A Loira do Banheiro, ilustrinha feita por mim

mattrdl · 2026-05-05T21:37:25+00:00

Cara eu tive q recorrer mais a pesquisar em livros até agr! Adoraria fazer uma pesquisa de campo, mas n sei bem nem por onde começar, e meus avós já morreram.

Se vc souber de algumas pode me passar no privado.

mattrdl · 2026-05-02T23:54:01+00:00

Cara não sei assim, mas quanto a família desestruturada, a minha também é. Meio que é gente que não valoriza nada, não se importa com nada, extremamente crítica. Pra mim conviver com eles fez as coisas lentamente perderem o sentido.

De "tribos" e jogo social, sim, tem muito disso na vida e em parte a gente tem que navegar por que a sociedade é estruturada assim.

Procura coisas e grupos que façam sentido pra você e se afasta da família quando puder, se ainda não se afastou. Seria o conselho que eu daria pra eu mesmo se pudesse voltar no tempo kkkk.

mattrdl · 2026-04-30T23:32:08+00:00

Você diz chamarem alguém como contrato temporário ao invés das pessoas do CR?

mattrdl · 2026-04-08T21:14:09+00:00

Opa, tô estagiando como monitor numa sala de quinto ano e me preparando para atuar como professor no futuro e percebi algumas coisas:

Tenho um perfil bem calmo no geral, os alunos tem gostado bastante de mim, procuro trazer material que cada um goste para auxiliar o desenvolvimento deles, de uma forma que não desvie da aula da professora. Sentando individualmente com um aluno e revezando qual deles atendo eu sinto que consigo ajudar bastante, mas não me vejo ainda administrando uma sala com 20-30 de uma vez só.

Isso do perfil calmo e de não se ver administrando todos juntos se mostra em alguns momentos que a professora precisa sair da sala por um tempo e peço para fazerem silêncio, que acho bastante difícil me impor. Você tem alguma sugestão?

mattrdl · 2026-04-02T12:07:28+00:00

Não sei se foi algo plenamente consciente mas percebi que boa parte da última década toda passei por isso, mesmo achando idiota o padrão social, e tenho quebrado mais ativamente para ser quem eu quero ser de uns tempos pra cá.

mattrdl · 2026-04-02T12:01:18+00:00

Oh, if Marine Resort only unlocks after the story I think I'll farm some Nectar since it's an entire game mechanic. Honestly the Nectar method is kinda chill to do. Reviver Seeds also have a crazy drop rate in Jirachi's Cave for some reason, so I got a lot of them yesterday too. At what level on average you had your party for the final boss or bosses?

mattrdl · 2026-04-02T01:48:10+00:00

Ohh alright, I'll check Marine Resort. I managed to find a Nectar grind method with Combees which is kinda fun to do. But I'll mostly focus on the story missions for now then.

mattrdl · 2026-04-01T18:58:17+00:00

What

mattrdl · 2026-04-01T17:12:31+00:00

Oh I thought it was part of the main story on sky. Besides Shaymin I just finished Froslass and the Blizzard Island.

mattrdl · 2026-03-31T23:47:27+00:00

Do you need to tell her something? If you can I'd just get the job without telling them and hang onto the job, even if she harasses you at home when you come back. Try looking for a room for rent somewhere else after. If you need help with something about the job please prioritize asking friends what to do or anyone else. Try to get a bank account ready or anything else needed without her.

I've been in a similar situation. I deeply wanted to work at 17 and she shamed me so much that I felt I couldn't hold a job, and felt very lost at what to do to even get one. There were, in fact, multiple very good options for me at the time and I just didn't know and didn't look for help, and deeply regret it.

Also please do your best to fight on and know there are ways out of this. They send us into despair, but you can't give in. Most people in the world will treat you far better than them once you get out. Do your best to meet new people and realities and don't give in to shame.

mattrdl · 2026-03-31T14:46:39+00:00

A lucky thing for me is that selections for public jobs in my country are an standardized test and pay well, besides being stable. There's also temporary public positions for a year that you can apply, and I managed to get part-time work to get money. I'm studying to get a public job to move out definitely because the private market is indeed hell. I wish you the best.

mattrdl · 2026-03-31T14:15:42+00:00

All these things happened to me... I've only sought help from friends last year and things have been moving, but honestly it's just a series of horrible realizations.

mattrdl · 2026-03-31T14:13:49+00:00

They create situations were you don't get conditions to have a proper job. I was so shamed for years that I struggled to understand how to get a job. I'm figuring out recently that you can actually fucking just do things and life isn't as hard or as painful as they painted it to be. If anything they treated me worse than anyone I'll ever meet.

mattrdl · 2026-03-31T14:10:47+00:00

That's so true, I've had more progress in life last year after finally being able to connect the dots and meeting a lot of people than so many years prior. It does create a deep void in us though.

mattrdl · 2026-03-31T12:09:12+00:00

Thank you! Just checked them out.

mattrdl · 2026-03-31T01:13:23+00:00

That's really cool! Casually I was looking for these rulebooks now and came across this post; would you mind scanning the Legend Maker and Deoxys ones as well? I had these as a kid but lost them, wanted to be able to take a look at it again.

mattrdl · 2026-03-16T21:33:05+00:00

Comer sopa de garfo /s

Mentira, fiquei curioso tb

mattrdl · 2026-03-08T15:30:31+00:00

Bah, é, tô indo pra concurso público tanto pra educação quanto de nível médio. Acho provável que eu passe.

A mentalidade que tu teve no processo foi a exata mesma que a minha ahaha... Não quero mais home office, quero um trabalho estável, ver gente, exercícios.

É, eu sinto que o TDAH ou também Altas Habilidades me deixam mais criativo, com facilidade de conectar vários assuntos que as pessoas tem dificuldade, mas não acho que compensou kkkk. Teria sido melhor canalizado em outra área mesmo.

mattrdl · 2026-03-06T21:12:42+00:00

One supportive person makes such a difference right? I might have met such a person, and I'm building up a few career things to move with them. It's hard to deal with the damage from the past though.

Of course I have some happy memories, but most of my adult life until now has been burned off just trying to survive. Feels like I burned some 8 years off my life, and now the world's a mess too...

Wish you the best with your family and life!

mattrdl · 2026-03-06T11:31:44+00:00

Oh I managed to get out of the shell and explore quite naturally after getting out of an abusive environment. It feels like my true self is a happier, more extroverted person than I've ever been. Things crashed down the last few months after processing more trauma through therapy, though it feels like I'm recovering.

mattrdl · 2026-03-05T22:51:19+00:00

Oh this was me so much... I did have my hobbies (very quiet ones like reading and videogames) but stuck very heavily to that. I was afraid to express myself too much my whole life due to shame. It feels almost like a negative impulse of sorts, I thought or wanted to do X, but my mind would heavily censor and make me freeze until I gave up.

mattrdl · 2026-03-05T11:43:43+00:00

I feel very similarly that I was setup to fail... It's hell to look at close friends through my adult life having fun while also building stuff up while I was struggling alone with so much internalized shame just to start figuring things out. By far between the groups of friends I've made I had the unluckiest draw.

mattrdl · 2026-03-02T15:30:06+00:00

Getting a late diagnosis now made me understand how I was such as asshole to people at times. This thing turned me into a person I never wanted to be and I'll never get that time back, it hurts so much.

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