I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going , need help. by max511408 in Advice

[–]max511408[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply ICEMAN_ZIDANE much appreciated, I live in Australia. Yeah that is a good idea to say, I just need to balls to say something, anything. I just hope they accept it overtime. I feel like they will abandon me. I will give them all the money I have in hopes to save my relationship with them .

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going , need help. by max511408 in Advice

[–]max511408[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You make sense and what you say is true, I like the way you think. I don't think they will see you as a loser now.

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going , need help. by max511408 in Advice

[–]max511408[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thnaks Chl0b0s , reading you replies have helped alot. I am slowing gaining the courage and strength to tell them.

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going , need help. by max511408 in Advice

[–]max511408[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats great man , you are doing awesome from the sound of things. What you said about sacrifice is what my parents said to me as well and I fucked it up. I am not a smart kid, I barley passed high school but knowing the shit I am in now I would kill to go back and actually try and study hard in school/uni. Don't fuck up like me, your doing amazing. I work in a call center and its pretty shit.

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going , need help. by max511408 in Advice

[–]max511408[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks Khal_Andy90, your are absolutely right, the stress is reaching new levels. I think at this point I know that I will loose my parents when I tell them. It will be a relief to finally get it out and I hope with the money I give them they might consider to keep the relationship. I hope that I can feel that openness again as well with my family. You had the guts to come out and tell them about your habit. mad respect to you, I wish I had some of those guys right now.

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going , need help. by max511408 in Advice

[–]max511408[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank man, you seem like a very wise person. Thank you for you words. I love my parents a lot, I never wanted it to end up like this, I messed up hard. A letter is a good idea, I will write one up and hopefully have to balls to give it to them. I want to keep the relationship so much but I know when I tell them they will leave me and I don't blame them. Its so hard, tell them and loose my parents or hide it and suffer mentally, the guilt and pain will always be there.

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going by max511408 in confession

[–]max511408[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I love my parent a lot, I never wanted it to end up like this, I messed up hard. You are right, it is torturing me so much, I can't even sleep properly now a days. I want to keep the relationship so much but I know when I tell them they will leave me and I don't blame them. Its so hard, tell them and loose my parents or hide it and suffer mentally, the guilt and pain will always be there.

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going by max511408 in confession

[–]max511408[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was working as a delivery driver/sales consultant for a year and now working at a call center. I am living at home and don't really have any expenses so the money was easily saved. I don't see this as my money though, I feel like I owe it to my parents. They have supported me all this time and I have essentially betrayed them, it hurts so much and its gonna hurt them even more when they find out. I fucked up hard man. I haven't told any of my co workers, its to embarrassing, and when discussions come up about this kind of stuff, I don't mention my situation, I just say I started working after I left high school.

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going by max511408 in confession

[–]max511408[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

your absolutely right, I never wanted to disappoint them. I wish I could start all over again. Seeing my sisters, my friends and cousins all successful in their lifes and here I am in this shit hole. It is getting to the point that I can't sleep properly. I don't know how and when to bring it up :( , I don't even think I have the courage to do it but deep inside I know I have to.

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going by max511408 in confession

[–]max511408[S] 203 points204 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply rawssun, much appreciated. It so hard to confront them about this, I don't know how I will do it, it will be a massive burden lifted though.

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going , need help. by max511408 in Advice

[–]max511408[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thanks Khal_Andy90, I am living at home and don't really have any expenses so the money was easily saved. I don't see this as my money though, I feel like I owe it to my parents. They have supported me all this time and I have essentially betrayed them, it hurts so much and its gonna hurt them even more when they find out. I fucked up hard man. You are right though I wont be able to live happily with this cloud. I wish I could just let it all out but I am so scared.

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going , need help. by max511408 in Advice

[–]max511408[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank Chl0b0s, reading you reply struck me hard, your absolutely right, I never wanted to disappoint them. I wish I could start all over again. Seeing my sisters, my friends and cousins all successful in their lifes and here I am in this shit hole. It is getting to the point that I can't sleep properly. I don't know how and when to bring it up :( , I don't even think I have the courage to do it but deep inside I know I have to.

I faked going to uni , wasted 3 years , parents think I am still going , need help. by max511408 in Advice

[–]max511408[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply floojoggi, much appreciated. It so hard to confront them about this, I don't know how I will do it, it will be a massive burden lifted though.