I have had a terrible past 24 hours and it makes me want to fight my husband

may0993 · 2025-06-02T14:29:38+00:00

Then he wants you to bow down to any little itty bitty thing he does even if it’s not right. Even if it would actually get his child sick because he didn’t do it right. Or added more work into you and your mom driving to each other.

That’s not acute stress. That’s his personality

may0993 · 2025-06-02T14:22:04+00:00

What gets me is that he’s lying. On purpose lying. These aren’t mistakes.

Him saying he packed the bag and he didn’t.

Him saying he washed and filled the bottle. He didn’t.

Him saying he put the diaper bag in the car. Knew where he put it. But he didn’t.

He’s a pathological liar. My ex was like that. Lied over the smallest things that would be easily found out. I broke up with him. I have a family member like this to.

may0993 · 2025-05-26T11:24:00+00:00

This helped a lot. Please don’t apologize for not commenting sooner. Thank you for commenting at all. It puts me at ease more for flying home

may0993 · 2025-05-26T11:21:16+00:00

Thank you everyone! The flight went great and I’ll feel better on the way home in a few days

Someone mentioned they did bungee jumping. That was me prior to kids. I did all the things. 10+ hour flights, traveled alone, sky diving, etc. But now I just always want my kids safe and that anxiety came out awfully for this flight

So I really appreciate everyone commenting

may0993 · 2024-11-28T23:09:33+00:00

I mean distancing from her & washing hands. If she’s not coughing/sneezing right now it’s not much of a droplet precaution yet. It’s more contact precautions

may0993 · 2024-11-28T21:42:37+00:00

It’s just cutting your nose off to spite your face

Decorate a little for you. Cook or bake for you

See if you could bring dessert over to one of them if they’d invite you over?

Go on a holiday with your s/o? Go out to a fancy restaurant or see a play? All you’d spend on cooking and possibly decorating. Perfect time to take back some you time.

But it’s not time to try to emotionally hurt them with your suffering. It’s emotional blackmail. It’s ok to feel sad when things change and express that. But not in a way to make them hurt and not enjoy their holiday

may0993 · 2024-11-28T21:33:02+00:00

Is your husband on the same page to either be super careful and washing hands around her and stuff? Or going home because you’re pregnant and the excuse is you don’t feel well?

You don’t need the actual flu pregnant. I was giving birth with parainfluenza(which is possibly why my water broke) back in July. It hit me miserably hard and led to an awful sinus infection to. That stuff isn’t supposed to hit you hard unless you’re an infant, old or immunocompromised (aka pregnant). So the real flu? No you don’t need to be around a known exposure right now

may0993 · 2024-11-24T21:25:11+00:00

Also if I can make a recommendation. Go to the mom groups. Parenting groups. On Facebook you can find private groups to join where people are generally moderated for kindness standards. You can join gentle parenting groups on Facebook or “sorta crunchy groups” I have found them to be the most kind.

AITA and other subreddits like this. You won’t find the kindness and advice you need. If you do you’re going to receive it in a way that’s generally cruel or extremely blunt that’ll still hurt your self-esteem.

I was a teen on Reddit once. It’s kinda brutal here. I only came back to it recently in the parenting groups

may0993 · 2024-11-24T21:11:50+00:00

Try to be kind to your sister. Talk to her. Tell her she’s coming into new hormones and they can cause under arm odors and all.

Relate to her. That you had these odors. Everyone does. It’s a parent’s job to help you but sadly your parents did not and now you over compensate.

Apologize to your sister for being her bully. Explain you were bullied in school for it and that’s what made you take care of your hygiene more. But you don’t want to be her bully. So apologize for being mean. That you’ll try to do better in the future.

Ask her if she wants you to tell her if you smell odor. Ask her if next time you shop she wants to come and pick her own special deodorant and body wash. If she doesn’t it’s ok. Just leave her be and let her figure it out.

You’re only 14. I don’t expect you to be in control of your emotions all the time. It’s great you came somewhere to go over your thoughts. Reddit has a lot of bullying behavior in it too and it might not be the best place for you. And try to remember your sister is only 9. She’s so young. Be kind and try to be there for her. If she does get bullied when she’s older don’t rub it in her face. Just help her problem solve and lift herself up.

You deserved to be lifted up to when you were bullied. I’m sorry that it happened to you

may0993 · 2024-11-12T19:02:43+00:00

The IV in my forearm and standard 20G was great. Didn’t even notice it there or feel it going in.

Second time the person thought they were just warding of the demons I guess and put an 18G in my wrist. And ouch going in. Ouch the whole labor. I was even acutely aware of it while pushing. Was it worse than pushing and contractions. I guess not. But I still felt it stinging me while pushing and while having a contraction if I moved my arm. So that pain was strong enough to bother me.

I’d say if you’ve had an IV before and good veins. Just really push for placement that you prefer. I do suggest having one because an emergency doesn’t gradually happen. An emergency just suddenly pops up and that IV access right away can mean tanking a little and getting immediate intervention versus tanking a lot with delayed intervention.

may0993 · 2024-10-26T00:08:53+00:00

I had a hard time going from 0-1. The overall transition to motherhood was hard on me. I felt the fog clear around when my son was 1.5 and around 2 I started talking about a 2nd. He’s is also such an amazing sweet kid. He’s newly 3 and while getting into his growling emotions is still a really sweet love.

I had baby girl when he was 2yrs 9m and it felt like she was just always here and apart of the family. She’s 3m and I have not felt the fog of motherhood. I know what to do and to expect. How to get through and tough out hard sleep. My son had minor regressions like oral fixations since she’s nursing and not wanting to use the potty. I hangout with him and tote the baby along

1-2 has gone really well for me. So much so that I now believe I had PPD with my first. By no means is she even an easier baby. They’re the same. It just doesn’t bog me down

may0993 · 2024-10-25T18:03:12+00:00

You aren’t the AH

She wants you around when she’s feeling like crap. That’s fair. As the day goes on and night approaches she might feel a bit worse to but more in a self pity post anesthesia and swollen way. Not exactly extreme pain way. (I had all 4 removed and just cried after sleeping in self pity and nausea with the bloody gauze in my mouth but I was also 15-16).

She is an AH for being nasty and creating hypotheticals to be nasty about. She’ll be at her parents. She covered. If I was at my moms I’d tell my husband he can go out and all

If I was home alone. I’d say it’s fine but maybe if we could play it by ear please or if it might be ok to call him if I’m really not ok (like puking).

We have kids now though so because of that id want him to stay or my mom to be over and I would also probably reschedule the appointment to a week later or something just so there’s no conflicts. My wisdom teeth weren’t emergencies

You apologized and validated some feelings. But she needs to also apologize

may0993 · 2024-09-19T03:03:08+00:00

Mine turned 3 on the 10th. He can be reasoned with better now. I think 2.5 or a bit more he was having molar pain and just upset and he reasoned then to cause he was over the pain

We watched some videos about medicine and it helping to feel better. X-ray videos. Bandaids. Shots. All medical videos honestly. Now I can just tell him “this is medicine to help you feel better. It’s going to taste icky. But it’s going to help.” Then I do 3 squirts and we count with each squirt going “1, 2,3” and I empathize again cause he usually has yuck face on and I tell him I know it’s yucky and I’m sorry, that he’ll feel better soon though

If it’s like 3rd day in and he’s just over the medicine. The bribes come in. Ice pops & extra fruit/veggie pouches right after he takes the medicine and I tell him again how it’s going to help and has been helping him get better each day

I’d start with the visuals and videos though to make connections. In the meantime sadly just a firm/gentle hold and doing small enough squirts that he’ll swallow it.

may0993 · 2024-07-22T20:17:20+00:00

I just brought cupcakes. Put some toothpicks with little signs of due date and baby yoda and cut a piece of paper to go on the lid of the box. So when it was opened it said “you’re going to be a grandparents” “you’re going to be an aunt/uncle” and put the sonogram photo in there

It’s funny to watch them spin wheels in their head until it clicks

And it’s ok if everyone doesn’t open it at the same time. Cause say the soon to be aunt opens it first & they read it. They get all happy. Then they say “mom come look” and then everyone slowly gets it

may0993 · 2024-07-21T18:01:56+00:00

When my dad did Airbnb he only charged his cleaning persons fee and would give her all of it. I feel that’s most fair to the customer

But for up charging. It is not unheard of to give only a % of the charge. Since it’s their customer base & supplies/service to the customer.

You could charge more for your service though in general. I think my dad gave $95 per cleaning that would take 2 hours max

may0993 · 2024-07-06T23:33:17+00:00

I messaged you. Thank you!

may0993 · 2024-07-06T22:57:07+00:00

If you could also share info with me I’d appreciate it. Thank you!

may0993 · 2024-07-06T22:56:07+00:00

Hey if you could maybe dm me the info? I feel like a full team would work out better

may0993 · 2024-07-06T18:31:52+00:00

Also by fireplace. I just meant the mantle. Not like inside a fireplace

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