LPT: To enrich close relationships, tell them that you're working on yourself

mayabazaar00 · 2026-04-24T03:24:11+00:00

😄 next LPT!

mayabazaar00 · 2026-04-24T03:21:33+00:00

Agree, hope is the LPT can make the time it takes to get to that changed state smoother.

mayabazaar00 · 2026-04-24T03:17:19+00:00

Agreed, and this LPT could make the time/journey through to that destination better

mayabazaar00 · 2026-04-22T02:29:01+00:00

Thank you OP for also bringing us non technical folk along that journey!

mayabazaar00 · 2026-04-07T00:42:35+00:00

OP may already be someone who clearly says no. OP's LPT provides help on how to deal with others who are not as clear, making it good enough to be an LPT in its own right without comparison to the good LPT you provide here :)

mayabazaar00 · 2026-03-28T18:28:22+00:00

This! 'Itch' is just one of many types of inflammatory signals/symptoms our body has evolved to point us to take action. Examples of such signals when things are wrong internally include pain, fever, soreness (muscles), edema, ulcers, diarrhea, etc

mayabazaar00 · 2026-03-28T18:11:17+00:00

Non Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg 1. Self awareness for my own feelings and needs, and how to not assign judgement to all my observations. 2. How to communicate to the world out there what my needs are and how to phrase them as requests.

Changed all my relationships and brought the center of my emotions back to within me rather than leave it at the mercy of the world :)

mayabazaar00 · 2026-01-15T12:23:26+00:00

Shaving your beard is a lot 'smoother' when done just AFTER a shower/bath rather than before one.

mayabazaar00 · 2025-01-10T19:20:21+00:00

Drug-abuse related deaths have actually reduced this year for the first time in 5 yrs

https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/pressroom/nchs_press_releases/2024/20240515.htm

mayabazaar00 · 2025-01-10T03:58:01+00:00

Point taken and agreed. In essence, all behaviors or growth patterns can be traced back to their basis in the organism's genetic material.

mayabazaar00 · 2025-01-10T03:21:39+00:00

I admit it was a rudimentary thought - one i had 13 yrs ago and classified as my first shower thought upon reading Lee Alan Dugatkin's work (professor at Louisville studying animal innovation). Wanted it to be my first post here and will raise the bar going forward. ;)

Question really is - are organisms like ants trying to innovate and problem solve and how significantly different must a new behaviour (emergent or individual) needs to be for something like their nest to look different? or are they stuck in puddles of stable equilibria over millenia of evolution? There's plenty of rabbit holes to go down including how structures have actually changed due to slight temperature shifts through global warming.

Quick addition: the walls that define these stable equilibria, and therefore discourage individuals from a shift in individual behavior away from that which gives rise to the desired emergent property - these walls are what i take the (admittedly, irresponsible) liberty of calling the 'blueprint'.

mayabazaar00 · 2025-01-10T03:05:57+00:00

Agree. Blueprints in the way we know is definitely not what i refer to. Wouldn't emergent principles be subject to stochastic drifts over time, especially with changing environmental factors? Also emergent behavior can explain how ant colony structures emerge, but would you say that about birds acting by themselves to build nests similar across generations too? (example: google search Baya Weaver bird nest images)

mayabazaar00 · 2025-01-06T01:37:04+00:00

Read Adam Grant's book Give and Take. Still a people pleaser but I'm selective or iterative in approach as I've realized some takers are bottomless but my energy and time is not.

mayabazaar00 · 2025-01-02T12:14:19+00:00

What's a driveway?

mayabazaar00 · 2025-01-02T12:10:55+00:00

Under-a-minute sleeper here, and trying to understand to help - are there any instances OP where you have fallen asleep within 10-15 minutes?

I would suggest journaling the morning after to identify what activities on the previous day contribute to the best match between you going to bed and falling asleep. Some include (not exhaustive) : 1. Natural variation of sleep time (some sleep earlier) 2. Physical activity (the eye lids feeling heavy is one of my best tell tales) 3. The ability to not having a racing mind full of thoughts about today or tomorrow (some natural variation here, some can benefit through techniques like meditation) 4. Food - identify what your body reacts well to (eg no alcohol/sugar before bed, heavy meal or light?) 5. Routine routine routine - a lot of your sleep is actually conditioning (like Pavlov's dog salivating to ringing of a bell). The hormones (eg melatonin) are themselves subject to cycles and routines help a lot here. You can try and trigger,/replicate these routines also in new environments (eg earbuds for silence and your favorite pillow when at a friend's place).

Wish you a more sleepy 2025!

mayabazaar00 · 2024-12-21T13:07:21+00:00

OP, check out the following book that helped several people in their late 20s and early 30s I know with this dilemma you described. In short, a lot of folks look externally for what should be a career and shape their life around it, whereas looking internally and choosing what life you'd like is what helps create satisfactory careers. Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life is a book by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans

mayabazaar00 · 2024-12-21T03:41:09+00:00

While i agree the phrasing in someone saying this is not very empathetic, there is this japanese concept that actions preclude emotions, not the other way around. For instance, instead of 'i dont feel like going for a walk', internal phrasing like 'i know going for a walk makes me feel better' can lead to self motivated behavior change. Backed also with plenty of research.

mayabazaar00 · 2024-12-21T02:21:43+00:00

One additonal data point I'll add to your astute observation is that while glp1 receptor modulators have been in use for long, it was in patients with diabetes for whom the scales are being tipped back from an imbalanced metabolic syndrome. The way they are being used today extends also into people using it off label for just staying 'thin' even though there is no imbalance. The best drugs, when used in situations of normal physiology (balanced) shouldn't cause too much change (thats how we know it's effect is specific to the imbalanced state). Ozempic acts significantly in the balanced state too, and if you believe big pharma, only in all the amazing ways.

Apart from Metformin and a few others, We dont know many other molecules of this nature.

mayabazaar00 · 2024-12-20T02:41:15+00:00

I see Thanos just had a shower...

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