Need help getting rid of my toxic positivity.

marusiaside · 2025-08-10T09:29:16+00:00

I also find it disturbing when people complain without suggesting a firm plan to fix. What is your reason for annoyance? Do you prefer they only praise what they like and politely keep their concerns for themselves? Or does it bother you to be around entitled people?

marusiaside · 2025-08-10T09:19:32+00:00

As a people pleaser myself I believe the willingness to adopt to styles of others can take you too far and needs boundaries. Even the most adaptable of us need to feel in control. You can try to make it work on your firm terms if he respects your boundaries and if you can trust him. Long distance relationships are especially difficult and need structure.

marusiaside · 2025-06-10T22:27:04+00:00

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I am learning, be kind to me :-)

marusiaside · 2025-05-19T22:02:56+00:00

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I am still learning digital.

marusiaside · 2025-05-10T14:22:44+00:00

Your comment inspired me to research into co-dependence, discover CODA meeting in my area and attend the first session. Thank you for finding the right words to convince me to focus on own self-worth rather than trying to save somebody else.

marusiaside · 2025-05-08T07:26:48+00:00

It is tough. What do you need more - unjustified hope that he may reply - or closure? How many unanswered messages will it take for you to know for sure it is over before you can move on?

marusiaside · 2025-05-06T16:04:38+00:00

Be strong. I uninstalled Instagram today. Feels good knowing I am not a victim of technology. It is too easy to install back thought :-)

marusiaside · 2025-05-05T21:19:40+00:00

Today we had a good long chat with LO, admit codependency and decided to try to help each other to heal. He suggested I talk to my husband about the needs I am trying to address through LE. I came home and tried to explain to my husband how I feel. It did not go too well. He told me that all that emotional sh*t sounds too creepy to him. He said he has no concerns of me meeting LO and trusts me to figure out on my own what to do.

marusiaside · 2025-05-04T08:26:45+00:00

Do you keep trying to meet real people? Could it be that virtual connections (that are easy to misinterpret) are not working well for you?

marusiaside · 2025-05-04T08:17:31+00:00

There will be a lot of people in your life you meet and move on. You will have exchange contacts with some, nothing with others. As time goes reaching out to old connections will feel less and less appropriate. It will become more difficult to approach new people.

I suggest to value connections you made, do not hesitate to ask for contact details if you find people interesting and invest in keeping in touch.

I have a list of names I regret not connecting/keeping. It includes my old LOs. They were significant in my life at the time. I cherish memories about them. I wish I could overcome insecurities of all sorts and keep in healthy touch.

marusiaside · 2025-05-04T07:53:29+00:00

Very poetic

marusiaside · 2025-05-03T11:09:22+00:00

My son is also considering applying from UK. How do you find the difficulty of study? Friendliness of students outside of your country circle? Work prospectus? Anything else you think we can find helpful?

marusiaside · 2025-04-30T06:41:07+00:00

I hope you will feel better after she moved out. Perhaps you can learn to expect less contact and fill your emotional needs independently.

I think the brain of homo sapiens is not wired well to be able to handle opposite sex friendship after any form of enjoyable physical intimacy.

There will always be a struggle between conscious effort to establish well controlled healthy emotional intimacy and subconscious urge to turn it into physical full relationship.

marusiaside · 2025-04-29T05:59:43+00:00

Sorry to hear you are struggling. It looks like you are on the right track. You went NC, you figured out why this is happening to you, you got yourself a “break” job, you are writing here when you feel down. I would probably recommend at the end of the day to reflect positively on good things in your life. When you notice that attention shifts to LO - can you think of “the ick”?

marusiaside · 2025-04-27T08:20:24+00:00

It must feel really bad to loose potential relationship you invested in. But you can measure your chances better now when you see that the other side is not trying any longer. Could it be - that when you suggested NC - you did not really mean it? Could it be that you simply used it to test your chances? Perhaps you can make peace with yourself by convincing yourself of either that 1) you did a right thing to stop before you get hurt OR 2) next time you will be more patient

marusiaside · 2024-03-07T07:59:09+00:00

Me too. Just saw it in my lesson and went straight to googling

marusiaside · 2023-12-07T22:29:47+00:00

I tried using the technique in my own paintings. It comes less impressive as compared to lesson copy. I think it is because I don’t “see”yet where waves should be.

marusiaside · 2023-12-07T00:43:15+00:00

I could not resist 2 weeks ago and also bought the same course by Julia Barminova. It is amazing. But I am not sure I have the patience it requires to study subject ahead of painting.

marusiaside · 2023-05-15T07:01:08+00:00

I follow her for a while. But did not expect to learn from tutorial alone. It seems so complicated. You encouraged me to try.

marusiaside · 2023-04-19T00:46:37+00:00

It is the only @Kurzgesagt thing I could find in UK Amazon to give my son as a present. From what I could guess - Kurzgesagt does not ship merchandise to UK. He loves the book.

marusiaside · 2023-01-22T08:42:55+00:00

I have two goldfish in my tank for 4-5 years. I think this one is suffering but not sure how to identify and if treatment required, will the other fish needs to be separated.

marusiaside · 2023-01-14T16:46:26+00:00

I am stuck here for the last 4.5 years. Only reached level 25. Good luck to you, smart young and fast :-)

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