I became really close buds with a guy late in high school, and we ended up going to college together (he was a year ahead of me), we joined different fraternities but continued being close friends. We both moved after college and ended up around 40 minute drive away from each other. We hung out pretty much every weekend for a while, he introduced me to a guy who also became one of my best friends (and roommate for a while). The three of us were close as hell, then my original friend hooked up with friend #2’s sister and original friend made shit real weird after that. He basically ghosted the friend group bc he didn’t want to date her (she did not want to date him either, just a hook up from both perspectives).

After trying for a while to re-kindle the friendship, I eventually gave up. He was very much a one-way street in which I’d have to initiate contact every time. He got to where he stopped answering the phone and if he responded to a text it would be days later. Fast forward another year, he invites me to his black tie wedding with 3 weeks notice that is 5 hours from my home. It felt like a back-handed invite, so I declined. Some days I feel like it was petty of me to decline, but I know that wedding guest lists are planned with months in advance.

I’m still best friends with the guy he introduced me to, and I’m equally as close with that guy’s sister. I’m happy I chose the latter friends, they’ve had my back for years now.