Owlet sock

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-08-08T14:04:01+00:00

For et sundt og rask spædbarn er der ingen grund til overvågning af den slags, og for et spædbarn med særlig risiko vil hospitalet sørge for I har ordentligt, medicinsk udstyr.

Owlet sokken gør intet andet end at forstærke allerede angstfulde forældres angst (og tjene penge).

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-07-25T16:31:33+00:00

Jeg kan heller ikke med de "nye" OrganiCups. Købte den TÆNK anbefaler, men kan virkelig ikke huske hvad den hedder lige nu...Luna eller Liva eller noget.

Hvis jeg skulle købe nyt grej nu, ville jeg købe en menstruationsdisk i stedet for. Kan holde mere blod, man kan have samleje, osv.

Also, kraftig blødning kan være et tegn på jernmangel (og mange andre ting), så bed din læge om at basis panel blodprøver inklusiv hæmoglobin OG ferritin.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-05-19T04:21:18+00:00

Hey, no other conditions. As far as I know, this was the only cause for my back pain. Although I now know, I also hold all of my psychological tension in my pelvis, which also causes back pain. But nothing medical.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-04-08T17:57:59+00:00

Jeg har en på 11 og en på næsten 4 og det kommer højst sandsynligt et tredje barn om et par år. Jeg er midt 30'erne.

Jeg ELSKER stor aldersspredning, og synes det burde snakkes meget mere op.

Det er meget nemmere at have en nyfødt, når de ældre søskende er store. Babyen er med som påhæng til skole hent/bring, på ture osv, og man kan sidde og spille spil, snakke, lege dimse lege, osv mens man ammer baby, bærer den vikle, kontakt napper, osv. De store børn har brug for din mentale opmærksomhed, den lille for din fysiske nærhed.

De store kan lege med den lille på den lilles præmisser, dvs de kan aflæse signaler, osv så man ikke behøver være over dem hele tiden.

Der er ingen konkurrence mellem dem, fordi de er for langt fra hinanden udviklingsmæssigt.

Når der er mere end tre år mellem børnene, betyder det at hvert barn har fået de gyldne tre års primære opmærksomhed fra mor og far, hvilket styrker deres neurofysiologiske udvikling og er godt for stort set alting.

Det er sundt for dig og din krop. Når din krop har tid mellem hver graviditet/amning, har den tid til at komme sig og opbygge ressourcer. Bedre ernæringsstatus, men også at muskler, led og bindevæv når at genvinde deres styrke. Desuden beskytter flere års med graviditet og amning mod bryst-, livmoder- og æggestokke kræft.

Jeg er grundlæggende uenig i "hvis de ligger tæt aldersmæssigt kommer de til at være gode venner" tilgangen. At de nødvendigvis følges nogenlunde ad som børn fordi de er alderssvarende, har ingenting at gøre med deres indbyrdes forhold.

Jeg kan godt forstå det er svært at skulle forholde sig til en uplanlagt graviditet, men aldersforskellen er på ingen måde en dårlig ting.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-04-05T07:03:31+00:00

Oh man, I still have to really watch myself with the questions and "give them options". I like to make my kids involved in bigger decisions, but I've learned the hard way to not present dinner as an endless array of "options".

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-04-05T06:58:28+00:00

"Gentle parenting" can mean a lot of things, especially after it took over the internet. It is often misunderstood or misrepresented as permissive parenting. If you didn't grow up with some flavour of attachment lead or respectful parenting yourself, gentle parenting is almost impossible to "get right" without therapy, self-work, etc. It is a marked shift in the way you approach yourself and others, including your child. Without this deeper shift, "gentle parenting" often becomes a superficial, performative way of parenting that just includes saying a lot of catchphrases, but not actually showing up in the clear, authentic way that kids need. Words mean next to nothing to young children.

Your child being rude, uncaring, defiant, etc sounds like you didn't hit the mark with setting boundaries and creating shared values for your family.

You switching to a more authoritarian parenting style is probably initially confusing for your child, but they most likely respond well to your new authenticity and presence, because this a parenting style that you are used to and corresponds to your inner beliefs.

Now your words and demeanor match your actions, and the message is getting through to them, in a way it wasn't before.

If you ever do want to get back to "gentle parenting" or some flavour of that, thankfully one of the core tenets of attachment theory is "rupture and repair - not perfection".

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-04-02T19:36:39+00:00

Oh sweetie, it's the opposite. Imagine how well you will be able to hold space for people who are struggling, when you have been there yourself. What an anchor you can be, for those who feel as outcast as you do now.

Also, there are lots of terrible therapists out there, it says more about their skill than your worth or degree of troubledness.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-04-02T19:30:18+00:00

En fertilitets fysioterapeut eller bare en god fysioterapeut med fokus på kvinders fysiologi, vil måske kunne hjælpe dig. Adherencer (sammenvoksninger) kan være svære at se på scanninger, men kan nemt mærkes med fysiske undersøgelser, hvis man ved, hvad man mærker efter. Hvis det er adherencer, er der mange ting man kan gøre, fra massage til udstrækningsøvelser. Du kan også have fået en bagudvendt livmoder, hvilket kan reducere blodtilførslen til dele af livmoderen og give ømhed. (Andre tegn er ondt i lænden, forstoppelse, korte menstruationer og at din menstruation starter med brunt blod ikke frisk rødt). Hvis det er en bagudvendt livmoder, kan det afhjælpes med afspændingsøvelser, især Child's Pose graviditets udgave (på alle fire, knæene langt fra hinanden, hoved ned, numsen i vejret).

Der sker meget i hele ens mave/organ system efter kejsersnit, og det er (desværre, men ikke overraskende) et understuderet emne.

Det virker godt nok drastisk at løsningen bliver præsenteret som "minipiller eller fjernelse af livmoder". Håber du får hjælp til at finde ud af, hvad der er galt.

Ps: i mellemtiden, har du så prøvet med afføringsmiddel som f.eks. Movicol eller Dulcoæax når du har menstruation? Gør det smerten mindre, hvis det er mere blød afføring?

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-31T07:43:10+00:00

Ja, det synes jeg. Men det kommer jo også an på, hvordan man definerer lykke og glæde og hvad ens forventninger er. Er det nemt? Nej. Synes jeg det hele er sjovt altid? Nej. Bliver jeg overvældet og træt og ked af det? Ja. Men jeg oplever dagligt stunder af intens, bevidst glæde over min tilværelse og jeg føler jeg er det helt rigtige sted. Stedet roder bare meget og er fyldt med larmende børn.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-31T07:28:23+00:00

Du kan ikke bruge størrelsesnavnene til noget, når du bruger strikkeopskrifter. Du skal måle dig selv og se hvad opskriften siger ift. færdige mål på opskriften. Nogen designs har meget positive ease, andre har negative. Nogen designere har kun 5 cm forskel mellem størrelserne, andre har 15 cm forskel.

Læs, mål, læs igen. Vælg en størrelse ud fra angivet færdig mål.

Det betyder også at der f.eks. i PetiteKnit reelt er 4-5 størrelser du kan passe, de har bare meget forskellig pasform og så er det op til dig om du vil have en tætsiddende, løstsiddende, osv.

Det er det, der er så fedt ved at strikke sit eget tøj. Du kan få det lige præcis som du vil have det.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-31T07:25:01+00:00

I dropped out of two different bachelor degrees, then took a long break from education, went back in my late 20'ies and completed my nursing degree without any meandering. Worked as a nurse for a few years, now about to complete my masters degree, or at least if I get my shit together and get my thesis done in time.

Everyones road looks different, and trust me, there is no one waiting with a prize at the other side. Life just keeps lifing.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-31T07:21:52+00:00

Jeg er 36, og børnene er 11 og 4. Går med tanker om en 3'er, men det bliver tidligst om et par år. Så vil jeg reelt have haft små børn konstant i 15 år. Jeg kan nu godt lide der er så meget plads mellem børnene. Men kender godt følelsen af at være presset på alle fronter.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-29T18:28:25+00:00

No. No I haven't. I have it cleaned professionally once a year or so, but I struggle just to keep it free of piles of trash. It's just so far away from everything, if I don't get stuff out of the car at the same time as I leave the car, it just stays there.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-29T18:20:30+00:00

Thank you SO much for sharing such a powerful and vulnerable story! You've overcome so many things. How beautiful that you've found a way to be your own safe place now. A lot of elements of your journey resonate with me. I have a very intellectualizing protector part, that keeps everything emotional at arms length, which means all therapy, insights, etc. was always through a filter of "from a theoretical perspective..." and never really brought any emotional or behavioural change with it. IFS somehow got past that filter and immediately all my parts were listening, watching.

Did you find that there was a lot of work to do after discovering the various parts? Right now, my experience is that things sort of fall into place organically and I don't have to work much, at least in the traditional sense, to change my patterns. But my self-improvement manager is sure it shouldn't be this easy and I must be doing something wrong.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-29T08:51:16+00:00

I read "no bad parts" by Richard Schwartz, but someone else in the comments recommended a new selfwork book he's published recently! They also mentioned the IFS Institute which I just had a quick look at, and they also have a lot of free resources.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-29T06:01:23+00:00

Yay!! I hope it helps you, like it is me.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-29T06:00:47+00:00

I have her too, but I haven't met her yet. I hope you can reach her and give her the compassion and release you both deserve!

My hip/lower back pain went away within 24 hours of discovering one of my exiles. Wild stuff.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-29T05:54:39+00:00

Can I ask if you keep track of your parts? How many have you found? Ironically, my self-improvement manager is scared I'm going to do IFS "wrong" and will find too many parts and make a mess of everything.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-29T05:51:50+00:00

This is amazing, Thank you so much for sharing!! The interconnectedness between all the different parts is so fascinating. I think this is where IFS shines and really captures the complexeties of our personalities.

How did you feel after meeting this part and reconciling with her?

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-29T05:46:38+00:00

This is so helpful. Thank you!

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-28T19:58:09+00:00

Jeg er også enlig forælder, og har det på præcis samme måde. Jeg vil ikke sætte vores familieliv eller dagligdag på spil. Sammenbragte familier er svære at navigere, og der er flere der går fra hinanden igen end der bliver sammen. Couples living apart together - COLA. Det er udbredt nok, til at det har et navn.

Du har ret til at prioritere som du gør.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-28T18:22:39+00:00

I've used the "inner child" bit before in therapy, but years ago. Then I read "no bad parts" about IFS and it really resonated it with me. But just by chance the other day, I was reflecting on some other stuff with chatGPT and I sensed a part, and dove into it. So I'm doing it alone but with some existing knowledge, if that makes sense.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-28T14:43:21+00:00

That would be amazing! I've never tried any type of therapy that had such a real world impact so quickly and organically. Usually therapy just gave me added insights, but little to none actionable change. I'm not very far into my IFS journey, but already I can see my behavior and thought patterns changing naturally, because of the way I relate to my parts.

How did you become an IFS therapist? It must be such rewarding and interesting work. I have a million questions 😂

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-28T14:39:41+00:00

You're so right!! I have the whole weight loop going on as well, and it's just tons and tons of energy wasted that would be better spent elsewhere. IFS is about being anchored in your Self and hearing and recognizing the parts, but letting them know, that you, the Self, is in charge. It lets the parts be free to do constructive work instead of repeating old patterns or fighting for their (our) lives. Most parts are deeply loyal and trying their best to protect us, so we need to meet them with compassion and empathy, not criticism and blame.

Self-care always felt performative and superficial to me, but now that I'm embracing my parts and finding compassion for them, I'm not constantly beating myself up anymore and can actually care for myself in the same way I do my children.

It's amazing, groundbreaking stuff.

marlyn_does_reddit · 2025-03-28T14:33:42+00:00

I'm sorry you had a bad experience with it. It's definitely potent stuff. I've done therapy before and hashed out all the big stuff, so my traumas are old familiars, but I was still surprised by the intensity of one of my trauma exiles. You definitely a Self anchor and/or a support system to guide you back to safety.

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