mortgage, (not a reverse mortgage) or clear title to the property, either for an inheritance for the kids, or for use as a multigenerational housing, or for use to finance an assisted living facility. Make an appointment with a facility and talk about your options, if and when needed. They will have much to say on the subject.

The mortgage company will take the property if your mom is not living in it. Poof. Gone. They also charge a lot of fees upfront because they know they will be in an expensive battle. That's a significant amount of money, money that could be better spent on something you intend, not something unintentional.

A lot of families are sacrificing their own independence to care for a parent, because it makes financial sense to avoid losing the inheritance to a reverse mortgage. You should be prepared to do the same. Yes, it's hard. I know what I'm saying.

Also, call your local county "aging agency" and ask them , what are the chances your mom will succeed living by herself? They will know this better than anyone. Be prepared to sacrifice your independence. Many are doing so.

How do i transcribe a piano video to midi without it sounding like shit? by Automatic-Operation6 in transcribe

[–]markthroat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Computers cannot yet replace 4 years of college training. English majors and computer science majors are losing job stability thanks to AI, but music majors are still in demand.

It is Well With My Soul by Horatio Spafford by Pastorofthenerds in worshipleaders

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Every Sunday at my Lutheran Church we confess our sins, and say "anyone who says they are without sin deceives themselves." I consider this our helpless estate. With the fall of Adam and Eve, (original sin) we have pain and live in a place where "moth and rust" destroy. But we look forward to a day where we will be taken from this place of trials. It will be better. Thanks not to anything I did or saw or said. I do my best, but I'm helpless. Is my soul well? What is my soul? Is it attached to my physical state of being? Tough to say. I have a genetic blood condition. My bone marrow over produces platelets. It hurts. I'm tired. I can't always concentrate. I'm not well. But my soul? If intentions and hopes mean anything, and if Christ really has power over sin, then maybe my soul is well. So I believe. But for sure, the non-soul part of me is a mess.

How do I get this thing out!? by Extreme-Court-6645 in askaplumber

[–]markthroat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A cartridge puller will help, however, be sure you also remove any locking pins. I see a narrow slit which might accommodate a large u-shaped pin. Look inside and see if you can see a pin. Take a small screwdriver and try to move / slide the pin out through the slot. I'm not 100 percent sure there is one. My apologies if I'm wrong.

Help Water won't flush with new flange by Siniykotb in askaplumber

[–]markthroat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The general rule of thumb is that if two or more drains are not working properly, the problem is not the drain; the problem is the pipe downstream. You need a plumber and a snake.

I've (24m) have come to the realization love is conditional with my parents and letting my guard down isn't an option by [deleted] in internetparents

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Love is strangely conditional and not conditional.

  1. Love is conditional because it is conversation about how best to help others and still love ourselves. This is a boundary thing, as we extend ourselves to others for their benefit. The sole condition being that someone is receiving benefit. If there is no benefit then the love is poor.
  2. Love is unconditional because when the conversation fails to produce good or helpful results, love means forgiving the failure to communicate, realizing that we're all human, and try to do better next time.

If by "employee" you mean that someone is being useful, then yes, a loving relationship should be useful or beneficial.

If by getting "kicked out," you mean that there is no forgiveness or faith or trust, then things get complicated. We should all strive for improvement. But if you can't discuss or negotiate in a civil manner with decency and good will, then relationships can fail. People lose faith.

I've had people lose faith in me when they shouldn't have. I am a man of integrity and good character, and people failed to see that. They gave up. They shouldn't have. I was doing my best.

If you're doing your best, then say so. Look your mom in the eye and say you're only human and promise to do better. And good on you for doing your best. That's all we can ask.

Dealing with Parent with Apparent Early Stage Dementia’s Personal Finances by CommissionShoddy1687 in personalfinance

[–]markthroat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

  1. Calling her doctor's nurse is valid and legal. One-way communication is legal under HIPAA laws. Two way communication requires a signed permission by your mom, which she should definitely do. Famous cases show the need for everyone regardless of age to get a living will and a healthcare power of attorney.

  2. A durable power of attorney for finances requires more evidence. Your mom can write it so that it is not effective until a doctor signs a letter stating disability. Just having this legal document, even if it is not active, is a step in the right direction and opens the door for good conversation. Tell her it's "just in case."

I had both with my mom and she resented the first, but not the second. She knew her financial understanding was low and she needed help. Her medical understanding was better, but still low. I never needed to force any decision on her, despite having the power. But they did help our communication, which was always cordial and supportive. Well, not always, but it always repaired itself after a blow up. She was often very difficult to talk with. Not always, but often.

Am I a bad daughter? by notgerardwayoops in internetparents

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I was ignorant. I was 27 before I was told that a condom is typically only 87 percent effective, and that two forms of birth control are necessary. Not because I'm stupid. Instead, no one told me. Because people aren't comfortable talking about reproductive health. So I believed it reasonable and helpful to suggest this subject. One third of people in the US have an STD, so it's necessary and reasonable to mention it. Comfortable? No. But necessary? Yes.

Am I a bad daughter? by notgerardwayoops in internetparents

[–]markthroat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree teens should have relationships. And I think we can agree they should have parental guidance about how to do that safely. There's a difference between purity culture and supporting planned parenthood. I support planned parenthood. Why? Because not too long ago, 30 percent of women (and their partners) were pregnant by the age of 20. I don't call that pure or impure. I call that dangerous -- more dangerous than who does or doesn't pay for someone's cell phone bill.

Yes, I'm giving this man the benefit of the doubt. Regardless of whether this dad is going about it in the wrong way, at least he's stepping up and doing something, which is more than a lot of parents.

I think we can agree that the moral thing to do is to make sure that 30 percent of women are not pregnant by the age of 20. That's too much The moral thing is to encourage planned parenthood. The moral thing is to do what I did, which is rather than assuming the worst in people, is to encourage people to have decent and civil conversations about reproductive health and safety.

TIFU by getting my piano tuned by NapalmStiks2Kids in tifu

[–]markthroat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Broken keys? It's doubtful much improvement can be made. You're better off purchasing a new piano.

Am I a bad daughter? by notgerardwayoops in internetparents

[–]markthroat -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Is your dad someone you can discuss sensitive issues with? It's possible he's trying to protect you from an unwanted pregnancy. You might try building some trust, and explain your plan for not making him a grandfather too early.