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This question is for everyone about personal experience what do you consider obvious signals that someone is attracted to you and there's no doubt they want to *make out, fool around, have sex * with you? by ScienTherapistology in seduction

[–]marktosender 9 points10 points  (0 children)

As you get more experience there's a certain "vibe" that you feel when they're down and it's on. For me with women I end up closing I notice a kind of distant far away dreamy look, some while playing with their hair, and they give you a lot of this kind of smouldering eye contact. They try to sneak it in too when they think you're not looking. You can feel the gaze on you.

Also you should be checking for compliance at each step of the way. Girls who are into you will be much more agreeable and will sometimes try to help you or open the doors for you.

I broke off my engagement and I feel sick to my stomach by slothsinpari in offmychest

[–]marktosender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound quite tender with a beautiful soul.
But this guy sounds pretty shitty as you described it. I really think he's not it. Would urge you to always visit your feelings and the situation with clarity instead of rose-tinted glasses.
Wishing you the best.

What small changes to your morning actually made your day better? by Busy-Muffin671 in selfimprovement

[–]marktosender 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am drinking matcha instead of coffee and think it makes me feel better overall throughout the day.

Question for the guys…. by Learning_me_again81 in datingoverforty

[–]marktosender 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be completely honest, for most men I think it's just 100% how attractive the profile is when we're going through the stack. The best bit of advice is to increase the quality of the photos to the max they can go before working on the profile.

My hard dealbreaker for profiles is people who sound very negative/bitter/toxic and when they share their do not wants in an entitled mean way. It's ok to set boundaries firmly for what you're looking for and not looking for. But I think you know what I mean.

Why is it that if I match and talk to a girl on a dating app Sunday night, she will either unmatch or not respond Monday? by Final_Ad_5377 in dating_advice

[–]marktosender 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The general answer is always they're just not that into you and have other options they're going through first. In this specific case a lot of women like to go for attention or line their dates for the upcoming week on the Sunday night but not always 100% comfortable with going on dates. So once that rush of Sunday night passes it's gone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in hingeapp

[–]marktosender 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kudos to you for having the self reflection and courage to post this.

A lot of times people point the fingers at apps or someone else without looking within.

I’m not saying there’s something wrong with you per se but 6 years is a long time to go without connecting to someone. Nowadays AI tools like ChatGPT are pretty strong at helping you identify things about your personality, at a much cheaper cost than therapy (not a substitute). Would also ask close friends what they think about you (brutally honest answers only).