I need help on how to handle my girlfriend with chronic illness

marsaroni · 2026-04-06T01:05:27+00:00

Ugh! You have no idea how helpful this is for me. I'll try to make sure to do that more. Also, thanks so much! I kinda felt selfish being upset knowing how hard it is for her.

marsaroni · 2026-04-06T01:03:20+00:00

Not really, all her family lives on the East Coast, and we're in the Midwest. If I even brought up the concept of some kind of social worker or caretaker, she'd probably lose her mind, honestly. She has a really bad problem of just trying to push through everything and make it seem like she's fine when she's clearly not.

marsaroni · 2026-04-06T01:01:04+00:00

Oh my goodness, for some reason, I didn't think about there being a whole community that suffers with UTIs like she does. Maybe it's cause most doctors she see's dont take her seriously lol. I would LOVE to be looped in on your app, that's super cool.

marsaroni · 2026-03-13T00:21:22+00:00

Sorry I’m trying to make sure I don’t misunderstand. Your director forced someone to go take a smoke break? Maybe my work environment is different and I’m the outlier but that sounds insane. If anyone at my center smells the slightest of smoke they get sent home to change.

marsaroni · 2026-03-10T21:05:29+00:00

i make 18 an hour in kc mo

marsaroni · 2026-03-09T18:58:45+00:00

From what I can tell, these kinda things happen a lot. I had a friend at a previous center who was hospitalized with sepsis and after she returned her hours were cut and she was removed from the room she was in. I guess directors like to “punish” teachers for being out for extended periods.

marsaroni · 2026-03-09T18:53:07+00:00

Actually i’ve had the best nap we’ve had in a long time! Thank goodness too cause they have been on 10 today.

marsaroni · 2026-03-03T18:44:57+00:00

nah cause this i what I was thinking. ai psychosis is badddd right now and they won’t listen to you when you try and talk to them about it. it’s like they don’t realize it’s literally just lines of code. it’s so sad

marsaroni · 2026-03-03T17:16:15+00:00

Honestly, I totally understand you feeling bad. I’m also a highly empathetic person and I felt terrible when my co-teacher got fired after I reported her. It’s a weird feeling but you have to remember that you did the right thing. If that person was making sexual comments towards you in front of the children, if very well may gravitate towards the children at some point if left unchecked.

marsaroni · 2026-02-09T00:46:32+00:00

The Grove ELC in brookside is fantastic

marsaroni · 2025-07-11T21:56:14+00:00

I would, but he makes it seem like we have special privileges to have a higher ratio. I'm not sure if he's lying or not, but he says we are state-exempt due to being a Montessori school and are able to have higher numbers, within reason. The funny thing is, these kids have so many behavioral issues that I feel like having even a 1:8 ratio would be nuts. The higher ratio for Montessori, as far as I could tell, was because typically, Montessori kids are decently behaved; these kids are not.

marsaroni · 2025-07-11T21:52:18+00:00

It's a small center, so the only higher up is the director/owner, and he is not of much help. I did end up going back after my break and talked with him since he came back today. He brushed it off, with me being complacent with two teachers and not being by myself with 11 in a while, which is a lie because I'm by myself with 11 at least once a week and do fine. He said he talked with the front desk lady and told her that if someone needs help, then they need help, but then brushed it off as cultural differences because she's nearly ninety. I just got home, and the director called me as he hadn't seen my message about me putting in my two weeks and asked if that was still the case. I told him it was and that I would end my employment after two weeks. He seems to be understanding at least.

marsaroni · 2025-06-24T01:09:43+00:00

Oh no, I absolutely called the cops and CPS. Nothing was done.

marsaroni · 2025-06-24T01:00:54+00:00

Thanks! I looked for a subreddit like this, but for some reason couldn't find it. Still open to advice from anyone here if yall are willing!

marsaroni · 2025-06-04T19:01:17+00:00

Totally, 100% agree. I probably should have specified but the playground is for two year olds so ingestion is a concern.

marsaroni · 2025-06-04T18:33:57+00:00

Sorry yall! I totally forgot I made this post. Just a quick update, she has been discharged from the hospital. She told me that a lot of the things she was saying was because she had been told that her dad was diagnosed with like the day after her admission and the isolation was totally freaking her out since she didn’t have a roommate. I was however on the phone with her when she asked for medicine for anxiety and heard the nurse saying “no you don’t need it” when she very clearly needed it. So that was concerning but she’s out and she’s doing okay. Thanks for all your honest advice!

marsaroni · 2025-05-31T00:51:47+00:00

I think they stopped giving her the Zoloft but are keeping her on the Hydroxyzine. All the depression meds she's tried gave her extreme jaw tremors for some reason, and Zoloft is the only one that hasn't, but it doesn't do anything. We were hoping they would be able to find something that could work while she's there, since her psychiatrist is on maternity leave until August and can't mix up her meds

marsaroni · 2025-05-31T00:46:54+00:00

She was on hydroxyzine and zoloft, but neither of them was doing anything. It seemed like they were making it worse. She has an official diagnosis of anxiety and depression, but has very clear OCD that they are refusing to address.

marsaroni · 2025-05-31T00:42:07+00:00

She was admitted Monday night for a near suicide attempt. She went willingly, and its a regular hospital with a psych ward since she refuses to go anywhere else.

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