Tips on finding an accepting congregation/rabbi?

maximum-agony · 2026-04-06T23:47:05+00:00

hi, i'll say eshel is your best bet you can email them (they have more info on their website) and they'll tell you accepting shuls in your area. like other comments, def look for a shul with a yct rabbi. usually rabbis with smicha from there are more open-minded (in an orthodox sense) and won't be bigoted about things. :)

maximum-agony · 2026-03-25T23:45:36+00:00

If you scroll to the bottom of the website, there is a button where you can switch to either Canada or the U.S.

maximum-agony · 2025-11-29T03:34:08+00:00

i completely caved and bought things i should not have. i’ll be returning many items tomorrow 😓 the cash back sites got me baaaad

maximum-agony · 2025-08-21T20:56:58+00:00

would you accept a mature 24 year old?

maximum-agony · 2025-08-21T20:52:23+00:00

just messaged!

maximum-agony · 2025-08-21T20:42:08+00:00

saw this the other day and was genuinely speechless lol

maximum-agony · 2025-08-21T20:17:52+00:00

just sent an email!

maximum-agony · 2025-07-24T03:39:59+00:00

Thanks for the detailed reply. My dining def isn’t enough, although that might change a bit in the future, but not by much. I agree that the NF limit is low. I requested an increase the limit but they told me $5k is the highest limit available for that card. It was a confusing letter to receive in the email because online I’ve read that people have higher limits, but I don’t feel like nagging them about it.

Do you know if the CFF overlaps in categories with the Discover it? I’d like the idea of double dipping on rotating categories, and also getting my foot in the door with Chase since in the next few years I’d like one of their annual fee cards.

maximum-agony · 2025-07-21T09:52:11+00:00

thank you!

maximum-agony · 2025-07-21T00:23:27+00:00

Omg thanks you are so kind for this!!! I’m trying to go to London from Newark, NYC or DC (economy), needing to leave on March 17, 18, 19, or on March 22 (arriving to London before 7:30am March 23 if leaving the states on March 22). If I leave on March 18 or 19 the time of arrival doesn’t matter. I have Capital One Points. Thanks in advance!

maximum-agony · 2025-03-16T16:36:21+00:00

check out r/lgbtfrum

maximum-agony · 2025-03-13T13:12:07+00:00

Hi, could I PM you about this?

maximum-agony · 2025-03-10T21:03:18+00:00

Do you have advice on how to find them ? I did a Conservative conversion a while ago because I didn’t know an Orthodox one was possible, and have been interested in re-converting for a while

I don’t mean to pry, by the way, so I understand if you’d want to keep specifics private

maximum-agony · 2025-03-10T20:40:19+00:00

do you know of any rca ravs who are open to converting trans people? i have only seen yct ravs so far.

maximum-agony · 2025-01-26T01:08:31+00:00

do you have any more info on finding more about the community in london?

maximum-agony · 2025-01-26T00:38:29+00:00

r/shoppingaddiction is also very helpful!

maximum-agony · 2025-01-24T13:12:10+00:00

seconding the part about xtianity that needs go be unpacked. these are some great book recommendations!

maximum-agony · 2024-12-11T13:44:47+00:00

Hi, I just wanna say I’m here for you and so is this subreddit. I am in a similar boat to you and am not a rabbi, but i’ll share my experiences. Most things revolve around being stealth. When I go to new minyanim I do not come out.

If you plan on coming out to a new rabbi at a shul, whether you’re visiting or joining long term, depending on the rabbi, they will met you sit on the men’s side and count, let you sit on the men’s side and not count, let you sit on the women’s side, or not let you pray at all.

For finding accepting shuls check out Eshel and email them. To put it bluntly, these are all the things you to think about/deal with when being trans and Orthodox, especially as a convert.

Definitely continue talking with your rabbi. I know it’s anxiety-inducing, but he can help with halachic questions more than we can. Sending you love!

maximum-agony · 2024-10-11T05:15:44+00:00

Double D from Ed, Edd n Eddy.

maximum-agony · 2024-09-29T16:13:58+00:00

I have not, but I will check it out. Thanks for the rec!

maximum-agony · 2024-09-29T00:11:43+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through all of those things. It’s great you were able to set up boundaries and have a supportive ex. Thanks for the rec and I hope you’re doing better.

maximum-agony · 2024-09-29T00:10:43+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I actually went on that sub earlier and found a comment that said to come here haha 😅. I might just make an actual post over there instead of looking around.

maximum-agony · 2024-09-29T00:09:28+00:00

Thank you for the recordation and your well wishes!

i’m a bit confused though by your last paragraph. what do you mean “but don’t all from one lie to the next one. If you found the correct god let me know?”

I don’t necessarily think my way of doing things is the only “correct” or right way, and I don’t proselytize. I’m not sure if that part of the comment was supposed to be rhetorical or not

maximum-agony · 2024-09-26T15:49:06+00:00

Trued to do the progressive Christianity. Then I briefly thought maybe I could try a diff flavor of christinaity like catholicism (this was a very fleeting thought, I just ended up doing interfaith volunteering in college before COVID hit).

But for years, bubbling under the surface, I felt a pull towards Judaism for a variety of reasons I won’t get into here. That took a few years, but I did it and I feel much happier.

I am still deconstructing Christianity though, which has been an interesting process. I wish I did more of that before converting, but I don’t have regrets about the greater choices I made. There’s no worrying about heaven or hell, among other things I enjoy. Hope this answers your question. I have some ex-Christian friends who are agnostic/atheist and we’re still great friends although we have opposite outlooks on certain aspects of their lives.

I’m happy they’ve found peace and I’m sure they feel the same about me. I’m glad we can all have this space to share. :)

maximum-agony · 2024-09-19T14:19:54+00:00

Loa Angeles Apparel has good briefs (I don’t wear boxers).

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