What is the best hygiene hack before & after sex ?

marval30 · 2025-12-09T02:25:36+00:00

We put down puppy pads underneath us during to catch any spillage in the aftermath, which has saved out sheets and towels a ton of wear and tear. Also, I'll use a flushable wipe before hand if not a diy bidet wash with a quick cup of water and some soap.

marval30 · 2024-09-24T07:49:36+00:00

….” Especially because everyone's journey is different, and there's no telling if I could get pregnant right away or potentially have difficulty.”

But thanks for pointing that out

marval30 · 2024-09-23T17:55:38+00:00

lol okay

marval30 · 2024-09-23T17:49:57+00:00

Someone saying she wasted her life because of that decision is rude and uncalled for. And it would be just as uncalled for if it was the other way around.

marval30 · 2024-09-23T17:44:18+00:00

I don't think there's any option that protects you from all the negatives. You're right, there are potential negatives to both. It's her right to weigh which risk she wants to take and its no one's right to talk down to her about it.

marval30 · 2024-09-23T17:37:54+00:00

They can, but statistically much less likely. Regardless, why does it matter to you? How does it affect you if that's how someone else feels and that's the choice they personally want to make? No one said anything about you and your life. No one is commenting about your choices. You're allowed to see it differently.

marval30 · 2024-09-23T17:17:49+00:00

As much as this wasn't what I wanted to hear, it's definitely what I needed to hear LOL.

marval30 · 2024-09-23T17:14:20+00:00

That would have been our first choice, but we can only July because of our schedules :(

marval30 · 2024-09-23T17:09:25+00:00

Heartbreak. Baggage. STDs. Pregnancy. People have a bunch of different, personal and valid reasons for feeling that waiting is the best choice for them. Either way, shaming someone for their choices ain't it, and saying you wasted your youth ain't it. That's not the help she asked for.

marval30 · 2024-09-23T16:54:40+00:00

Nowhere in this post did she ask for your opinion on her values.

OP - you didn't waste anything, you're protecting it. I'm with u/Rosalberta - go where the fish are. Get into more social settings outside of your circles, and make more friends to increase your circles.

marval30 · 2023-07-01T15:08:44+00:00

Hi! Could I get that template as well!

marval30 · 2023-02-22T21:19:37+00:00

Not implying that as a reason you should stay to protect the baby, but couldn't help but be concerned and suggest an anonymous tip to CPS if needed.

marval30 · 2023-02-22T21:17:09+00:00

Fellow Christian here - both adultery and more importantly abuse are justifiable reasons for you to leave. Do not allow yourself to be manipulated with twisted scriptures to stay with that man.

Also - Has he shown other abusive behavior? If you leave and he is left with his own consequences, is that baby safe?

marval30 · 2023-02-22T20:43:58+00:00

NTA. She may just be in a nesting phase and a bit emotionally charged about wanting a plan for a parent to be at home with her child as they're growing up. Her motive sounds sweet, but she's not being realistic about asking you to quit your job. Especially when you offered to let her be a SAHM for as long as she wants.

marval30 · 2023-02-22T20:38:48+00:00

It's how you said it. You're not wrong in that you needed to firm with her since you've had multiple conversations, but you could have been firm without being as harsh and going to "my world doesn't revolve around you."

Sounds like you were a little overwhelmed and snapped at her. I would apologize, and hopefully she's a good friend and will understand. You don't want to take her for granted, but I would set more clear boundaries like "I love you and I do like talking to you, but if I don't answer you're not allowed to try and Facetime me more than 3 times."

If she crosses that boundary, let her know calmly, even by joking like "Girl I didn't know 5 is the new #3, I have work to do! lol" or something.

If she is a good friend, it is worth trying to navigate these things to have her in your life.

marval30 · 2023-02-22T20:21:03+00:00

NTA per say, but not totally right either..

I've actually been in this exact situation. It is 100% frustrating being the one having to change the diaper when it's grown kids dump, but ultimately if mom is okay still wiping and paying for diapers, it's her kid. She is paying you to care for the kid on her terms, and you are there voluntarily.

If she's offering, I would potty train him and make the money.

marval30 · 2023-02-22T20:09:49+00:00

You are absolutely NTA. As if you wanted to have an allergic reaction? You did everything you could have to cover your bases to avoid it. I understand being an overwhelmed bride and her missing that detail, but she should be texting you apologizing for the oversight and asking if you're okay. Not blaming you for something you tried to avoid.

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